Chastity without the Cage

Are you allowed to touch?
I have done a similar period with no device, but with (skillful) edging. It is easier as time goes on, you learn.
Good Luck!

 

Mind over matter, self denial is a wonderful form of 'chastity', the willpower needed brings on a totally different mindset when you beat the urges. Wrong term, 'beat'? i regularly practice such denial, i feel it makes wearing a device a lot less daunting. Circumnavigating the need to cum while free to indulge shows an immense level of commitment.

As for tips and tricks, we all have different things that work as triggers, either for turning on or off, more than anything i would suggest finding things to keep your mind occupied that do not include arousing stories, pictures, videos, websites, etc. But most of all, any time you go to touch yourself with a view to getting off, tell yourself that you are failing and letting down the one person you want to impress more than anything in the whole wide world.

The only thing that totally confuses me is how can this happen if you are to be denied for 90 days? In effect you could have sex every single day and yet still not be breaking the 'rules'. Makes little to no sense to me.

 

Denial is the easy part, the tease part is where you will get into trouble. Just stay away from the edge or you might fall off.

 

I'd first try asking for some extra time but with the cage. I just prefer being caged. Fortunately my Mistress also prefers me caged at all times too.

 

Soooo, no Chastity Mansion?

 

the first sixteen days are the worst...

(I'll be on here tomorrow to update that to 17...)

Seriously, find something to occupy you. Like giving up smoking, or any other habit, avoid the situations where you would indulge. For that reason, weekends are hardest for me - leisure time, opportunity. So find something else you can focus on.

And think of your Mistress. What she means. How devoted you are to her. Above all, how disappointed she would be if you failed. That's the biggest thing that keeps me going. I want to do right for her. I want her to be satisfied with my efforts.

Good luck.

Keep us informed. That helps too, by the way, sharing your experience with the group.

 

Doesn't work for me personally. I always convince myself to get off after a few days.

I've told my KH as much and so she knows if she doesn't lock me I will be getting off alone. The cage is plenty to stop me though.

 

It looks like you and I are in a similar position! Love your picture, you are very feminine.....lets help each other.

 

Another wonderful thread ... these are among my favorites!

This has been my life for 30 years ... wonderful years!
And so, we find ourselves with reversing situations - my Lori's should be here soon!

The perfect term!
Yes, like with any art, practice improves the willpower to keep your own desires in check. I am allowed to touch, play, edge and in her words "drive yourself as crazy as you want - just dont have any accidents. I want all your O's to be in my presence".

Yes, too much temptation very close to the point of no return leads me to occasional 'failures'.

Yes. For me its projects around the house. I've been steeped deeply in FLR - so servitude is a big part too. Moving around & being busy helps because i need to burn off kinetic energy for my mind to be still.

Nooooooooooo ...
CM is a must!
Do tell about your experience with this - your challenges, your successes, your failures, where it leads you two.

 

study meditation..you will benefit from learning to intercept and redirect your own thoughts away from your increasingly sensitive "parts". I'm trying to get back onto the "honor system" myself right now though I will probably get a weekly release unless I can convince my wife otherwise good luck!

 

I take my hat off to those that the honour system works for.
Being denied is good being locked whilst being denied for me is much better. My lady is in the process she says of putting a contract together, I'm not surprised she is extremely well organised and admits to being little OCD about that. So I asked her to include a clause in which it is stated that part of the enforcement of my denial and as a symbol of her continued wish to retain control I must wear a device within 24 hours of any release. She agreed to it but no doubt she will word it much better.

 

I don't disagree...If I had a device I liked wearing long term I would push harder. Good Luck!

 

IT's more about the commitment for me, whether caged or not but the no touching rule is the hardest to do, while not locked.

 

Extremely tough, I'm working to develop new habits (again, was pretty good last year) and truly wait for the moments with my wife. I have kind of an addictive personality and the hardest part is getting rid of the fantasies and putting my mental energy into more productive things...always a journey...

 

And the journey is what it's all about for me, being new to this has surprised me in many ways. I've learned heaps about myself and got lovely support and help from others.
Not being able to locked full time, is a hard thing not to do when the head knows it's the right and proper requirement.

 

Damn. I thought my lady's no unauthorised erections or attempts whilst unlocked was bad enough.

I just can't see 'no touching' being possible unless there are degrees of no touching

...like adjusting yourself is ok but playing with your self is not and / or any of the degrees between the two

 

Well, She explained as washing fine, adjusting fine, wanking NOOOOOOO

 

She is absolutely right!
Don't ever think in cheating her.

 

Chastity without a cage is easy -5mg of finasteride daily for a decade or more works wonders

 

Yep, that sounds entirely fair.

 

Of course, no wanking - but no edging as well, for most people?

I did a month of no touching (except for urination, washing) no edging, no cage, with a bit of encouragement from someone here. I'm glad I did it, but I found it tedious, not much fun, not fulfilling. Now I edge.

 

I masturbate almost every morning, in bed, naked, next to my beautiful naked wife. That's how I wake her up every morning. I just don't cum.


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I'm uncaged at the moment. I'm allowed to edge as much as I like, in fact i'm encouraged to do so, as it only increases the frustration and as she says "works up a satisfactory load for her to watch fly"!