25 year marriage and 7 years in chastity has led to this…..

This seems to be the story over and over. I'm beginning to not get it. It starts out with the guy interested and wanting to curb daily masturbation followed by her getting into it and controlling the releases and spreading them further and further apart. Then PIV becomes worthless to her because of orgasm interval causes near immediate release combined with shrunken penises. So the guy is left in a PIVless world with seasonal, very fast orgasms at absolute best but they feel oh so connected to their KH. I would counter they have been reverse brain washed while imprisoned in a cage...

 

Unread caging has no effect on length or ability to get an erection later.....is this not the case? If so I'm out of here.

 

Have you talked to her and let her know how much you get out of PIV. No matter what a couples kink is, it's not worth doing if both sides aren't getting something out of it .

 

Oh well

 

So are you good with no more piv? Because if not, I guess I don’t understand why after you’ve satisfied your Wife, and you’ve earned a release, why she wouldn’t still allow you to have your fun. Obviously as you pointed out, it may not be a satisfying event for her orgasms, but to allow you to connect with her in that way, what is the big deal to give you two minutes or ten minutes or 30 seconds of piv?
My Wife has been content with piv on weekends after almost 30 years of daily piv. So I’ve had to accept this, and she’s started giving me handjobs for my orgasms, but that was my request, as I want to try this as a more serious lifestyle for a while. But I do know that if piv was ever completely pulled from the menu, that would be an issue for me.
Obviously every relationship is different and many are fine with that, and that’s great.
Hopefully everything works out for both of you!

 

you just need to make sure you get a full erection a couple times a week. If you don’t you will temporarily lose size… but if you don’t have regular erections your penis will shrink until you give yourself regular erections…

 

That's reassuring. I assume those caged night erections don't count.

I'll let the wife know for my health purposes I need a "cage free" erection once a week!! "Honey it's for my health!"

Cage free? Perhaps devices needs to say "these eggs are caged"

 

Dont worry.. you are not alone.. after being caged for so long.. your wife is also not alone in wanting only sex with toys.. the penis is eventually made redundant.. well you still get to watch her moan while being locked.. and see her duly satisfied…

 

I think you probably saw this coming and are ready for it. I'm in my sixth year being locked and have also lost size and stamina. We're down to about twice per year for PIV and the longer I'm locked the more I begin to accept that erections and PIV are not for men like me and that I need to relieve my wife of the burden of my erections. She seems happy not to have to deal with them anymore. I don't know if I'm ready for "never" but am accepting that I'm not going to be that virile alpha guy anymore and that becoming pussy-free is likely -- sooner rather than later.

 

Well if you shrunked lots its no good is it and least you can do it with a strapon still. please have you ask Her if you can use your tongue cos thats nice to do as well.

 

100% agree!

 

... and?

 

I'm only allowed an erection about once every two weeks. Oh dear.

 

I think my Queen and I are heading or am also there. She will not say what she has mind. I can orgasm in the belt if things go right. Mostly a ruined. We both enjoy when that happens. She gets off on the control. Not sure what the future holds and for the time being I am fine with what ever she decides. It’s been 4.5 months since we had PIV. She had taken my stamina before this long lock up. I doubt I could last a minute at this point.

 

well if you gonna be lock up in a little cage it better if you little innit. cos if you got a big one it will hurt more.

 

Sadly you can't lose something you've never had!

 

So far my Wife makes sure I get to spurt in her maybe once a month. She feels that connection is important. She doesn’t get anything sexual out of it, I can’t last very long, but She knows it’s important that her submissive husband be joined with her from time to time. I’m very grateful for that.

 

i think you ever so lucky that She let you and i bets you say thank you when you are let. i am let to use my tongue and i say thank you after.

 

I usually give her a backrub or massage every night, and at some point ask Her if I can worship. That is our code for 'can I be permitted to give you an orgasm some way?'

About half the time she tells me no, and if it's yes she'll want my fingers, sometimes my tongue or a me wearing a strap-on. If I'm permitted to worship her, I always thank her, and especially so if I'm allowed a ruin or an orgasm. Sometimes she's ask for the strap-on and instead SHE puts it on and pounds me for a while.

If one (or both) of us has fun, I thank Her.

It's very rare I'm allowed to enter Her and cum, usually about once a month, but sometimes she goes a couple months. When She allows me a PIV orgasm, 99% of the time its on a Saturday morning, and She will unlock me and tell me I will be allowed to cum in her.

While I try to last, I can't go very long, and usually am ready to cum from the moment I enter her. If I take more than a minute or so, she will turn my buttons verbally or with some sort of movements to ensure I cum right away. And if I continue to resist She will tell me to cum, NOW. She expects me to come on command if told to do so. I always do.

She doesn't want me to last, but she does want me to have the privilege of enjoying an orgasm inside my Wife. She isn't after sustained penetrative sex with me and prefers me to cum right away. She also says she likes feeling her submissive husband enter and cum in her every now and then. I get the feeling the benefit is all on my side though.

(Humorous side story, she once told one of her bulls to cum while he was pounding her and he didn't. She told me later that she appreciated a proper submissive boy like me that follows instructions and does what he is told.)

 

My desire for permanent orgasm denial has merged with my wife's post-menopause lower sex drive. Our consensual interaction is that she agrees to keep me locked unless she wants me to be teased and denied, or until she desires PIV. When she is aroused and craving PIV its impossible for me not to orgasm because she loves to feel me climax while in her.

So my current rate of orgasm is working out generally to about 2 per year. I've been locked for a little over 3 years and just had my 6th orgadm two days ago.

Until now she has said she does not like the feel of a condom or dildo inside her, she only wants real flesh. However after we made love the other night she brought up dildoes and asked if I had one anymore. I said I had one in a moving box but never thought it would ever see any use. She didn't say another word... Maybe someday she'd be willing to add the dildo to our playtime and I'll be reduced to less than 2 orgasms per year which would thrill me.

If you, the OP, desired to be locked up to surrender control, you may be getting the bargain you fantasized about. Maybe this will arouse you enough to have an intimate and open conversation about what you really want while giving her what she truly wants. I think there is room for discussion between loving consenting adults here.

 

I give my wife all the orgasms she desires. Her pleasure is all I care about.

 

i can empathise with your situation, i'm no longer allowed inside her

 

We haven't been able to have PIV sex for years, mainly because of flexibility issues for my wife that make it painful to get in that position. Further complicating that is my size, or lack thereof. And then we were in a sexless marriage for a variety of reasons until re-igniting our love life and taking it to a new level with chastity, tease and denial. Now we both want to try PIV again but with my releases bring so limited, the opportunity doesn't come around that often unless she just decides the heck with it.

My last release was last night after 4 weeks denial. I came pretty quickly and now wonder if PIV will be a disappointment for her. I'd love to try a strap-on with her but I don't know if she could overcome the mental hurdle. She isn't interested in toys hardly at all.