How did you get here?

Very nice blog. Thanks for sharing!

 

I think I came across a site called orgasm denial maybe 10 years ago.. I think its still around...but it introduced me to the concept....I became fascinated with chastity and tried to make some home made devices but eventually bought a CB3K. I told my wife that I saw it on ebay and I thought it was a bit of a lark so I bid and won. Unfortunately the device ended up being a sex avoidance tool...although she did engage in the beginning but over the years we have just grown apart and we stay together for the kids. I met a mistress online who held my keys for a time remotely...we used tamper tags so she knew I was locked up and we worked out a system where I really could not cheat...I progressed through devices...CB6K then a Jailbird and now have a couple of Looker 2 with the urethral inserts.

Eventually Mistress and I met a few years ago and a year later she moved to my City and now works for me as well as another job. She has complete control of her cock having both keys to the looker 2. I still live with my wife and kids...I have told my wife I wanted to sleep with other woman during a fight over lack of sex one night, her reaction was I don't give a fuck what you do just don't come near me...that was a few years ago, we get on ok and don't fight much...but I don't really like my wife much any more ....its not a poisoness environment, we just live separate lives. I expect we will go our separate ways when our youngest finishes school.That will still be a painful exercise and i am not looking forward to it...but its inevitable.

Now I cant have sex with my wife...well except for oral but that hasn't happened for over a year, when mistress first came here my wife still had a key, but now she doesn't and hasn't for about 4 months, I dont even know if she realises I am still caged...I think she does, but I really don't know what she thinks and i know she doesn't care.....While my wife is very attractive, I dont find myself that attracted to her any more...and in some respects I am glad I cant try anything on her anyway. If we did have sex I would feel like I was betraying my mistress even though she is my wife. Up until November last year the extent of sex with my wife was being allowed to rub a condom covered cock against her arse about once a month and then she would take her key back and forget about me till the next time, she never allowed me to give her a orgasm, but I know she masturbates in private.While some would find that a turn on, when the extent of the denial is JUST that...it becomes humiliating.

Mistress and I have a very close relationship...she knows me so well...I only have to blink funny and she knows if something is bothering me..which shows she loves me...I am the same with her...very very sensitive to each other.....but like everyone sometimes we fight, at those times I hate being caged...thankfully we both really hate fighting and the longest one we have had lasted 4 days and that was excruciating.

Mistress has stated she wants to extend my orgasm denial to 2-3 Months but so far we have really only reached a month. Apparently however if I am able to orgasm with purely anal sex (on me) then thats ok. I actually think that Mistress would ultimately like to keep me locked up permanently and only allow anal orgasms...but she has not actually said this. I am only permitted to give mistress a orgasm every 2-3 weeks...I wish she liked to orgasm more and I sometimes get in trouble for perceived pressure in that regard....but Mistress makes a point of playing with me one way or another 1-2 times in a week so I am really very lucky....Mostly she lays there and watches me stroke, sometimes I get to use fleshlight...if I am lucky she will put it between her legs and I can pretend to fuck her from behind, other times she will have me apply emla cream to her cock through the bars of the cage ...I have to take viagra so I can get hard and she puts a tight condom on me then sits on my cock....and fucks me till it goes soft..because i cant feel anything then locks it up....or lets me watch her orgasm knowing I cant get my old fella back up because its numb. She does like to fuck me with a dildo although she has not done that for some months...but she lets me play with her dildos as much as I like when she is not around...although this particular denial I have been told I am going to get fucked soon and been told to practice as lot...so I am ...I am not gay and have no gay tendencies ..but now I know I can comfortably take a good size cock I must admit I am curious what a real one would feel like. Mistress also enjoys spanking me with a wooden spoon, she thinks its funny the way I hope around on the bed face down in the pillow. Her other favorite it to have me kneel and pull my cock back between my legs and drive me friggin mad alternating hard painful slaps and cock milking. Our average denial time last year was about 10 days, but now its heading towards 2 weeks...and its now been 2 weeks since I had a ruined orgasm and a month since I had a full one...I think Mistress intends to break new ground...eeek

The problem with me is I always want more...so I guess that makes me a slut...Mistress sums it up nicely and calls me a sick fuck. But she loves me and we want to ultimately spend our old age together...probably traveling around in a caravan or something.

Its true, when i read back over my own little story I think...wow thats fucked up....but...its really me.

 

The more I read about people's lives the more I realize how different everyone's experiences are, but also how common our experiences are to other people. That might sound like a contradiction but you are not the first person I have heard who has found themselves drifting away from their wives and finding alternative arrangements. You are very lucky to have met your mistress, she sounds amazing.

As for attraction, that is so much more about attitude and personality than just looks. A beautiful person with a cold, hard soul will never be truly beautiful.

Thanks for sharing your story, I really enjoyed reading it.

 

My wife and I have been living a full time FLR for many years. We always had what most would consider a 'normal' sex life but after much thought we discovered only a few years ago that my mood swings - of which I have always suffered , and as a result so has she - can be managed to some extent by keeping me sexually denied. It seems, as with many people on here, when I am sexully satisfied I can suffer mood drops and I lose interest in staying subservient to my wife. This would invariably lead to arguments and unhappiness for both of us.
We agreed that the best course of action would be to limit my orgasms. I have discovered that I love being denied as not only is it thrilling to be constantly horny but it adds to my submissiveness and her dominance. We don't use a device, only willpower.
My wife has always seemed to prefer the use of her vibrator to me because she can get herself off without too much trouble. Also, although she likes sex, she has never liked being penetrated for too long. Ahe heys dry and aote and she dislikes lube. She also prefers not to have to clean up afterwards. Therefore, it seemed logical to go down the orgasm denial route for me.