So my wife and I have been into chastity for a few years. Honestly, we both just found it hot and it was an awesome foreplay for us. I think the longest lockup we had was like 3-4 days and that was including unlocking for working out and showering. After that stretch, we both kind of realized that longer lockups weren't really our thing. Usually, when I want to get frisky, I'll throw on the cage and let my wife know I'm wearing it and we'll sext all day then have sex at night. That was all up until yesterday. I mentioned on Sunday that I was thinking of doing some cage play (break-in periods) this week and she seemed to really get down with that idea. As I usually do when I'm locked, I came here. Upon messing around the forums, I found the blog "The Secret to a Happy Marriage." I always get turned on reading these little intros and Amazon books, I don't know why. So I sent it over to my wife and she got REALLY interested in the site saying that for "true chastity play" the wearer needs to lock up for 3 months without ANY orgasms! Of course, this turned me on, but also because I was in my cage. So, despite my usual early lockup going for 4-6 hours, yesterday I did 12 then promptly locked up this morning as I woke up and was able to work out and shower in it (uh-oh.) Anyway, it looks like my wife is looking at Friday as the start of our 3 month lockup, but my concern is that the end will put us right at Locktober... here's to an interesting few months.
Good luck and congrats. It sounds like you’re doing great. My suggestion is to take a minute and stop and think about how special what you have is. Do this every day. After that enjoy the ride! Oh and please keep us updated.
I mean, to say the whole thing isn't a major turn-on would be a total lie! I'm just glad my KH is so supportive and gets just as much pleasure as I do!
Quick update: we both knew that we had a hard time with initial lockups, so the plan now is to get a ksafe and put both keys in it and set it for 10 days, that we neither of us have the ability to unlock me.
my Wife/KH and i have read that short “book” several times. 1st was early on in our journey. at that time, it sounded extreme. then a few times along the way where parts of it really resonated with one or both of us. now that i have a perfectly fitting MM Queen’s Keep, we are able to take the book literally. it’s hot for both of us. enjoy your journey together
Go ahead.. embark on that 3month long lock-up.. deny yourself keep her fulfilled.. the woman’s sexual pleasures should not be contained even as you are not getting yours.. thats power exchange as the authority to have satisfaction lies with her.. after 3 months you may not wish to be released anymore..
Sounds pretty similar to us. I introduced chastity, we both enjoyed it, I read some and then she read even more. It's 43 days since the key went in the lock. She has a timed keysafe and is determined to keep locking the keys in for 999 hours at a time until she thinks I have "accepted it", with a minmum of 90 days. Currently I hate it and cannot wait to get it off but she seems determined, and says she has a long term plan. The worst is definitely the lack of erections. Heck, I'd love to just touch my cock even without an erection right now. Yet, to have her controlling my cock and orgasms is also a massive turn on. Weird.
It's funny how quick that switch flips, right? It should be studied as some sort of psychological phenomena. I've only been locked for 2 days and she already got a time safe and is talking about how she fantasizes about locktober and NOvember. Prior to this we were just a day or two at a time at MOST kind of couple.