How is everyone doing? It has been a little bit. Not sure if anybody remembers me. Last year my wife and I dove head first into this adventure. What followed were among the best 3+ months of our intimate relationship. Then, while on a business trip, I ended up in the ER. There they told me I had a mass on my right testicle that would need to be removed*. That was the first in a good run of bad luck. My family and I had a really challenging summer/fall. I drifted back into old habits. The winter has been a time of healing for all of us. A couple of weeks ago my wife and I discussed it, and we're going to get back into chastity. I stay focused on what is important, and she really enjoys the adoration and aspects of control. The last two weeks have been pretty great! Better than I remembered. I started back 24/7 on March 1st. I'm at the stage where my wife can glance at me and I feel my whole body burn with desire. We made a few changes this time: After discussion, I've relaxed my limits. For example, if she never unlocks me, I will adapt. She wants control, and I'm finally ready to really submit. I'm going to intentionally focus on exploring intimacy apart from orgasm. I know that sounds redundant, but there is some nuance there. She is going to explore the boundaries of control and her pleasure. She has made it clear to me, she wants to control, not dominate. She wants to feel powerful, but not for me to feel less than. Humbled not humiliated. I feel a lot more confident and calm this time around. We are both aware of what we want out of this. It is still hard (or wants to be ), but I'm excited for whatever comes next. TLDR: Back after a half year of bad luck. Wife and I are both bought in. Trying not to make the same mistakes twice. *I did have a prosthetic placed. That has been interesting. My old rings don't sit right, but I think I found something that works.
Way to go! Looks like you are both enjoying it! My wife recently told me, apparently she did some lurking here, that she isn’t like so and so. She doesn’t want to be mean or a bitch, she wants me to want to do certain things and not try to crush me into them. I am fine either way lol, but she is not comfortable being the bad guy. She respects and loves me, feels we are equals, she likes keys when I get to the point where she doesn’t have to tell me to do something, that she can ask and I jump to it.
Glad to hear you recovered well and got through things!! with regard to her not wanting to be the “bad guy - chastity can be the lifestyle that YOU both choose, not some manual or one size fits all thing. That’s aside, my wife was always a bit reluctant and cautious at first and some of that was knowing each of our limits and then growing in the lifestyle we have to what works best. She has grown to really embrace this and now requires it (her words) of me. You may find that your wife will have an evolution as well and become more dominant as time goes on, if that’s what she wants. Always a good thing to explore - this is a journey as much as anything, and as your relationship grows, so are your boundaries likely to follow some until you both discover the “sweet spot”. I think it sounds like you have an amazing foundation built on trust and communication and that’s the biggest key in all of this!! Good luck!!
Thank you so for the warm welcome. On the subject of control, right before my illness my wife started really exploring aspects of control. Looking forward to seeing how she evolves this time around.
Glad you are back. Remember there’s so many ways to be in for her to be in control that don’t require a chastity. She can even demand you don’t touch yourself etc. Only the sky is the limit. Chastity is only a feeling of being controlled but could be done in many other ways. You could still obey your wife’s wishes and pamper her. Good luck and good to know you are back
Redundant? Nuance? This concept is one of the most powerful aspects of chastity in my opinion. It is a life changer when you learn this. There is so much more to intimacy and pleasure than an orgasm. Sorry for your difficult year. It sounds like you are pulling the pieces back together though. Keep us up to date!