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    #1 RonDom, Nov 9, 2023
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    I wonder how many chaste men stay limp, either in or out of a cage. Have you been trained to avoid not just orgams but erections too, even when aroused? Does your wife/mistress/keyholder want you to remain limp at all times, even when aroused, or does she want you to get an erection or a semi erection in your cage? I know cages come in different shapes and sizes, and some cages allow for some amount of erection, even if only a little bit. Does your penis try to get hard and strain against the cage? Depending on your cage, how hard can you get? Is your cage so small that getting hard is impossible? Do you prefer to stay limp?

    I can imagine two schools of thought... 1) your wife/mistress likes you to get hard, or at least try to get hard in your cage, because it demonstrates that you are aroused by her and she wants to use "her" penis, or 2) your wife/mistress has trained you not to get hard or try to get an erection because she wants to deny your erections as a symbol of your loss of manhood, or completely deny all physical sexual satisfaction and instead you should be completely focused on her pleasure so that you get your pleasure from her pleasure.
     
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    I know that I am way more limp then I used to be and I only dabbled in chastity compared to some of you.
     
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    Princess loves to see me squeezed in the vice when attempting to get erect. I have a half inch of space when soft, so it gets cramped quick. It’s her favorite to use a toy on herself and make me watch while I kneel in front of her so she can see it straining. It makes her incredibly turned on to see not only does she control my orgasms, but my ability to get erections.
     
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    There's not much extra room in hubby's cage, but I enjoy seeing his cock swell and bulge within its confines. I also let him out quite often so that I can see and play with a proper erection. I'd never want to give that up, and I love that all of his erections are for me.
     
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    I have been chaste for a couple of years. Initially my wife wanted my chick caged, and I enjoyed my inability to have erections. However, for much of the last year we have dispensed with the cages, as my wife prefers to have ‘her’ penis always ready to play with. She enjoys the erections which I am allowed to have when we lie together. She wants PIV at times, and my having her penis ready whenever she chooses- but I am not allowed to orgasm. We like the new life.
     
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    Interesting point you make. I find it more difficult to get a proper erection, what I think as a satisfying erection, now that may be my age but I think being caged influences that. When caged my mind focuses on my testicles not my penis. They feel heavy and the need to empty them is a burden. As for my penis that is not my immediate need. I'm lucky as my KH wants PIV sex so she frees me - can't speak for other people.
     
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    Yes, it does quite often.

    Not much, but it is still a visible change.

    Pretty much yes, it's HT5 Nano (most of the times).

    We both like the attempted erections. This does not mean my focus is not completely on her pleasure. I actually hope I will be able to cum some day just by giving oral. I already have some post-orgasmic body reactions of myself after she had orgasm by oral.

    It is interesting what people consider luck. My case is exactly the opposite. She said she does not miss PIV at all and I consider myself lucky because of it so I can stay locked.
     
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    After all these years I still fight endlessly in my cage and she encourages it
     
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    Same here! My soldier tries to raise his head regularly.
     
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    #10 bondinchas, Nov 9, 2023
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    Have you been trained to avoid not just orgams but erections too, even when aroused?
    Not deliberately, but wearing shorter and shorter cages over a decade has trained my body to not get hard when caged. I can't remember the last time I had morning wood, it's quite infrequent now, and when I do, it's just a gentle partial erection rather than the painful cage busting full morning erection that I used to have when I started.
    Thinking about it, when I give my wife oral, which is more often than not nearly every morning, I drip a lot but rarely get hard, when I do it's nearly always a gentle soft one as I don't normally have any anticipation of being unlocked.

    Does your wife/mistress/keyholder want you to remain limp at all times, even when aroused, or does she want you to get an erection or a semi erection in your cage?
    When she teases me she likes to see me (in her words) "angry red", and swelling against the cage. Our relationship in her eyes makes me more of the "caged lion" rather than the "beta male".

    I know cages come in different shapes and sizes, and some cages allow for some amount of erection, even if only a little bit. Does your penis try to get hard and strain against the cage?

    Having shorter and shorter cages each time I get a new one, it's very true that the shorter the cage, the less likely you get an erection, even a partial one. But then, it's difficult to tell if that's the prime cause... Or is it just because I've been locked up for longer and longer, and I focus on her sex and not mine?

    Depending on your cage, how hard can you get?
    Is your cage so small that getting hard is impossible?

    The head of my penis now nearly always touches the end of the cage, and because I rarely get released spontenaously, my erections inside the cage are now quite gentle. When I'm uncaged for a couple of days, I can go the whole time without being erect once before being locked up again. If I'm uncaged and we're having sex, if I'm concentrating on her as if I were still caged, then I often remain flaccid. If we're going to have PIV, then I can usually get a decent erection, the first time it might be not as hard as it can be, but after the first ejaculation full erectile performance is usually restored.

    Do you prefer to stay limp?
    I still enjoy having erections and PIV, but if they're not on the agenda (which isn't often) I don't really miss them. I really like the lustfull but content feeling when I focus on my wife's pleasure, so much so what happens in my groin has become much less relevant to me. What seems to turn me on more than anything now is achieving higher and higher levels of bliss, sometimes getting close to orgasmic with her, while giving her oral or occaisionally manually masturbating her.
    So yes, while I do enjoy erections and climaxing in themselves when it happens, if I had to say one way or another I do enjoy and prefer staying limp while giving her multiple orgasms.
    My strongest feeling in this regard is not so much the erection or not, it's the fear of the downer after an orgasm - I feel that the days of "down" afterwards are not worth the brief high moment, so there's no incentive or desire for me to get erect. I get no less aroused though, the amount of pre-cum dribble I that have usually have testifies to that.
     
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    In the past, never had an issue with trying to get and erection in the cage when stimulated, and got rock hard out of the cage. As I developed High Blood Pressure and started treatment with medication, I started experiencing ED. When I take Cialis, it like back to my old self, get hard in cage and out of it with stimulation.
     
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    my wife likes to keep me limp...... i like to have an erection
     
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    Nope, being in chastity only makes me harder. :+1:
     
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    My wife wants it hard when she wants it hard. But not big, because it hurts her. We've been doing this now for 4 years I guess (maybe more? I don't keep track) and I've lost an inch or so in length (which is good for her) and sometimes it is harder to get hard at first. But part of that may be due to aging (apparently that happens), and part of it is from chastity maybe, and part of of it is probably mental.
     
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    Nope a month in still straining against the cage. On one of my longer lockups now and it's been terrible today.
     
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    After 14 years of 24/7 lockup and 35+ years of no PIV or PIA or PIM sex, I still get erections when we have sex even though I am locked up. Have the in my sleep too. You cannot really control that. This morning i had morning wood and it was very uncomfortable as I wear a "baby" size cage which firming clings to my flaccid penis leaving no room to grow. So when I get har it pushes the cage away from my body and my balls try to get past the ring but do not due to the type of ring I bought which forms a very small gap. After all this time I am very used to it and I got them even before I was denied sex.
     
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    Still get erections, well attempts at them as my device won’t allow much grow room, it’s how my madam prefers it as she likes me to suffer.
     
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    If my wife see's i have an erection which isnt very often, she'll slap my cock till i lose it, or send me outside in the cold, or tell me to go run it under the cold tap in the bath tub
     
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    Option 2 is what my Miss and my Master prefers. Way we stand I will never be free 24/7 and erections are not permitted
     
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    My Wife loves to see her property straining and bulging in his cage. She still enjoys using him for piv a handful of times per month usually, but there’s no real schedule or pattern to it, so sometimes she’ll not allow a free erection for 5-7 days, occasionally going up to 10-12 days without letting him out for a proper stretch.
    I know she definitely doesn’t want him to be limp and useless, plus I’m on TRT and take 5mg tadalafil (cialis) at least 3-4 times a week for health benefits and so he’s ready to go when she craves piv and not my tongue.
     
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    I am mostly limp but not completely due to the demands of my wife. Age and blood pressure medicine are partly to blame. Being chaste 24/7 for the past 30 + years has contributed as well. I still wake up occasionally with a hint of morning wood, my useless member barely straining against the cage, but it subsides quickly once I wake up. I believe my wife prefers me this way. We have had conversations about Viagra but she says ' its bad for your heart'. I used to be able to sneak an occasional orgasm even whilst caged. My inability to become erect combined with my full time chastity cage completely negates any attempt on my part to achieve an orgasm. My only relief now is with a vibrator that she keeps under lock and key. I am completely at her mercy. Only She decides when I receive sexual pleasure. Be careful what you wish for.
     
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    Hi,

    proably a combination of age, meds, and being almost 3 years locked 24/7, I very rarely get an erection. My wife prefers this, as she only wants oral servitude.
     
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