A few recent posts got me thinking, I don't really like less than a week or two as I crave longer but I don't think I would like to be locked for 6+ months without any sort of release. So If you had a say and hopefully you don't what would be your ideal lock up time without any release other than hygiene, with or without milking etc?
As long as I'm told , and I'm not being flippant, the not being in control is a big thing for me, be it be one day or six months
We average about two weeks which I've gotten used to. I'm on day 17 now about to crawl the walls. So I'll say two weeks lol. I know she wants to work towards average longer lockups in future though.
I find that two weeks is the most difficult. A month or more actually gets easier. So "ideal" would either be 2 weeks or full time.
Ideally, she would unlock me every day and we would both fall asleep in each others arms, both satisfied after multiple kneeshaking orgasms.
I'm so conflicted about how to interpret the word "ideal" for me. I like to cum at least once a week, but at the same time I like her being in control. Being in control turns her on, her being turned on turns me on. I end up wanting her to keep me denied. Could go on for a long time I landed on her ideal which seems to be about a month.
My lock up time varies ... Most times I am locked during the day but am let out at night. Pretty often lockup is for a week. Occasionally 2 - especially as a punishment.
I don't know about ideal but my expectation when i introduced chastity was a week. The reality has become once a month. Would I have been hesitant to introduce it if I'd known that would be the outcome, probably. Would i go back to vanilla now, definitely not.
Ideal? I'm conflicted also. That depends on your perspective. I'm desperate to get out every few days when she teases me. In that moment, that would be my ideal. Once every 3-4 weeks seems to be ideal to avoid "The Drop". Once every 2-3 months would probably be the ideal to keep me much more focused on her pleasure alone. Permanently would probably be ideal for my wife if she knew i dont need to orgasm and could get over her guilt feelings. (But don't anyone tell her, please! I really don't want to find out what that's like.)
4 weeks is what we have settled on. Zmy wife teases me about twice a week which usually leads to me giving her an orgasm with oral stimulation. Honestly, I could go for months without if I can give her orgasms. I have grown to love oral so much that giving her an orgasm with oral seems to replace my own. Now I still enjoy the love making at the 4 week time. It sometimes goes longer but she makes the rules.
May I presume she’d be perfectly happy to forego your orgasm entirely if guilt were removed? my wife feels that way.
Not sure if there is an ideal time, but for me - First week is all about the build up, not really that horny unless provoked (teased or other sexual activity for example). - weeks 2-4 is when things start to intensify and especially when sex in some form is involved. She has taken to removing the cage for oral and PIV but stopping short of any sort of orgasm for me - longest I've gone is 5 weeks so can't say beyond that, but I do remember the big drop after orgasm at that length. So I guess, 2-4 weeks for me, but I'm excited to see what it's like at more than 5
I've been fearful she might but this morning we had a conversation about this. She seemed to indicate she agreed that occasionally we need to burn the carbon out of the motor!
Less than 2 or 3 weeks is not enough to have an effect on me. 1 or 2 months is a good looked time. I would have like to try 3 months, but my wife was never able to wait this long.
I don’t think I’ll ever go more than a few days, but who knows. We were going for four days a while ago (not locked the whole time but just denied), but that stopped on day two. She said she had bad PMS and just needed to see me cum.
We listened to a podcast about chastity and they discussed it takes 6 days to hit base line hormone levels and my wife had been discussing 12 to 20 day periods where I could loose that release for bad behavior. I think that is my ideal time frame. 12 to 40 days
I was recently unlocked after three months (except twice weekly supervised cleanings and shavings) and given an incredible blow job to full orgasm. After, I was locked back up and we had a long discussion about chastity and our future with it. We basically agreed that lock-ups will now be a minimum of three months and full orgasms will only happen then. I will have in cage orgasms at her discretion in between (but rarely). In our experience, three months is best for us.
We’re currently doing a protocol of every three weeks I get a ruin, and a full orgasm every two months. She’ll give me a really good, long tease at least once a week, a bunch of edging that gets me begging to cum. I don’t know if we’ll stick to it long term or not, but that’s where we’re at for now. We’ve tried all different lockup terms over the last four years, and it’s brought us to this point. So I think it’ll work out, worst case is she decides I can get a ruin every two weeks, I doubt I’ll ever get to cum more often than that.