So my chastity story starts with my wife catching photos of me cross dressing on the computer and some gay sites that I visit on the computer. She wanted to know what was going on.. I explained that do her health that our sex was way down and started to explore my bi side. I love her but I need sex. She wanted to know where do we go on from here and I told here she could join my kinks and to prove my loyalty I would wear a cage and she would have the key. The first couple of weeks being caged as great. I told my wife my cage can not come off till she wants it off.
"You told your wife"!!! Who is in control then? If I tried to "tell my wife" anything, I would be shut down immediately and punished severely. Could you be "topping from the bottom"?
I don't think the OPs comment I told my wife my cage can not come off till she wants it off. Was at all out of line..... ground rules need establishing and need to avoid ambiguity. When first introducing a partner to TTTWD a little guidance and even topping from the bottom may well play a necessary part in settling both players into their roles and the newly aquired feature /dynamic of their relationship. I've done it and if the need arose in future would again. it does not prevent me from giving over complete control when the time is right.
ell I think you are exceptionally lucky. I can see finding out your long time partner is not only a crossdresser, but also is sexually attracted to men, would be enough to shut even a strong relationship down. She has received quite a shock, and I hope you are helping her through this. I think her becoming a member here would be a great idea, and definitely be a support for her, for surely there are many here that have wives that are not that thrilled with some of their husbands fantasies. good luck
This style is all new to her but I do feel that I am topping from the bottom which does not feel right for me
I don’t think it’s good to assume that everyone has D/s relationship just because they enjoy chastity. Up until last week my wife was very submissive and never even pretended to dominate me. She loved my chastity, and made it known that it’s her preference, but always wanted me to call the shots and manage it. Only last week (after 2.5 years of chastity play) did she come out and tell me that she wants to be the exclusive owner of my cock. Up until then I was pretty much in charge of remaining chaste really could have decided at any time that I wanted out.