Hello all, Thank you for accepting me in the community! This looks like a very good group. In short, I'm a former Dom/Top, inactive for a while now, with a female partner that used to be sub/bottom but no longer interested, although we have some Top/bottom play going at times, switching. You can get out of kink but you can't get the kink out, though so I rediscovered an interest for orgasm control/denial, male submission and humiliation. I own 5 cages, various models which we tried last fall. It didn't work out so great, fitting is difficult, even though I don't have a large penis, my testicles and scrotum are pretty chubby and ring insertion is a challenge. I guess I could share my experience in another post with details. She enjoyed taking control and I am quite excited to surrender control like this. I was able to wear a couple cages for a couple of days but comfort is a challenge. So this experience was put on pause. I decided to go ahead and step up to the challenge of locking me up 24/7, even if she does not pay an active part in my experience right now. This may change, we'll see. For now she is my keyholder and the only expectation I gave her is to keep the key secure and refuse to give it to me unless I use the safeword. Event this alone is exciting for me. So right now my goal is to find the right fit for long term wear, live with the idea that I can't masturbate, enjoy the feeling of being under control and perhaps enjoy being played with by my partner who may accompany me on this journey. Of course if she came to me proposing a flu-fledged FLR I would gladly accept, I'm ready in my mind for that. If she never does I will still live the tension of self-inflicted control over my libido. Thank you for reading, see you on the forums
Hey I thought I would provide an update. After a long hiatus for a number of reasons, i put the cage back on again this morning (custom ss baw). It feels so good. Dripping, I can sense the sex hormones flowing. KH inactive but I'm not hiding it . She might get back. I went back to panties for several months now, and shaving the area. Experimented with wet & messy play, like omorashi and some more hardcore stuff (solo). Cage now seems natural. My plan is to stay chaste indefinitely and indulge in various games without ejaculating from time to time. Glad to be back here, great community.