Breaking your Man

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    #51 demale, Jun 4, 2018
    If you truly want to break your man I recommend pegging and milking him. I can testify that it has made me even more docile and obedient to my dominant wife.
     
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    #52 Mascara^Snake, Jun 4, 2018

    Not necessary at all. Not even one bit.
     
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    #53 demale, Jun 4, 2018
    Nobody said it was necessary. Just effective.
     
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    #54 Mascara^Snake, Jun 4, 2018
    I don’t think it has anything to do with it. Or this thread.
     
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    #55 demale, Jun 4, 2018
    Perhaps, then, you should rename the thread.
     
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    #56 Mascara^Snake, Jun 4, 2018
    There are other places in the forum where you can satiate your anal fetish.
    Please.
     
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    #57 simplysub, Jun 4, 2018
    I can't remember when I first read about "breaking" a man but the word we've used (and still do) is "molding." Same general idea but fits more the connotation I read into words. Pushing the comfort zone to shape the submissive partner more in line with what the dominant partner would like. Not just because she or he wants the changes but also because the submissive half wants to please. It can certainly involve pushing or moving the comfort zone but over time well worth the effort
     
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    #58 demale, Jun 4, 2018
    Indeed. Where you, blessedly, will not be found.
     
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    #59 LesterBallard, Jun 4, 2018
    Says the man who specifically came on to her thread and posted on it.
     
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    #60 demale, Jun 4, 2018
    Yes, just as you did. Threads are open by design. The title seemed to invite numerous methods of breaking a man. She didn't like one effective option.
     
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    #61 the glove, Jun 4, 2018
    good point Ma'am
     
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    #62 LesterBallard, Jun 4, 2018
    I'm not the one posting about a thread where she "blessedly isn't there."

    She didn't like any option on this thread that wasn't the one she started it to discuss. That seems reasonable to me.
     
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    #63 jackburden, Jun 5, 2018
    This confluence of events seems like the sort of situation that portends taking things more seriously, and changing up a relationship dynamic.

    That metaphor of breaking, like "breaking a horse" or the analogue for a puppy, I think, is insightful. It's a shame that the word "breaking" is ambiguous, and that context doesn't necessarily clarify. I think that in a modern age few people reach first for the farming/equine metaphor. I'd tried using "housebreaking" to get at a similar idea, but yours is much better. Break not as in 'destroy', but as in 'bridling', or ....

    Huh. It's interesting. I was trying to write this up, and went to wikipedia for a more precise synonym for breaking (as in horse). I didn't find it, but the titles of some of the books listed there have a really surprisingly strong analogy:

    Making, Not Breaking: The First Year Under Saddle
    The Complete Training of Horse and Rider

    The first suggested to me that breaking (as in horse) might be a poor term for what they're getting across. That breaking in the context of "breaking a few eggs" isn't what the horseman is after. Maybe "training", "education", "building". Something positive and constructive.

    The second suggested to me that the teaching and learning is a two-way process, and that there's many facets to the process.
     
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    #64 Chaste J., Jun 5, 2018
    Maybe remodeling or remaking are better terms to use!
     
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    #65 Mascara^Snake, Jun 5, 2018
    it already has a term and the term is appropriate.
     
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    #66 Junebug15, Jun 5, 2018
    Breaking in my opinion is a lot better term.
     
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    #67 AprilC, Jun 5, 2018
    breaking is the right term. it is so obvious, to take something that is wild and free and have it through behavior modification, live to serve, but also live a more secure, safer and more harmonious life
     
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    #68 Peter Rabbit, Jun 5, 2018
    How about cage training? Modeling after humane crate training for dogs? It’s a safe place. A home to relax in. But with an expectation of demeanor and behavior.
     
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    #69 Mascara^Snake, Jun 5, 2018
    You can use whatever word you like for the act of breaking.
    However, it's unlikely anyone will know what you are referring to.
     
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    #70 Peter Rabbit, Jun 5, 2018
    Of course! This thread is getting needlessly semantic. ;)

    In a previous reply, I addressed my own experience being “broken” and how well it worked for us. That it’s, her taking me and beyond my own limit, but more importantly hers. She learned something in the experience, and it marked a step change in how she treats orgasm control.

    A separate thread can discuss the merits of control and enforcing calm and quiet without the undertone of punishment or being displeased. That is, like a puppy in crate training. No pet play necessary.

    Being broken was a very heady and emotional experience for me, and gratifying for her. It was good for her to see that she didn’t literally break me, but bent me so far I yielded completely to her. I didn’t snap and come apart. (I’m just a bit twisted, ha.)

    I think she was trying to get me to actually cheat after ten weeks. I probably would have earlier.
     
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    #71 steviepie, Jun 5, 2018
    we will understand now Mistress...….thanks to you
     
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    #72 steviepie, Jun 5, 2018
    I think Mistress Amanda was merely trying to make the point that chastity alone was sufficient to gain and maintain control.
     
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    #73 demale, Jun 6, 2018
    Perhaps in her experience.
     
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    #74 Junebug15, Jan 30, 2019
    Tease
     
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    #75 mcfeely, Jan 30, 2019
    You can only be "broken"if you want to be and allow it to occur. I found in my relationship that it was going in a direction I wasn't comfortable with. I discussed it with her and we couldn't reach a resolution so I followed thru with my promise ( which we discussed at the beginning of this experience), cut the lock and gave her the cage. We may play this game again in the future but our expectations are too different at this point. While I didn't say anything to her, if it had continued, I probably would have reflexivley attempted to break her. That's not what I wanted nor who I wanted to be married. I don't want a broken woman.
     
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