Baby steps..

Hi all,

So last year about this time I bought and built a 3d printer, and I used it for all kinds of random things over a few months. One day while browsing the web to find things to print I came across a male chastity device. Now to be fair this was not the first time I had thought about it.. being raised in a good christian home.. I was 29 years old before I got married to the only woman I've ever had sex with and we had a couple of kids. I had a love of bondage from the various porn and other events of my life over the years.. so once I was married I started slowly grooming my wife into a sex toy. Started out simple with blindfolds and Velcro cuffs.. and eventually worked up more elaborate bondage situations. A few years back she got an IUD so we didn't have to worry about condoms anymore (I was also her only sex partner) This was all well and good and while she was "ok" with all the bondage and four play .. I got the impression that she was really just putting up with my "crazy hormones" which she justified as I was putting up with hers for a few days each month (even with the IUD). anyway.. I digress.. So I found this print for a male chastity device and toyed around with the idea for several weeks before I couldn't take it and just had to find out so I finally printed it out. I told her right up front so there was no secrets going on.. she knew I was toying with it, and after several adjustments to size and print quality I had a fairly good one that I could wear for short times. Initially I used a simple zip tie to keep it closed, and this seemed ok, then I bought a small luggage lock that would fit into the holes locked it up and gave my wife the key. She took the key put it in her pocket and said.. let's go get lunch. The first time I was locked in I was also out and about running around doing errands going grocery shopping having lunch etc.... Here is where things got a bit well .. odd. that is to say unexpected.. being locked up, and having her with the key changed something inside my brain. When normally my thoughts would be wrapped around how to get her in bed.. and what I would do to her next... it was clear.. like none of that mattered anymore and for the few hours I was locked up that day, I was with her, for the sake of being with her.

It would be several months of thinking about this and reflecting on it before I took the next step which I did in May this year. When I purchased a cheap HT2 Knockoff on Amazon. I didn't know anything about devices only that it had the kind of lock that I wanted. It arrived in a few days.. and we started to experiment on a more regular basis a few hours here.. then a few more the next time. My wife was really worried about me sleeping in it eventually I talked her into leaving the key on the nightstand just in case. The first night was ok enough.. actually falling asleep was "harder" then I thought.. We continued to work on the length and I started to develop some rugburn issues under my scrotum. After a bit of searching online I found others used Vaseline or other non waterbased lubes.. this was a life saver. I was able to go several days being lockedup, and while I was locked up (she has always had the key)... My mind wouldn't drift into what I was going to do to her next.. what elaborate bondage scenario would I think up. The removal of this constant worry, this constant thought of when ..of.. will she want to .. can I talk her into it.. can I just get the cuffs and drag her along caveman style.. was all gone.. I didn't think about it at all. She may or may not have noticed .. I'm not quite sure as I wasn't trying to get her panties off every time she was wearing a skirt around me.. So as it turns out the same effects that I experienced the first time were also present once I had a more proper form fit one and because I could ware it longer I had longer stretches where my mind was in more control then it had been in years.. We decided that if we where going to do this with any kind of long term commitments that I should spend the money and get a real one. My wife was schedule to leave town with my kids to go back home for 2 weeks over the summer and I was going to drive there for the second week (I couldn't take that much time off work). They where scheduled to fly out on Friday.. we had sex on Wednesday and she locked me up on Tuesday Morning before work. i was worried about the keys.. so I devised a plan. I stopped at the hardware store.. bought a copper tube used for plumbing cut it to the length of the key drilled a hole through one end and a slit about a 1/2 inch down both sides. The key slipped in perfectly and with a combination luggage lock the key could be locked into the tube where I was not able to get it. In the event of an emergency she could tell me the combo and I could get the key. This way I could be in possession of the key but not able to use it. My wife has the combo and it's the only secret she has from me. We ordered a HT3 and hoped it would be here before she left but it wasn't.. it came the day after she left.. and with no key I couldn't swap them out.. so I just had to bring it with me the following week.

The week came and went.. and I drove the 800 miles locked in the knockoff device.. stopping at various wal-marts to "pee like a girl" and eventually made it. She let me out that night to clean up, the next day we were sitting around talking about the plans to do what with which of her family members.. and I said something .. to the effect of.. "I'll need a shot of jack to hang out with him for very long". And that one comment more or less sealed my fate she just looked at me and said.. "we need to lock you back up"... This was mid July.. I've been locked up almost the entire time since.. with the exception of Saturday cleaning and a few times when she actually wanted me inside her. But out side of that she's been good about just keeping me "sane". She recently had her IUD removed.. because.. "your never going to cum in me again".. which was a bit harsh.. at the time.. but ya know.. it's really not a big deal we just went back to using condoms.. and it's fine. Now that she's got full control on if I ever get to cum at all let alone inside her she'd rather not have the extra hormones in her system and I don't blame her.. I wouldn't' want them in my system.... She does't hold it over my head or anything mean but teases from time to time.. At the end of the day she keeps me sane, and I keep her sane.

October 1st was her b-day.. she locked me up on Sunday morning the 30th. Since then she's had 3 orgasms and I've had zero... I found this site only a day ago.. and thought a place to share ideas and experiences would be healthly for me and so here I am..

I made the mistake of telling her about locktober.. to which she actually said "Awesome"... so she might just keep me locked this entire month. Like I said before I've been "locked up" since the start of July. With a weekly or so release for cleaning and playing. The longest I've gone straight with no release of any kind was 14 days (when she had her IUD out it was really hard on her the hormonal swing is crazy do a search for "The Mirena Crash" if you want the nasty details.. At any rate.. if she does keep me locked up for the whole month it will be a personal best, and I believe that I'll be a better man for it.

To be clear.. I'm grateful to have a loving wife that is willing to help me become a better version of myself. Helping to control my mind and desires that consumed so much of my time thinking about is a huge step in the right direction for me.

I've grown up around power tools all my life and can build anything from robots to houses. I say this because there is no way anyone would ever be able to keep my in chastity if I didn't want it, I am capable of simply picking the lock.

She has expressed to me several times that I'm a different person when I'm locked up.. and she really likes that person. I want to get to where I'm that person all the time with or with out the device.

And so.. begins my journey

 

To add to this.. .. today.. she decided that I'm overweight.. and that she wants to keep me around.. I was ordered today that I'm no longer allowed to eat any refined sugars.. .. UGH..