Hello everyone! I recently became seriously interested in chastity because of the negative effect masturbation was having on my vanilla marriage. You can read about this in more detail in my first post here: https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/i-28m-want-to-ask-my-wife-26f.44984/ The purpose of this blog is mostly for myself, but I also thought it might be an interesting evolution to watch for future people who have a similar story to mine. I'll be documenting major breakthroughs, basic struggles, and triumphs and tribulations so people can see the ups-and-downs (literally and metaphorically) of a straight-from-the-box vanilla relationship's interaction with male chastity. I've been aware of chastity for a long time, as before I met my wife, I was pretty active in the "gay/bi sissy" areas of tumblr and bdsmlr. I had experimented with my sexuality a while and settled on that I was bisexual but heteroromantic - I'd happily bend over for a man, but would never want to date one (or even really kiss one). I don't think my submissiveness comes from a lack of self-esteem or confidence in my penis (It's actually pretty nice once erect; 5.5" and handsome, though it's pretty small when flaccid); I just really like serving (giving cunnilingus has always been my favorite hetero activity). Anyways... For the first 4 years of my relationship with my wife (everything up until this point!) I had continued masturbating to mostly sissy/sub stuff (I've always wanted to be pegged, but she has zero interest), and realized it was a problem. The straw that broke my little camel's back was this past Friday night, when I was setting up the dining room table for a board game for us to play after watching Emily in Paris. My wife came up to me and kissed me passionately, which had an immediate effect. We made out for a while and she laid on the recently-cleared table and spread her legs and indicated I should mount her, but no matter what I did, I could not get hard. That's probably because, while she was napping throughout the day, I had snuck off to the living room and edged myself almost to the tipping point.....3 times that day. So I just didn't have it in me. And here was my low-libido wife, desperate for me inside her and not interested in oral. She even tried to give me oral to get me up, but nope. I joked and said maybe we should get me some chastity so she could have me whenever she wanted; she didn't respond at all or indicate she'd heard me. She then gave me permission to take one of my sildenafil pills, and we took a wonderful shower together and I was able to get it up for her in bed afterward. However, since I had edged so much, I came within a minute - which is significantly less than normal. She said it was fine, and maybe it was, but I vowed never to do that again - at least not as a result of my masturbating. We talked about it more on Saturday and our sex life in general. She wasn't aware of my habits, though she has no problem with them as an idea, but it also came up that the only thing I really "resent" her for in our sex life is that she pressured me to throw away my dildos when she met me because she was bi-phobic and they made her uncomfortable. She agreed that just because I have a dildo doesn't mean I'm going to go run off and bang the mailman, and allowed me to purchase one for myself - provided she never sees it. While we were talking about the over-masturbation, she mentioned she didn't understand how I "just couldn't not touch myself and save myself for her". I lightly brought up chastity again and again she made no comment. Given the above discussion, I decided to buy a "starter cage" as an extension of the dildo and begin self-locking while I was home from work, removing it and putting it away before she got home. If I got good enough and comfortable enough with it, I'd start doing it in the evenings after she went to bed and also when I went to work so I wasn't sneaking to the bathroom to knock one out. The idea is that she should see an improvement in my performance and attentiveness and be curious as to how/why it's happening, at which point I'd reveal my secret. I spent the entire week compulsively refreshing the Amazon order (starter cage here: https://www.amazon.com/Virginity-Chastity-Delights-Sunglasses-T-Shirt-Round/dp/B09P8GH4ZX/ref=sr_1_7?keywords=chastity+cage+for+men&qid=1645197519&sprefix=chastity+ca,aps,143&sr=8-7 ) and tracking the package on USPS. Finally it arrived yesterday, and I couldn't wait to get it on. I struggled to figure out how to put it together, and because it came so late in the day, I wasn't able to figure it out before my wife got home. First thing this morning, I took a shower, shaved everywhere, and tried again. To my surprise, I got it on quite easily, even without lube! Hopefully this isn't a freak accident. Gallery of me in my new cage: https://ibb.co/album/CstLNg I'm going to try on my business clothes today to see how noticeable the bulge is and experiment with ways to hide it. My next challenge will be figuring out how to sneak it to-and-from work (or at least back from work, if I leave after my wife is gone I can get it on at home) and into the bathroom for adjustments/putting on and off. It really is a lot of work trying to keep it from my wife, as she's really observant and alert, so I hope I don't have to do it for long. I'm hoping she realizes sooner rather than later that I'm doing this for both of us and it's not some strange gay urge or domina fetish. I love to talk to new people and learn new things, so please don't hesitate to DM me with any questions or comments, or just leave them here!