Submissive Before Ejaculation Not so much after.

Very common
Try having her ruin your orgasms
Or better yet deny you from ejaculating
Good luck and have fun

 

I am a big fan of ruined orgasms. Have her ruin you several times, and this behavior will change. For the guy.... it feels amazing, just different. For the gal, she gets her humble servant, faithful sub, cum dribbles.... and she remains in control. I just love being ruined! Once she learns you.....she will be amazing! To be a true ruined orgasm, she needs to be hands off when you twitch and just ooze cum. She then needs to count to 10 before touching you. BUT. She should go back to stroking after that, and ruin you once more! She can do this over and over, till you shoot nothing. She should lock you back up at that point. You should really be anxious to please her at that point, and whatever she wishes should be your command! Try it, you will see.

 

Same thing happens to me and pretty normal if you really do not have a submissive personality. It seems being locked and extremely horned makes us crave that feeling. I think the only solution is to not cum or wait for it to come back.

 

As we practice chastity as a lifestyle, this was a huge hurdle we had to work through.

Take a look at this:
http://secretchastityhusband.blogsp...ure-and-devotion.html?m=1&zx=4233e138b2d9192f

I have found that my overall happiness is far higher if I only receive a full orgasm once every 2+ weeks.

Limiting my orgasm makes me less ‘confortable.’ The day after I orgasm, when the choice between an hour or Chores and an hour of playing Skyrim, Skyrim almost always wins. The less orgasms I have the more productive and submissive I am.

 

Within approx 48 hours of not ejaculating I can start to become submissive

 

However, what does your loss of submission actually involve? Are you mistaking, say, the need for physical downtime, for a loss of submission? Perhaps it also takes an hour after orgasm before your penis stops feeling too puffy and sensitive for a device?

So, one cure would be that you only ejaculate when you are chained to something - collar or ankle fetter to chain to radiator, for example. Once you've come, you can have as much downtime as you need, but you don't get unchained until the device is back on.

 

Thats why my wife locks me up right after any release because it will take me a day or so to cone back

 

I think an hour is pretty good to be honest.

If you read through the forum you might notice that many KH's say it can take up to 2 weeks before they feel their sub's have returned to being fully attentive and as focused on them as they like them to be.

I agree with what most have said but would also advise that you both read up on "Sub drop". With your hormones and emotions going up and down so much it never hurts to be aware of some of the draw backs to the lifestyle and it might help you to understand some of the emotions your feeling at different times whilst locked, when free and immediately after emasculation.

Good luck with it.

 

This is also true for me. I have also notice I am far more kinky before orgasm than after.

 

Was meant to say ejaculation

 

2 weeks for some subs to become full sub again. Seems like a long time for training to take effect; after 2 weeks I've transitioned from sub to crawling slave

 

LOL! It's more fun to read it with emasculation...!

 

I guess they indicating more to general behavior than they sub to slave.

 

At first this was a major issue for me. I can tell you what has worked for us and I will start by saying it is not for everyone and may not be for you. This is simply what worked for us. My wife has conditioned me to prematurely ejaculate when I am granted a release. I feel so pathetic and useless for PIV sex that I cannot help but remain feeling submissive. That might not work for your key holder. It works for mine and that is what’s important.

 

Like Charleston, I PE as well, but she adds humiliation to the mix for any orgasm I get, which is usually ruined. This was something we were both into before chastity so it might be something to work up to, but after cum being told I'm a pussy, her making fun of how small I am or how fast I cum, etc., puts me immediately back into feeling submissive.

 

Lots of edging before I am allowed to enter her.

 

@Love2havefun69 Do you think we don't already know about this ??? The only thing that I find unusual is that you become submissive again in so little time. It's usually days before they feel obliged to come crawling back.

 

Edging, foreplay and teasing, not just before, but throughout the weeks. I'm not allowed to look at porn anymore either. At first this was kind of upsetting, especially because she still does, and will often have me pleasure her while she watches it on her phone, but with only being able to see her naked, whenever I do, I'm a ticking time bomb.

 

Yes this is very common... That is one reason I prefer not to be allowed orgasm.

 

If she allowed it, would you look at porn?

 

This is exactly why my madam stopped letting me orgasm. I am edged occasionally if I am very good. and the only other pleasure I get is anal orgasm ( ether her strap on, dildo, or fist) it was difficult at first but it was worth it to be a better sub for my madam.

 

As Mistress said as she introduced me to prostate milking (and occasional prostate orgasms) " ... Try It .. You'll Like It ... " And you know what? She was right. (Always is.)