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    #1 Sarako, Oct 31, 2023
    Hello!
    I've been trying to use a cage since january this year, with my gf as the key holder.
    The issue is that i get so, so horny, and i start getting blue balls, i like the tease, pleasuring her, everything. The blueballs never fade away, they keep growing and growing day to day, until it becomes unbearable and theres no option but to remove the cage and get a release so the pain can fade in the next hours.

    What I'm tryin to get to is:
    Does anybody have the same issue?
    Is it normal?
    Should i check in a hospital?
    The answer is just to avoid getting horny? if it is a yes then what happens to the teasing while locked?

    Im really new and have tried many, many times. we both want to get to 1 week but with this it seems imposible.
    Thank you so much if you read it all and i'd appreciate any form of advice or response. <3
     
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    #2 MaggotNub, Oct 31, 2023
    Maybe your base ring is too tight or the ring gap too small?

    I'm 30 days in with my wife teasing me every day, and while they get high and tight, they loosen up again without needing an orgasm.

    Try warming them up in a hot bath when they're as you described. Maybe your scrotum will go slack and give the boys some room.
     
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    #3 Sarako, Oct 31, 2023
    I have the HT V4, And i like it a lot (even tho i don't really know whats good or whats not) but i started with the size 4 the moved to the 5th one (the biggest one) to try just like you said and still happens

    I WISH THAT OMG i would really love to be able to be locked for a week, month and get teased by my gf

    Appreciate a lot the advice, next time I'm going to try!! Hope it works
     
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    #4 Slutty Susan, Oct 31, 2023
    Sound as though the gap is too narrow.
    Did you measure your base ring size? Some of the custom cage makers have good advice on how to measure eg. Mature Metal.
     
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    #5 Sarako, Oct 31, 2023
    ok, as far as i know i measured me correctly, but that can be an option.
    the issue is that i added a string to my device so it can stay in place while using the biggest ring size, otherwise the cage will fall off.
     
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    #6 LesterBallard, Oct 31, 2023
    What do you mean when you say blue balls? Do you only mean very horny or do you mean it is too painful to continue?
     
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    #7 Deleted member 109631, Oct 31, 2023
    Have you tried her milking your prostate to help with the build up?
     
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    #8 Sarako, Oct 31, 2023
    with blue balls i mean that they get to a point that is really painful to continue, theres nothing i can do to avoid the pain and its intense, the first day i get them is almost nonexistent, but as time goes the blue balls keep getting stronger and stronger and i mean the pain. the max amount have been 3 days gradually painful
    i don't have issues with being horny, i like getting denied.
     
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    #9 Sarako, Oct 31, 2023
    sounds good, haven't tried it cause i don't have access to a good lube, almost every single one burn for me. Sliquid sassy is the only one that has worked for me and from where i live is kinda expensive.
    we will be trying this and i'll be updating anything that works
     
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    #10 M@rcellus, Nov 1, 2023
    Blue balls is a discernable pain or distracting fullness which can be felt inside each ball. Cage fitting problems do not feel quite the same and should be remedied. I accept when I suffer blue balls because I've not reached the stage of spontaneous or anal orgasm. My mistress is fully aware of this and has very little sympathy for blue balls, it's a sign of sacrifice and devotion. There are no immediate health consequences I believe and it should be endured.
     
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    #11 Sarako, Nov 1, 2023
    Yeah, absolutely, talking about the pain i have on the first day or two i find it very exciting and hot, when it gets to third day as i said it gets unbearable (last of 2nd day and all 3rd day).
    the pain i get is not inside the ball, its on the lower part of it where the epididymis is located, at least the lower part of it, thats the one causing big pain. And i've touched it and it is in fact bigger than usual, thats why im sure its some kind of blue balls (either because the cage is limiting blood flow to it and the blue balls just worsen cause blood cannot leave or something else). thats all i know
    it does happen when i get horny (cause when im caged i get hornier T.T)
    the main reason i made the post is because i cannot find any similar case with a solution for it cause there is people who can get teased for long time and don't get this type of blue balls.
    either way if there is a solution or anything to this i would love to leave this as something anyone can search in the future and ease the kink for anyone.
     
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    #12 madams-sissysub, Nov 1, 2023
    I think you may have to try another device.
     
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    #13 M@rcellus, Nov 1, 2023
    Yeah blue balls caused by orgasm denial alone is OK, natural and different from what you describe.

    Sounds like ring is compressing you too much or chafing the skin. My body has gotten used to chastity devices to a degree but you need to listen to your body, try different sizes, rings, etc. The chastity device forum is a good resource. Acute pain or discomfort is not the kind of blue balls I was recommending one endure as part of the experience.
     
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    #14 Sarako, Nov 3, 2023
    should I try a bigger base ring? and, is there a part in this forum with a recommendation list right?
     
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    #15 Sarako, Nov 3, 2023
    great to hear that, im gonna see other options for cages.
    I appreciate a lot all the responses and help, tysm c:
     
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    #16 Sarako, Nov 28, 2023
    hello, i`m here to add an entry into this kinda of an investigation about my issue.
    last time using the cage i got pain from it, which is very very strange considering that the cage is big. and i also experience this kind of pain when im out of the cage and have a date with my gf cuz i get so excited and my mind goes crazy 4 her.

    i went to a general doctor and spoke about how i feel this blue balls and the doc told me that blue balls should not last days, that they should last hours at most, sent me to do some studies but i kinda rushed it and went directly with an urologist, wasn't the best doctor i've seen (in attitude) he was telling me that as i describe it, it should be blue balls "just maybe you have less pain tolerance" which can be true, but at the same time can't. (I've had my appendix removed, and it was a complication to even know if it was the appendix cause the pain i had was just mild stomach pain. I just added this for some context) still send me to do some studies.
    to wrap it out i have more questions.
    -If i had more/less pain resistance, what does it have to do with blue balls lasting for days until i do something about it?
    -he sent me some meds to use when i have the pain, which im gonna try.
    -anddddddddd ofc the solution he gave is to rub one out, he doesn't know were trying not to do that so yeah.
    i think in a few weeks i'll update if something showed up on the eco.
    mainly if theres is something thats worsening the blue balls directly or indirectly cause i would like to endure chastity for longer periods of time.

    thx 4 reading hope y'all doin' great!!!!
     
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    #17 Lisa4343, Nov 28, 2023
    You may want to try a large base ring. I have found that an inverted cage is the most comfortable if I use a waist belt to relieve the weight. Good luck,
     
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    #18 Aleks_ak, Nov 29, 2023
    I agree with you. I use a reverse cage and it's comfortable.
     
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    #19 PatrickLol, Dec 25, 2023
    Hey Sarako,

    I have been struggling with the same issue for years.
    Pain usually starts faster the more I'm aroused. If i'm just locked up and think about something else, I can last longer. But that kills the fun for me.
    I tried to resist, but it becomes slowly unbearable and we should listen to our bodies. It starts with classic blue balls (and this is ok) but then start to feel really bad inside the balls and in the epididyme area like you described. It can also become inconfortable (feeling of "heavyness") higher in the belly, on the sides.

    Before you asked, I tried many devices, both plastic and metal, various ring sizes, various lengths. Nothing custom yet, though.
    Important note : it can happen WITHOUT cage, with enough tease and denial in an extended period of time (several hours in one go). The cage is only making it happen faster due to the excitement and pressure. Maybe we are unlucky and have some case of rare super blue balls or something like that.

    I simply gave up on long term wear and just do it for fun for a day or two max, and eventually always have to rub one out to put the pain away (depending on the degree, it can take a few hours to fade).
    It's a shame since I really like tease and denial play, and would love to be able to keep up in chastity for weeks, but I simply can't. I know I should consult a specialist too, but I'm not ready for this conversation to be honest, since it's not an issue outside of chastity play.

    Looking forward to read news from you, it's the first time I read someone having what looks to be the same issue that I have.
     
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    #20 Sarako, Dec 25, 2023
    Yes. It is exactly how you describe it.
    im glad you said this cause at some point i was wondering about trying different cages.

    Yes, it happens to me either when im caged or not, it just happens more when i'm caged because i get more excited and more aroused, but the pain is the same and it gets slowly worse until unbearable.

    Me and my gf kinda did the same, or at least until we find a solution for that pain. When we go on a date i use the cage and the play still is fun, it is really beautiful to lose control at least for one or two days (gosh i wish it was more).
     
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    #21 Sarako, Dec 25, 2023
    im sorry i wanted to make it just in one response but i clicked the wrong button XD
    well imma continue with the response
    im so glad im not the only one with this issue and i really hope there is a solution
    i went with a urologist and fr the attention was kinda ass, he told that as i describe it (which i know) is blue balls, he told me that it can be that i can't endure the pain as much as others, but i don't think its the case here cause, the fact that the blue balls just keep getting worse and worse, it tells me that theres some circulation issue down there isn't it? how cant it be that some people's body can regulate or circulate the blood fast as 1 or 2 hours which means that the pain is lowering when in our case which is just getting worse.
    If the issue was only that i can't endure pain, how can you explain that if i don't rub one out the pain will only not disappear but just keep getting worse, and i haven't tested but the maximum days i've endured is 3-4 and the pain is so high i just can't do anything.
    still the doctor sent me to do some studies in my balls to see if maybe there is something causing those issues which i haven't cuz i was busy in school but i think im going to do them in a couple weeks.
    the doc told me that i could some some ibuprofen and that should lower the pain but i haven't tried it.

    thank you so much for your response and im gonna keep updating!!!
     
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    #22 tightlockup, Dec 25, 2023
    I would look into gap size too, increasing it can help with ball burn.
     
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    #23 PatrickLol, Dec 26, 2023
    I tried Ibuprofen already and it kinda helps.

    But in fact, ice, painkillers, and even removing the cage or anything that lowers the pain is always only temporary. When in that state, it goes back to full pain in a second if it's not seconded by an orgasm (or at least, an ejaculation). Ruined ones can work to release the pain, If your gf is open to help you with that, I suggest you could try!

    I'm also subject to varicoceles (I'll let you google that), but I dissociate it from what we're talking about because with the right ring, not too tight and with a proper gap, I don't necessarily trigger the symptoms. Even if an orgasm can also release the pain from them, it's not really the same and if I'm careful about blood irrigation, it doesn't happen. As I said, I tried many cages and I'm frequently using a Cobra-like cage and never had this issue with it. I prefer to mention it in case you also have it or if doctors ask you about that kind of ball pains.

    And just to reassure you: it's clearly not because of your capacity to endure pain. We're talking about a situation where we can barely walk normally. Thank you for your initial post, I too know I'm not alone :)
     
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    #24 Surrenderisreality, Dec 27, 2023
    I think i have a similar issue. I have pain in both balls l, and i assume it is to do with denied erection and ejaculation. Its painful. The pain is little less but still there after two days. Someone in the forum suggested i check the cage is too tight or something. Will be able to get it unlocked only in the evening when my KH is back. Also if someone can comment is a plastic chastity device a good option than a metal?
     
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    #25 CuriousAndy, Dec 27, 2023
    Stop wearing a chastity device and go onto an honour system (only allowed to cum when given permission). If you find the pain goes away your cage is too small (either the ring size or gap between the ring and cage). No difference between metal or plastic, it's about size.

    I do get blue balls from extended tease and denial, but not from just wearing a cage (she's allowing about one orgasm a month at the moment). Its a feeling of fullness, sometimes a dull ache which comes and goes. It is not painful, just uncomfortable. Exercise is supposed to help as it promotes blood flow to other parts of the body.
     
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