How long for the initial buzz to wear off?

I was frustrated from day one when I was locked up permanently. After 3-4 months my body was accepting and now after almost a year I would be very sad to have my true friend removed. I love my belt and I love beeing chastised. If I'm lucky it stays that way forever

 

This is one of those "how long is a piece of string" questions. The initial buzz can keep going literally for weeks or months, depending on how you're playing this out at home. If she's regularly teasing you, it could go on for a while.

That said, the longer you wear your device, the more accustomed you'll get, and eventually wearing a device will become normalized. It actually could take months, but what will happen is that you'll think about i t less and less often. At some point, maybe after two or three weeks without an orgasm, and possibly facing down another week or more, the frustration will kick in.

Or not. Maybe you'll be one of those people who can ride that wave, enjoying the denial, and just keep going on.

 

Couldn't have said it better myself. G'luck, dude.

 

I think frustration and regret can and should coexist with the novelty phase. I went through a honeymoon phase with chastity that lasted a little bit less than a full year from when we started. During that time it was all very new and exciting. Even during that time though I'd feel frustrated and want out. If anything I've grown more attached to denial itself with time and have less doubts.

 

I've been doing caged chastity for about 20 years, off and on. The early days, I'd get so hard at the thought of being locked, that I couldn't stuff myself into the CB200! This time around, we've been really serious about it for a little over 3 years now. I no longer get hard at the sight of my cage, or thought of my cage. I mostly get hard, in my cage, at the thought that I've accepted a chaste and denied life going forward, but I do have a denial fetish.

It largely depends on what you want from chastity, and how you do it. If it's short term, and to improve sex when unlocked, it's different from long term locking for instance. Being into predicament bondage, and being restrained, is different from wanting to quit masturbating, which is different from serving someone who wants you locked. There's a whole bunch of reasons we lock, and styles of locking, from vanilla to heavy BDSM, it all varies.

 

That's exactly how it started for us. My initial locks were measured in hours followed immediately by sex upon unlocking. Slowly lock times built and I began doing things for my wife. Massages, chores, making dinner. Slowly she came to expect those things and get cross with me if I didn't do them. I liked her asserting her will over me and the chastity morphed into an FLR. Now lock-up times are measured in months and I live to serve my Mistress. It can be a slippery slope.

 

totally agree!

 

The novelty depends a great deal on the amount of attention you receive while locked.

If you are locked and forgotten, it can get really old, really fast.

If you are teased and otherwise tormented, the novelty can hang in there a long time and be quite fun for both of you.

Have fun!

 

So they all say. At the beginning.

 

Every person and every couple is different. I've been locked more or less 24/7 for over 3 years now, and I still love it. I fully anticipate being locked in chastity as long as we are both still alive.

 

My own limited experience is that in my first lock up, 51 days, i didn't regret it at any point. The only reason it stopped was chafing and bleeding. In my second 40 odd days i felt silly and ignored, but no regrets.

Since then it's been small fry, 8 days, 17 days, 5 days and, currently, 12 days and counting. No teasing, no KH, just selfish secret indulgence. Perhaps that's part of the lack of regret.

Reading around suggests that you need an outside force monitoring the chastity and what you consider significant time to feel regret. So, you have one bit, it depends what you consider a significant amount of time.

All the best for your adventure and do keep us posted on the regret, i am keen to find out too!

 

We too have started this lifestyle of FLR and it is Very difficult to find the balance. Right now my Wife absolutely loves to have me undress in front of her so she can inspect me. I absolutely find this with her also telling me how our evening is going to be is so amazing. Yet it all started with a suggestion that I should lock myself