Clean up or not?

I insisted that hubby start recycling several months ago. Ruined orgasms are easy. Hubby knows what's expected and does it right away.

He's only had one full orgasm since I instituted the recycling rule, and he was very reluctant to clean up. I had to push and it was clear he hated it. He's due for another orgasm is a few weeks and we'll see cleanup has gotten any easier for him. Honestly, I hope he still finds it difficult. I don't really care that much about the act itself, but I do like there being a cost to orgasms.

 

To each his own and I understand "post nut clarity", but I have always adored giving my lovers head. Before, during, or after I cum in her is all exciting and hot for me. "Recycling" (LOL) my cum has always been a turn off after flying solo, no matter how hot the idea is the moment before I nut. If I'm playing alone, it's jut not appealing at all. But going down or snowballing after I've cum in or on her has always been extremely intimate and erotic and I love it.

My first time was in my twenties with a woman who loved sharing my cum with me after hand jobs, blow jobs, or fucking. It just really excited her and the way it turned her on really made it hot. At first, it was all about doing what turned her on because the look in her eyes and how hot she'd get made it worth it, but I eventually got over the smell, taste, and texture. I'm kind of oral-fixated anyway and it had always been a hot idea, but she loved it and that made all the difference.

My wife never really seemed interested in cum play, so I just didn't bring it up for the longest time. When we were still planning more kids, just not 'right away', she really liked "doggy" without a condom and having me pull out and cum in a puddle on the small of her back. The first time I licked it off of her while slipping my fingers into and over her pussy, she absolutely loved it and wanted a repeat any time I finished in that position. Since I knew she was okay with that, I told her that I had been reluctant to bring it up but I really wanted more and she was (and is) happy to indulge me.

Sometimes the amount or a big glob sliding out of her all at once is a bit much, and I learned why she'd sometimes say that I was bitter, but for me it's never been a punishment or a turn off. I suppose if that first playmate had made it seem that way, I might see it that way. But, my wife seems to like it, and that keeps it hot for me. Sometimes she's super sensitive after she orgasms and doesn't like it, so I don't. Sometimes she lays back and enjoys the attention but seems a little bored, so while I appreciate the opportunity that makes it kind of boring for me too so I stop. But then there are the times when it's a hot and intimate way to keep sex rolling when we're not done just because I nut.

{Edit: My wife had a hysterectomy a number of years ago, so we haven't had to bother with contraception in a long time. Not having to worry about where/how I cum creates a lot of opportunities for cum play.}

It's always interesting to see older threads like this come back to life with new contributions.

 

Oh my, it’s funny to read my answer from ‘21!
My Wife finds cum pretty gross, at least when it comes to consuming it. But over the last couple years she’s had me, partially due to my curiosity, partially due to things she’s read about enforced male chastity, slowly rub on her clit until I ruin on it, then clean her up and bring her to orgasm.
Each time she’s allowed it, she gets more aroused when I go down on her, and the times I’ve asked if I can have a ruined orgasm on her, her reluctance to it has dwindled with each time.
I haven’t had to clean up a full orgasm, and I don’t think I could especially as I’m going so long in between having them. But these little ruins, and having had a vasectomy many years ago, it’s pretty easy and I don’t mind it at all. I kind of hope one day she’ll ride me and make me cum and then force me to clean her up, we’ll see if it ever goes that far. I never expected to get this far, so I’ll never say never!

 

At age of 19 I was living with a girl into an open relationship and she loved to come home at night and sit on my face until she came. I often tasted other men's cum and it does not bother me anymore to do so. When you are into group sex you ofter go down on a girl who a guy just came in and gave it no thought. It was not sexy, just part of the experience.

My wife knows that cum does not bother me so she stopped making me eat it.

 

After I orgasm. I must beg for the privilege to lick it all up. No matter where Mistress has had me deposit it from her feet, or on her shrine to her ass. And then thank her for the fabulous treat. I am never allowed penetrative sex with her. Only my tongue gets that treat !!

 

Always kinda turned me on - experimented a bit when I was younger but never went through with it, did it once with my ex-wife and she did not like it at all (she hated my sub side).

My GF/KH started feeding me a taste from her finger post-orgasm a few years ago - then I watched a porn film where she made him cum and eat it from her feet. BANG, a cum eating and foot fetish in one - just my cum and just my GF/KH feet though. Not interested in anyone else's cum or feet.

 

I have been eating my cum and that of other men from women for over 50 years. I always performed oral after coming inside a women and word of mouth brought a lot of girls to my bed. That and both cunninglingus and analingus which were taboo back in the old days. Many guys thought oral sex on women was gay and licking assholes was not even done in porn. I did it and girls heard about it and I had a very good sex life as a result.

I lived with a girl who liked to sit on my face when she came home from dates so that got me used to tasting cum. She also liked to sit on my face after I came inside of her or after a gang bang. My wife only had sex with one guy before switching to women so I ate his cum from my wife and ate the husband's cum of my wife's girlfriend too. Plus when swapping and swinging most of the girls do not shower before hopping from one guy to another. In my day condoms were rarely used as the women were on birth control pills or other methods and the class of people we played with were not infected and no one got an STD so when I performed oral on a woman while swinging I tasted all the guys she was with. Funny that it was not a "thing" back then, just went with the territory.

I have been fed my cum from women's hands, frozen as ice cubes, from a baby bottle, from a shot glass, off of various body parts, etc.. My wife rarely bothers now because it is not a punishment or submission since it does not bother me. Hey, I was used as a toilet for a few years so I had a lot worse in my mouth than semen.

 

Not as a general rule..not saying I haven't tried it. But if I was going to do it I'd like to do it like this. The intimacy that comes as she is kissing me along with the deed would make it better. I've also wanted her to do that while I was in bondage with a ring gag in my mouth so I couldn't resist. Id still prefer it to be a snowball as she kisses me though the gag but I guess it could work directly after sex as well

 

You have lived one seriously amazing life. Thank you so much for sharing all of this information. As Socarates I think said, a life unlived is not worth living.
To add on to what you say about cunninglingus being taboo, my second job after college I worked in a factory where all of my employees were black, and most of the employees in that. factory were black. I was astounded to learn cunninglingus was absolutely taboo among black men , and when one of them I knew well was proven to have eaten pussy, he too no end of shit from all the black men.

 

Have you continued this practice with him? How has he adapted to it?

 

Without going into any great detail, I can definitely say that cunnilingus is not taboo among black women.

 

All I love reading about recycling, with some envy!
Up until probably 18 months ago I too recycled. My wife has always been on top and after I'd cum she'd slide up onto my mouth. One of the hottest things we ever did.
I had PC, an operation and I no longer have a prostate.
We have used lube that has the consistency of cum a few times since, and I'm happy to report, it's still hot.

 

Agreed. Don't believe it is really not practiced among black men, but they sure don't want their black buddies to know that.

 

Cunnilingus was likewise taboo among the ancient Roman upper classes.
There wouldn't be a taboo if people weren't doing it, enthusiastically. No need to ban something no one is interested in doing.

In any case, the ancient Roman upper class women had slaves to take care of these little chores, so I suppose they got by all right.

 

Ironic that centuries later, it was probably taken off the table because of how filthy most people, were, even the upper classes. I can't imagine going down on someone who hadn't bathed for a week or more.

 

A Lady has telled me that mans mess is very good for making skin nice.

 

Same except my wife never did it with me but yeah, 99.99999% sure it would never happen.

 

I always always recycled when I masturbated, eating my cum was half the point of masturbating. I've tried to go down on my wife a few times after spurting inside her but she was not very interested because she'd already orgasmed a lot. My biggest fantasy with her is that she'd supervise my masturbation and permit me to spurt on her toes and feet and lick it up. Unfortunately, I'm in apparently permanent chastity so I haven't spurted in ten months.

 

I don’t necessarily want to eat my cum. It I do have a similar fantasy to that where I cum on my wife’s feet and she makes me lick them clean. It’s not for the desire to eat my cum but for the desire of her to make me do something I don’t particularly want to do.

 

In my case, I want her to see it, I want her to see and understand how submissive and beta I am as a masturbator, and why I should be kept locked and pussy-free except for this rarest of pleasures.

 

I've mentioned this before but the whole 'cum on toes and eat' activity used to do nothing for me until one day watching a pegging porn video where she commands him to do it and BANG - I wanted to do it so much.

So I gave my KH a long foot massage, told her how beautiful her feet were and that I wanted to rub my dick on her toes, as I did I told her about the video and how hot it found it. I said how beautiful her toes are and how much I wanted to cum on them - she told me to cum on her toes as she masturbated with her wand AND reminded me I would have to lick "ALL the cum" as I came.

As she then simultaneously orgasmed and gasped: "Oh, you've cum on my toes! - it's all warm!!. and Oh!, now you're liking it!!!".

It's now kind of one of her favorites too and she really gets off on it.

Hope this maybe inspires you to try it with your KH - maybe it's a special 'unlock' reward for you?

PS: to reiterate - foot massage/foot worship and many foot compliments seem to be the key IMHO.

 

Get her to put one foot on your head and push your head down to he other foot to lick

 

I've learned not to try to get my wife to do things she normally wouldn't. She doesn't really dominate naturally so that would be topping from the bottom if I tried to get her to do things like that.

 

This reminds me I intended to post a similar question in the main forum;

If your KH is vanilla and doesn't really do domme - can it ever be 'topping from the bottom' if there is no distinct top/bottom? Is it not more like quid pro quo of regular sex a.k.a I ask for what I want and she does likewise?

I'm new to this and don't really do BDSM so not sure on the general protocol.

 

IMO, just because she isn't a domme by definition, she still has control and thus is still the top.