Question on Semen Retention, aka. orgasm denial

1. Yes.
2. With some breathing and tensing techniques you don't need to numb your dick, and why would you want to numb your dick anyway, lol. Taoists, and others, have been practicing semen retention whilst having lots of sex, for millenia.
3. Yes, we have done it successfully for months.
4. Yes, it works that way.
5. You'll run into issues of incredible horniness, frustration, and annoyance. You'll probably relapse and have a cheeky wank from time to time.

We both like delayed orgasm, and one of our biggest challenges when neither of us cums is knowing when to stop. It sounds like a funny problem but there it is.

The biggest impact will be that it will change the way you make love. You will need to take ity slowly, not just jackhammering her. You'll learn the difference between deep and shallow thrusts, and you'll need to keep your mind on what you are doing.

Making love becomes much more of a meditation than a sport. It's even more fun if she also participates.

Enjoy

 

Honestly, if sex with your wife is more important than orgasm denial, just have sex with your wife. Sometimes you have to set aside some kinks to maintain your healthy and loving relationship. Chastity can be fun but it can also destroy your relationship (just do some browsing and see how many people talk about their wife not being interested anymore).

Good luck.

 

Karezza works. Very well.

 

LOL

Good luck with that.

 

I'm in the US, after some solo expirimentation, I've arrived at Oragel maximum strength generously applied behind the corona and down the frenum, then soaking the rest in any of the maximum strength lidocaine gels. Apply very hot towels for 15 minutes before application, put a condom over the gels, and then ahot towels over that for another 15. If you take the condom off and wash, you get about ten minutes of profound numbing, but if you leave it on, it's exteremly persistent. I find I need a cock ring before the application of the numbing products or I can't get erect until the effects start to dwindle.

She may consider this too much fiddling around when she wants sex, in which case you could braoch the subjst of you wearing a strapon. A kit is sold that enables one to make a mold from their erection to produce a silicone dildo, I wonder if this might be generally more acceptable than a commercially produced dildo.

 

This is pretty much what we practice, but my wife lets me have orgasm about once a moth, because I get eventually too aroused, and PIV doesn't last as long. If something gets in the way, and we don't have sex for a week, my arousal goes down again, and can keep going longer. The good thing is that the more aroused I am the easier for me is to have erection. So it is a balance and I let her dictate the pace and my orgasms (as it should be

 

I won't let anyone tell me romance is dead when men go to these lengths to romance their loving partners.

 

“You just wait there baby, I’ve just got 9 more minutes before I take this wrap off and then I’ll shower… if you could get the wet wipes so I can clean it off before I fuck you…”
Now if that isn’t foreplay?! Honestly, I think you could train yourself in the Taoist breathing techniques in that time. Anything more than applying a bit of cream to a condom sounds like a complete mood killer.

We made the Emla cream work (not sure how goosica is) as it was very quick to apply, it takes some time to eliminate the sensations but that’s a good time to enjoy penetration. By the time I couldn’t feel anything, she was feeling more than enough for both of us.

To answer the original question. Yes, you can maintain a good sex life even if you don’t ejaculate. My wife kept me orgasm free for two thirds of a year and we still had plenty of sex.
We did do some ruins and stuff during that time, but we didn’t have to.
Whatever you plan, just make sure you’re both having fun. Too many rules and preparation will be your downfall.

 

You can PIV sex without ejaculating
you can have all the sensations you can imagine might be related to having an orgasm
including the sensation of really pumping out everything.. and not ejaculate
afterwards can be weird... you feel as though you had the most epic orgasm ever and at the same time you feel horny as hell.

It takes time but there are a lot of other people that can do this too.

 

I'm glad you have a solution to your problem.

 

If you can do it then it can work for you, any excess semen will be reabsorbed by your body so there is no need to release.

 

How do you size the ring? How does it work? I've never read any instructions on these things. I did purchase some stretchable ones recently to try (probably with numbing creme), but I have no idea what I'm doing.

 

Got a link?

 

"Ring" meaning anything that is a bit restrictive. You can get stainless steel rings at the hardware store, perform a cock/ball tie with paracord, etc. There are also adult-specific options, including leather rings that lace, buckle, or snap to size. I recently bought a grab bag of rings from siliconenozzles, and can use those to work something out. With a rigid ring you want something tht just fits when flacid, an elastic ring can be snugger depending on the degree of elasticity. Play safe, and relieve the pressure at 15 minute intervals to allow the blood flow to normalize. There are guidelines to push father than that, but I don't encourage them.

 

A quick google reveals...
https://www.netdoctor.co.uk/healthy-living/sex-life/a33655891/semen-retention/
https://lifehacker.com/how-men-can-have-an-ejaculation-free-orgasm-1821739762

 

So adding in my 2 cents here and like many others, YES, you can enjoy frequent PIV without cumming, it just takes practice, focus and encouragement from her. Starting and stopping a lot in the beginning, and eventually when you hear her say “don’t cum” you won’t.

Call it programming or whatever, it took us a while to get there but I’m about 210 days denied orgasm right now, and we have PIV with the real thing at least 2-3 times a week… rest of the time she enjoys a larger strapon etc. I always get the urges to cum, but never do, and most times I’m able to last quite a while without getting too close to the edge. Deep breathing and clenching as others mention and mentally preparing help and you too can get there.

Very often I get crazy euphoric feelings during, building when she cums and falling off into a bliss state after she cums and without my orgasm… I feel somewhat satisfied as if I had, and definitely worn out physically and mentally just as if I had an orgasm. It’s the most intense and bizarre feeling and I’m honestly not sure I’d trade it for an orgasm - even though I want to most of the time. Another one of those chastity paradoxes - you want to cum, but the feelings during sex are so amazing and intense and I know that will “reset” if I cum.

 

Agree no need to set every expectation and just let things evolve. I would say you do need some “basic” expectations and communication is key there, but I will tell you that we started out with rules and dice and games and other things that were scheduled, but over time we abandoned all of that other than simply the cock stays locked up unless SHE wants it out -
Excepting medical or any realistic reason it needs to be removed. This opened her up more frankly, as she was in full control. Doesn’t mean I don’t initiate sex or don’t make suggestions, or ask to come out of the cage etc. If she says no then that’s the end, if she wants it then she says yes.

Obviously if the keyholder has zero libido this may not work for all but it’s worked well for us.

My wife has hinted that she may never let me cum again, but she does so in a way that makes me almost want that… saying things like “you don’t want to start all over do you?”, or “you know this (PIV) wouldn’t feel as intense or amazing if you got to cum”. And she’s right it wouldn’t… that feeling and the closeness when we have sex is off the chart compared to when I was cumming all the time… doesn’t mean I don’t miss it and doesn’t mean I don’t want it, but that mental programming is what she also loves. I get excited just writing about it and thinking about it.