Excited with reservations

I’ve been struggling some with the arousal I’m now unable to do anything about. The nights and mornings away from my girlfriend were especially bad. I’ve ended up in this feedback loop of arousal to fantasy to more aroused. During the day it was better.

I’ve spent the night at my girlfriend’s house, finally got relief. She had originally said the chastity would stay on until the morning but we ended up fooling around last night so it happened then. I don’t know if she’s been a little self conscious or if it’s just impatience but usually oral quickly leads to PIV. Last night she was content to just let me stay between her legs, obviously enjoying herself and having at least two orgasms.

The only other times I got to stay there for as long as I did was during times she’s been restrained in bondage. My hope is that she’ll regularly let me go down on her while I’m in chastity. Being denied and horny certainly makes it way more enjoyable, makes me feel like I just can’t help myself. Plus I t’s always nice receiving oral sex that’s enthusiastic.

Anyway, she unlocked me after a while and I came after asking. She’s told me yes twice now, I’m not sure if I should keep asking when I’m about to cum or if it detracts from the moment. I think I’m going to just cum without asking her next time and if she says anything then reevaluate.

She wasn’t immediately insistent I go back into chastity but I felt I probably should so I wouldn’t be dealing with difficulties with the piercing, and good thing too. I was probably out of the chastity for half an hour and already it was a bit of a challenge fitting the PA pin back in. It might be prudent to have larger gauge jewelry to just toss in for these times, and she suggested we visit a piercing shop today. I think that’s a good idea as I can toss the jewelry in with the emergency key in case I have to remove the chastity for some reason.

It is nice being locked in chastity though, at least now after some relief and that the arousal is manageable. Honestly it just feels good, held in a place and state of arousal until my lover lets me out. All the fantasizing about this exact scenario.

I feel incredibly lucky to have a partner that’s both accepting and encouraging while actively participating. Asking her, she says she likes it because I can’t be a perv with porn and masturbate, I know she likes having the control though. I just wish there was more time to explore this stuff together.

I’m working six days in a row so next Wednesday might be the next time I get to cum if it doesn’t happen today again. I think it’ll be easier on days I work but I haven’t gone a week without getting off before.

 

So it’s been almost two weeks of continuous wear of chastity aside from my girlfriend letting me out two times for sex early last week. This time period has been one of settling into chastity. Peeing is much better than when the PA’s jewelry, a captive bead ring, was in. For the day to day practicality stuff it’s a world of difference. The PA’s retaining pin is hollow and for anybody reading this and considering the piercing route it’s well worth it. It makes peeing almost on the same level as it is without a piercing and/or chastity.

I opted for the titanium cage too so the weight is worth it. Hygiene isn’t difficult either. My girlfriend wanted the ba-28 compared to the less enclosed ba-25 one and I had my concerns but it really isn’t an issue. It’s possible when relaxed to fit a soapy finger in there to scrub. I really don’t notice it during my day either. Every once in a while I bump against a corner of something at work and remember I’m wearing chastity but that’s it.

I’ve yet to go biking in it. The work schedule has had me busy and prior to that the weather had been bad, and still is. We’ll see how it goes when I can go riding again.

My girlfriend has taken to calling the chastity my birdcage, referring to my penis as hers, and is genuinely seeming to enjoy me wearing chastity. She says I’m nicer, there’s more focus on other things, like her. She brings it up a lot, and will tease me when we’re around each other.

Last time she took it off for sex she made me crawl to the bedroom, she said she wanted to see how much I wanted it off. I did, and she called me a good boy. I wasn’t really into that but it was hot seeing her be dominate.

 

Edit: fat fingered the post button and didn’t complete the editing in the 15 minute window, anyway…

The cage itself is very effective at preventing masturbation. There was a few days there near the beginning that I was just turned on by the whole predicament of being horny but unable to masturbate. Work really curbed that… have been too tired to think about chastity. It’s shown me how to manage though and that’s just do what I need to do.

The aspect of not being in charge of when we have sex will take a lot of the burden off my shoulders. Sometimes we will have talked about/made plans for sex later in the day but it never came to fruition because of whatever reason. In chastity, it’s pretty much up to her. Combined that with the inability to masturbate means I’ll be ready when she is.

I wonder what she thinks about all this.

 

The transition from fantasy to reality has been unexpected. I used to fantasize about being locked in chastity enforced by a body piercing but the predicament I find myself in isn’t much of a turn-on in the way it was before. Chastity now is more of something that is just worn, like an article of clothing or jewelry.

My girlfriend prefers me to be wearing it. It comes off for sex and generally will stay off for a couple of days, but she wants me wearing it whenever we’re apart. She’s gone from keeping her key in the nightstand drawer to hiding it from me. She hasn’t as of yet handled the cage in the context of assembly or removal but will grab at it frequently when I’m wearing it.

We were on a mission to find a 6 gauge piercing yesterday but I think I’m just going to have to order one. One shop didn’t have any for sale and it sounded like the piercer they use travels with their inventory, another shop was by appointment only, even for jewelry purchases, and that was the only APP shop in our city. I’m glad we proceeded with the piercings in Washington, there was no shortage of studios to choose from and the selection/experience was certainly better. I may yet support a local business but their markup is somewhat absurd for implant grade steel and titanium.

Anyway, time out of the cage usually makes it difficult to get the pin through the piercing after a couple of days and my girlfriend recently told me she prefers feeling the PA jewelry. I anticipate exchanging chastity for jewelry so it may make sense to order a few different types online to see what she likes best.

She’s also less grossed out, so to speak, of the chastity. It’s mostly the thought of urine getting on stuff that she doesn’t find appealing. I’d prefer if she’d take more control and be the one to remove it, or put it on after sex, but this is still new for her/us. She’s denying me release/orgasms on about a weekly basis, biweekly this last time during her period, but in the few times she’s let me out she just hands me the key and tells me to go take a shower. I don’t know if this will continue to be the trend as we’re still figuring things out.

She’s asked me yesterday if I was interested in prostate stimulation but it doesn’t really appeal to me. It wasn’t the first time she brought it up, maybe once or twice before. I’m sure it’d feel good but it’s just more gross than anything and the thought of a slightly bad experience for either of us doesn’t set well, I think.

I’ve also been noticing physical effects of the chastity. More sensitive tissue that’s more prone to irritation/excoriation. Sex is starting to feel better but afterward the skin is slightly raw from friction I’m guessing. Time will tell.

 

Regarding the fantasy vs reality spectrum, I don’t mean to imply I’m not liking it or it was only really a fantasy that I wouldn’t enjoy. My girlfriend likes it, I know. She says she likes the control but won’t really elaborate more than that. I think it provides her a measure of security or maybe it’s the commitment that she gets out of it. Whatever it is the end result is her being insistent that I wear chastity.

This whole thing with the chastity has been my fantasy but progressed at her urging things forward. Right now I’m comfortable with where things are at, and it’s new enough I’m not trying to spin another plate and risk the whole thing crashing. Our relationship is good, I’m enjoying the tease and denial, she’s getting something out of it too. I know enough to leave well enough alone.

 

My girlfriend has not allowed my chastity to come off in over a week. She said she may make me wait two more weeks while giving me a side eye to gauge my reaction. I think she was playing but this weekend she is going out of town and next weekend I’m working so I’m worried it may be true. She later said we’ll have sex [today] but she changes her mind if she’s in a mood from work or just tired.

I don’t really have the capacity to do much else on work days aside from fall into bed and go to sleep after dinner. It’s not physically or mentally demanding, it’s just the length of the day. She’s the same way on her work days during the week, so it feels like sometimes there’s only the weekend’s available.

This week it seems she’s shifting the purpose of chastity from “no masturbating” to “being kept horny”. She teases me about it multiple times a day and based on how she’s been lately you’d think this was her kink. She asked yesterday if we should go get a larger ring (to maintain the size of the piercing) but then changed her mind and says I don’t need it, implying she’s not letting me out, or chastity won’t be staying off for a prolonged period.

She elaborated and said she doesn’t have control over a lot of the stuff in her life right now and she likes having it, especially over “this”. I wish she’d let me go down on her just so I could have some way to act on this pent up sexual frustration. That’s always led to PIV sex so I think that is why she’s denying it.

There’s a slight issue with the chastity. The BA-25 I ordered from badass workroom, I requested the cylinder for the lock be mounted upside down. I didn’t want any sharp edges exposed that would turn my girlfriend off to rubbing up against it. Well, the lock used seems nickel plated and I have a nickel allergy so I’m starting to get some irritation on the shaft. I think I’ll reach out and see if there’s a brass variant of the lock they have or something.

The chastity remains very effective in preventing masturbation. A little bit of baby oil allows the base ring to slide some and has made it practically unnoticeable. It does require adjustment for exercise on a bike.

I’ve probably been wearing this for close to a month and a half now except for a few scattered days and will likely post a review once I resolve this nickel issue. And have worn it for a time without issue.

 

Both and neither. I don’t really know if I have found the peak yet. When chastity was mostly fantasy a few days in felt like I was on a rollercoaster, just trapped in a state of horniness I couldn’t do anything with. Then I went to work, only really noticed it when I went to use the bathroom.

That showed me it was completely mental as I was working 6 days on 8 off, and for those 6 days nothing. On the other hand, three or so weeks is longer than I’ve gone before so that may approach uncharted territory.

Regarding the orgasms, or sex in general, yeah. I think last time she let me go down on her it wasn’t her intention to release me yet but she gave in for PIV. Work has also really interrupted this stuff for us, hers mostly limits play to mornings and weekends, mine wipes out an entire day and frequently every other weekend.

But overall, things have been better than they have before chastity and we’ll see where it leads.

 

Typical work day is alarm at 5am, get ready, drive to work to arrive between 6:15-6:45am, I’m there until about 6:45-7:15pm, drive home, maybe stop and get some food, maybe eat at the house, either way, it’s about 8:15 when I’m done. Usually lay down by 8:45, asleep at 9pm.

I’ve been thinking about waking up and going to the gym, showering there after a workout before heading to work.

 

Well, I’m back in chastity after about a month out of it. There was one instance during that time my girlfriend told me to put the cage on—I did but she had never checked I was wearing it or took the key. Suppose that killed some of my excitement and I took it off a few hours later when I didn’t feel like wearing it. The time before that she was keeping the key in the nightstand drawer. This time, she hid it.

Regarding the chastity itself, I noticed chafing or irritation under where the lock is. I was going to sand down the rough edges of the lock as the cylinder on my cage is upside down so it’s all smooth from the outside but keep forgetting to. Otherwise there weren’t complications from about a month or so of wear. I never ended up getting larger PA jewelry either. Fortunately the PA pin went in relatively easily this time. I think I’ve found an easy way to insert the PA portion of the chastity too, I’ll see during the next few times. I’m thinking I’ll just leave the jewelry alone to keep the hole tight around the chastity’s pin. Since it’s hollow there’s nearly no mess with urination.

Anyway, we’ll see how long I’m locked in chastity this time around. My feeling at the moment is a little excited to be wearing it, not excessively horny or even approaching desperate yet though.

 

The chastity experience isn’t what I’ve expected it to be. There’s an element of the stars needing to align in order for my girlfriend to insist I go into chastity. Then, often, there’s a few day period of teasing and anticipation, eventually she’ll bring me the key during a shower, the cage will come off and that’ll be the end of chastity for a while.

I took the initiative after the above played out with less than 24 hours of wear. We had sex but she wasn’t enjoying it, she was too hot and nauseated after we went for a walk with the dog and showered. For me, it was too soon since the last orgasm to easily go over the edge without her getting into it. So, afterward, I put the cage back on and brought her the key without her asking.

I suppose it’s been about a month since I’ve been in chastity according to my last update, maybe with a short spurt in there in addition to. An injury and surgery has left me off work and we hadn’t really been in a position to be playing as much as is normal. With more time on hand and out of the cage I drifted back to fantasizing about it, masturbating to captions while daydreaming about scenarios.

I haven’t outright told my girlfriend what I’ve wanted out of chastity. Based on what she was saying after the piercing and initial use it felt like chastity was going to become a near constant thing. The natural progression felt like it’d end up somewhere desirable without it needing my input, anyway. I’m going to have to strait up ask her for what I want out of chastity. Until then, I’ll just enjoy being in it.

 

There are a few benefits to a PA. The jewelry can feel nice for your partner as well as yourself. Urinating with a hollow pin is easier than while in chastity without a piercing.

The drawback of having the piercing I would say wouldn’t be worth it if your chastity setup is secure without it, as security is the primary benefit.

 

The chastity play at the discretion of the girlfriend, plus I don’t see a point to wearing it without her holding the key.

Regardless, last time chastity lasted only a few days. Tonight I’m back in after penetration earlier was just a little too deep resulting in quite a bit of pain/discomfort for her afterward. An unfortunate result for a different position than our usual lineup, she’s already doing better fortunately.

I’m not sure if I mentioned but some irritation resulted from what I suspect is nickel of the upside down lock. I emailed the the manufacturer and asked if there was a brass lock and was told that the lock was brass but just coated, and that I could use sandpaper to remove the coating. So I did just that prior to putting it on.

We’ll see if that solves the issue of irritation, if I’m wearing chastity for long enough to see that is.

I think I’m gonna ask that she not leave the key accessible too. Last time it sat on her computer desk, this time it’s on the coffee table.

 

Update. I’ve been in chastity for over a week now. On the second or third day locked my girlfriend asked if I had masturbated and had responded with a question about her leaving the key out for me to do so. She asked if I took off the cage and I said no, she then popped up and went into the living room to take the key, that was the last I saw it. Wasn’t initially feeling like playing with the chastity those first few days. The next few I was a little excited to be wearing it. Now I’m starting to get to that “fuck-I’m stuck in this and she isn’t going to let me out” stage.

She says maybe Saturday. I’ll be desperate enough by then I won’t really care but chastity for us always ends with her wanting PIV. I do wish sometimes she’d keep me in chastity and instead let me go down/finger her. She enjoys both so I don’t know why it hasn’t happened except the once while I was in chastity. It’s like the chastity goes on and there’s no sex for either of us until she wants it.

She’s offered to unlock me when I start to get really horny and she’s busy with work or plans in the past. That was such a let down, I think for both of us. This time she’s offered the key few times already, I declined all except the last offer only to discover it wasn’t genuine. She was just teasing me with it. Maybe things are changing some.

Regarding the upside down lock/cylinder and the irritation, it hasn’t happened again since the sanding and polishing of the lock down to brass. I’m hopeful that solved the issue.

For some reason chastity seems like it’ll be different this time around.