Most of the members of this forum love to be locked in chastity. They dream up elaborate ways to get their wives to hold their keys. My question is kind of the opposite. Have you, or anyone you know, who doesn't particularly want to have access to their penis taken away, been locked as punishment for some bad behaviour (in a way where the order has come from the keyholder to a reluctant sub), eg for lateness, disrespect, cheating, masturbation without permission; or even just because the domme is sadistic and wants to make her sub suffer. Again, my question is subtle. The important part is that the person being locked doesn't enjoy being locked.
i feel in general that chastity is more of a power exchange thing, in my humble opinion. i personally never felt it was a punishment; rather, in my case, extended wear improves and enhances my relationship with my Mistress.
Obviously the earliest use of chastity belts on females was an example of non-consent with reluctance (probably extreme reluctance by the female). I'm more curious about the examples where a couple play with chastity a little here and there, and then the domme gets angry and uses it as punishment, rather than a form of devotion.
Personally I think that train of thought only exists in fantasy land. I don't think such a relationship would be conducive to a long term arrangement.
I'd second the power exchange thing. My wife locks me up when she's in the mood to control me and I enjoy the feeling of being dominated. While she has never explicitly locked me up as a punishment sometimes it can be become punishment. If I'm already locked and she's unhappy with me then she won't unlock me, so it's best to keep her in a good mood. I do sometimes get to the point where I want out and start feeling conflicted, submissive and over it at the same time. I have to keep reminding myself I agreed to this. It's an emotional ride.
Early on in our cage use, I would wear it for a week or two and then be free a week or two. Our kids were home visiting one day and I teased my Wife about something that clearly pissed her off, a few minutes later and she calls me down to our bedroom, as soon as I walk in, she gave me a look I’d never seen from her before and she told me to get my cage on immediately, with an expletive or two. I didn’t say a word and very quickly locked it on. I don’t remember how long she kept me locked for that offense, so it couldn’t have been too bad. That’s really the only time I remember being “punished” with the cage. Now I’m just locked up all the time unless she wants to play with her property. Now she’d use the Tawse or her belt if I were to make her angry, but that hasn’t happened yet and I doubt it ever will. I’m very happy and content to serve, obey and pamper her to the best of my ability
Earlier today my Wife told me I was in for another month because She didn’t like something I said. I guess that’s punishment right, cause I would rather not wait another month. I really was already having a hard time envisioning a scenario where I get unlocked anyway. So it didn’t strike me as a big deal. Then I said something else She didn’t like and ended up over Her knee. My butt hurts. I want to cum. I do not like chastity and Femdom today
We do have a punishment dynamic. Chastity is not part of that. For her Chastity is primarily about control.
For many of the chaste here, the (likely unintentional) punishment seems to be when there's a lack of interest in sustaining the chastity dynamic. As chastity seems to be what a lot of users here want, the idea of using it as negative reinforcement seems a little odd.
I definitely think it can be both for disciplinary control in a power exchange dynamic but obviously can also be used as a form of punishment. An example of the latter, simply adding lock up time for some indiscretion is a punishment that most of us here can relate to. It’s part of the lifestyle and is not just some fantasy.
I'm not sure how well it could work as a punishment. It needs consent. It is always possible to cum in a cage and if you were forced into one against your will that's what you'd do to get back at the person who did it to you.
I can't see chasity itself as being a punishment purposely. Longer lockups for an attitude etc maybe. Biggest punishment for me isn't the paddle etc but being locked and ignored. We're in a phase now I feel like the caged maid, chore doing bitch and it's worst punishment I can think of. It's not intentional on her part just life, kids etc. No teasing not even a cage jiggle since this past weekend. So without intention it kinda feels like a punishment right now.
I’m kept in chastity as punishment, chastity was all my madams idea she wanted to control me in every way she could and punish me for being a inadequate and substandard lover, and punish my penis for for being unsatisfying and inferior. When ordering my first cage (the curve) she saw the points of intrigue on the web page and asked what they were, I told her and her reply was “get them! I want it to hurt! Later When I asked if I could get the cb2000 instead her only question was “can you get the spikes for it?” I replied yes and she just said “good” And now the only thing putting her off me moving to a inverted cage is she thinks it will be to comfortable for me! As she says, perpetually punish pathetic penises.