“Not letting you cum until you cry”

I would love to get that desperate and vulnerable, crying in the arms of my wife KH, and then to hear her strong voice denial me again

 

If you got caught faking, you will definitely cry.

 

Young man, how long did you go without an orgasm. two weeks?
I am curious about your report in a month.

 

Personally, I've never cried, but I've begged. My wife I told me she was going to leave me locked to a specific date about 6 weeks in the future. Week 5 was insane! I begged. Then she told me to get on my knees and beg. Then she still told me no, and smirked when doing it. Had I not known that I only had one more week, good chance I would have cried.

However, the psychology of knowing that crying is what will grant release is fascinating. For me the uncertainty of when or if is what makes me feel desperate. Knowing that crying would grant release would make it less likely, I think, I could cry.

Have fun and careful what you wish for.

P.S. - I do not understand how people go months and months and months. After 6 weeks I practically had cum coming out of my tear ducts. The best way I can think about it is the difference in running a 5k and a marathon. I can run 5 or 10k, but a marathon seems impossible.

 

Is it "faking it" if you're so desperate for an orgasm that you're willing to cry to get it?

 

haha, you are in big trouble.

Off to acting classes for you, boy.

 

Do the words matter?

I love hearing hubby beg for an orgasm. But it's the frantic desperation in his voice that does it, not the literal meaning of anything he is saying.

We have "play" begging and "real" begging. The play begging is fine... it's just one of those rituals we have. He's ask to cum, I'll say no, he'll start begging, I'll listen for a while, maybe egg him on a bit, and then give a final no. Through it all he knows he's not going to cum. He may not even truly want to cum yet. It's more role playing than anything else. It's not genuine, but it's fun.

The real begging is rarer, and special. The words might be pretty much the same, but the tone is very different. At that point he isn't worried about awkwardness, there's no thought behind what he's saying.

If this is what your girlfriend wants, then don't overthink it. If you're worried about what to say, then you aren't desperate enough yet. That's fine. Give it another week or two or three. My advice to your girlfriend: wait for it to be real, it's easy to tell the difference.

 

I haven’t been desperate enough to cry for an orgasm yet, my longest denial periods have been in the mid 50 day range.
Now what’s becoming worse and I think would get me to beg more and possibly cry is the erection denial and the worst of the worst for me, piv denial.
This May she only allowed piv once and I thought I was going to go insane waiting for it again! Then June she allowed it nine times, but now in the last 16 days it’s only been once. So she keeps me guessing and it drives me mental!
She just started her period too, so it’ll be days of no piv still. And I know she loves it, driving me crazy and still denying letting me get hard and entering her.
She’s got this keyholder thing down pretty damn well and I love her so much for wanting to do this with me.

 

Keep strong my friend. I am 6 week without piv, before that 3 months without piv. And many people over even much much longer.

 

Not cried for an orgasm but i have told her to spank/whip my ass, cock or balls till i cry for her to stop, she did make me cry and i felt very submissive and humiliated after, not sure if i could cry genuinely for an orgasm

 

That's very interesting to hear from your perspective. If I may ask a few questions-How do you handle that part? Just curious if you enjoy that moment and know it's time, or do you push him further? How much further would you push him? I know you have a very close relationship with your husband so I always wonder how someone in your spot would approach a true desperation point...

 

My approach has evolved over time. Before the switch to full time chastity, such moments were extremely rare, and I took them as a signal that it was time to give hubby an orgasm.

Now that hubby is waiting longer between orgasm, I get a little more practice at handling those moments of true desperation. They are still rare, and I treasure them, but my response has changed. If we're pretty far away from the release time I have in mind, then I don't budge at all. I might let him beg for a minute or two, then I gently remind him that it isn't time yet and I comfort him. That last bit is important. I'll lie with my head on his chest, just hugging him for a while.

If we're in the ballpark of his next release time, I'm still likely to say no (and comfort him). But there are other options as well. The first is to simply let him cum after several more minutes of intense begging. I did that a few times last year. Very fun. A newer option is sort of a conditional yes. I'll give him a task to complete first (e.g. give me a pedicure), or specify a time in the very near future (e.g. tonight, after dinner). It's a way to push him just a little bit further, but with the definite promise of an orgasm. I've tried this twice, and both times were fantastic.

I used to worry about pushing hubby. Something we put in place a long time ago is that if he thought I was pushing too far he could tell me. Then I'd ask him again 24 hours later (dressed, no teasing, etc). If he still felt it was too much then we'd end it. I do the same thing after those true desperation moments. I check in the next day, and so far he's said he's ok every time. I know others might feel this sort of "safety net" ruins things. But I value it tremendously. Without it I'd always be second guessing myself and probably wouldn't push nearly as hard as I do. With it, I can be assured that even if I totally misread things the worst possible outcome is 24 hours of frustration for hubby.

 

I just showed my wife your two posts.
"Just made it more difficult for yourself didn't you?"
"Don't I always"

 

Thank you for such a detailed answer. It's good to see you finding your own way without some of the fanaticism we see on this site. So many will scoff at "giving in", having a safety net or slightly changing your schedule but it seems the relationship is often lost in those conversations. In the end it's between a wife and her husband (generalizing here) and it should be fun, rewarding, exciting and for the guy a combo if that and frustration. I always feel taking that frustration too far removes some of the magic and replaces it with a bit of misery. I know you used to grant him weekly and then monthly- is that where you still are or is closer to quarterly etc?

 

That sounds fantastic. Maybe add some pain into the scene, something unbearable like clothes pins on your nipples etc.

Personally I would be more worried that she would give in, and let me have orgasm without crying. That is just me

 

It has always been important for us to keep it fun. Hubby's at roughly four full orgasms per year, though it isn't a strict schedule. I probably wouldn't go shorter than 2 months or longer than 4, but anything in between is good. Ruined orgasms are a critical part of that plan. A ruin every two or three weeks is just enough to prevent the frustration from turning negative. Without ruins, going much longer than a month would be "too far".

 

Crying and begging are definitely 'no go's' for my wife. If I keep asking after she has given a definite 'no' it is a guaranteed path to extra time in chastity. And if I keep asking or begging, then she employs other punishments. I have learned that it is not acceptable behaviour.

 

Usually everything starts with "the prisoner" doing all the crying, so maybe she wasn't talking about your eyes?! (and remember: precum is the nectar of denial!)

 

Agreed! After I've been denied for about a week, the tears of denial drip profusely from my little guy every time she teases me. Begging is so much easier when she teases you to the point of desperation I think.

 

A lady I served was very good at making me cry but not with the inducement of cumming. She’d forbid me to pee for hours on end… I say forbid - I was allowed to pee but had to re-drink it all until she finally let me get rid of it in the normal way. After even two drinks I was begging in tears for it to end… after literally a whole night it was hell. Trying to hold it in, failing, faced with another drinking ordeal… an entirely wretched predicament and needless to say the penalties for not completing the allotted time were terrifying. I have never felt so degraded before or since.

 

Needless to say, she found it highly amusing…