POLL: What is the ratio of her orgasms to yours?

When you’re talking about real orgasms, she has an average of 5-10 each time we have sex and I’m at an average of 2/3 a year. If you include ruined orgasms my average would increase to about 7 or 8. So she typically orgasms more in one day than I do in an entire year. It’s actually pretty crazy when I put it in that context.

 

Coincidentally, I just worked out that since 16th December, and bearing in mind that they are rare for her...
Mrs Jay - 28
Jay - 19

 

We are close to a 5-1 ratio. I think it might drop to 10-1 by the end of the year. We will see.

 

You've touched on one of the more tangible goals of chastity for me. It used to be (before chastity) that my wife would cum maybe once every two times we had sex. That would put me up, (her-me 1-2). She would always say, "Oh, that's ok, it was fun anyway". Now with chasity, it's gone the other way, now she's up probably closer to 5-1. I will eat her out to orgasm every couple days. Then when we have PiV, she'll usually come 5 or more times.

It is as it should be.

To me, a female orgasm is the best sexual function there is. Why? Because it focuses a woman on her sex. And the more she has, the more she wants. A guy get's an orgasm and he's good for a day or two. A woman get's an orgasm and she wants another. A woman gets an orgasm by "opening up". Physically and emotionally. You can see this. as she approaches, she opens her legs wider or wraps them around my head. She'll buck and squirm.

So yeah, I absolutely LOVE her orgasms.

 

When you no longer orgasm, you don't need to count.

 

Yes, and I've been reminded by my wife. She hates me counting. I tell her I'm an engineer, I need to count. She just wants to enjoy.

 

When Mistress/Wife and i first met over 30 years ago the ratio would have been 100% opposite. She rarely had orgasms. At some point I found the formula for trigging her multiple orgasms including her big ones, and not with PIV. After that our relationship moved to more FLR and focuses on her needs first. Now locked/caged/submissive...and happy, our lives together have never been better.

 

It's been pretty equal, as she has not learned to accept that it's ok for her to be selfish yet and have more orgasms than me. She feels bad if and when we have sex if she gets off and I don't. She usually try to make it that way. I have no prob if she gets more than me. Her body is designed that way, but still she feels bad that she gets more than I do.

 

Bingo. But I suppose she's allowed to have that same desire for my pleasure as I have for hers.

 

I'd love to give my wife more orgasms. It makes me feel wonderful when she has one. But she is usually indifferent on the topic, except during fucking -- then she definitely wants it! So it always comes down to making sure that I last long enough for her to have at least one, and preferably a couple of them. That is hard, because she's way too sexy, and I can't last as long as I'd like to. And she wants me to cum.

 

I agree. I feel I get satisfaction and pleasure from giving her pleasure. But unfortunately no matter how I try to make that argument she still doesn't change her stance on it. Maybe one day eventually.

 

I voted n-1 as I take it you mean regular orgasms, and these I am not permitted, but I permitted anal orgasms, these I would have to guess at say 1-4.

 

Well so far this year I am at 26 and my wife is at 226 so we are at roughly 9:1 but more recently it is closer to 12-15:1.

 

Pretty much the same boat.

While the ratio these days is much closer to even than it was (I can easy orgasm multiple times per day if not caged) Almost without exception my partner will leave me out of my cage over night and tells me I can have another one before locking back up (usually with her present)....so roughly 2:1 ie I get twice as many as she does. Prior to chastity it would would have been more like 50:1

My new years resolution this year was for her to have more than me....well...that isn't going to happen unless I went orgasmless for the rest of the year (hope she doesnt read this!), I did do a 5 week stint orgasmless while she had 5 which gave me some hope. In any case she decides and I am happy with what ever she wants.

 

For the last 16 months, it's been my Wife (KH) a lot...Me...Zero..
My Wife has as many orgasms as she wants...Sometimes 3-4 a week, sometimes more. Depends how she is feeling and her mood. Most of the time she will masturbate in bed, beside me so I can keep her fingers wet. When she is done, she allows me to clean her fingers off. This drives me crazy.
I have gone from 6-10 orgasms a week (When we were first dating and after we got married). To 1-2 a month, when we first started male chastity, down to 3-4 a year and now zero for the last 16 months. My Wife has no reason to allow me to cum now. She enjoys teasing me and gets a kick out of making me leak. I not sure what will happen in the future, but I really don't think I will ever get to have a orgasm again unless my Wife allows it. She has told me, that I have gone this long without and she would hate for me to start at day one again. I really enjoy being denied and horny all the time. And it makes my Wife happy...I still get the odd blowjob or hand job, I just can't have a orgasm...

 

It has varied over the years... probably between 5:1 and 10:1 for much of that time. At first I felt guilty about the inequity, but now I embrace it. These days it is closer to 20:1, with most of his being ruined. If we only consider full orgasms then we were probably north of 100:1 during the first eight months of this year!

 

I’ve had 2 since March.
My wife has approx 16 per month so that comes to around 100.
50:1 ratio

lucky girl!!

 

My wife/key holder makes me keep count.

she’s very disappointed with me this year, I’ve ended up so far having far more orgasms than what she wanted.
I’ve so far had 12, and 7 of those have been ruined, my wife’s had 85, and 78 of those have been without me. She’s such a tease.
So does that put us on a 7:1 ratio?

My wife is determined to make it at least 10:1. No more for me this year she’s informed me.

 

Last night was a win. Lol we don't tend to have sex much these days, seems like life has gotten us both burning the candle at both ends and by the time we find ourselves in bed we both just want to cuddle and go to bed.

Well last night was a bit different. I noticed as we were embracing each other that she was a bit more touchy than most nights which ment to me that she was in the mood so I as well began to caress her body all over, slowly working to her " hot spots". Finally she got to the point that she wanted more than just finger tips teasing her and got on top of me and started grinding her hip on to my un caged penis while rubbing her clit as I was enjoying her breasts. Eventually she decided to take her panties off and began grinding again. She asked if I had any lub since she was getting a bit dry with all the fans we have in our bedroom.

I put my arms under her legs and pulled her up over my face and said that I can give you some lubrication. And began to eat her while she started to hump my face and rub her clit. Not shortly after she was over the edge and took all I had for her to not be able to pull off my mouth and keep her from breaking my neck lol. I held my mouth and tongue on her pussy and clit till all her waves of pleasure sub sided. And I helped her off my face and she lay on top of me in a embrace of euphoric calmness. And I said I'm glad you decided to be selfish tonight. I know you don't like to not have me get mine if you get yours. She said she likes us to have equal five and take. I said it's ok to be selfish In your sexual desires and fantasies. I want you to be more selfish. I want you to enjoy your god given ability to have multiple orgasms if you want. Teasing me and denying me makes me want you and pleasure so much more. I want you to hold my key to my chastity cage, I want you to enjoy your pleasure. It gives me pleasure and satisfaction to give you pleasure.

She said ok, and that she also gets satisfaction giving me pleasure. But that she will try to allow her self to be more selfish, to ask or demand sexual pleasure when ever she wants and not expect to have to give any in return.

So I am going to mark that as a win. Slow and steady progress at her pace.

 

T.B.C