Struggling with long term chastity

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    #1 Natasha1984, Jul 4, 2023
    Hi All

    My name is Natasha. My husband and I have enjoyed chastity play as a part of our kinks for 23 years.

    We have about 10 or so various devices, many that users would consider to be good cages. 2 years ago I learnt that my husband was able to pull himself out of his cage and play with himself at times of extreme arousal. Although I knew this was possible, it has challenged my views on chastity.

    Further to learning this, no matter what cage we use, we can only ever play in this way for a week or so before his cock begins to ware in areas, causing cuts and deep seeded bruising. It ends up cutting our chastity play short which adds to my frustration.

    I have joined today to learn more about other people's journeys and to find tips and tricks to enhance and prolong our chastity experience.
     
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    #2 LesterBallard, Jul 4, 2023
    Hello and welcome. Yes, there's no such thing as a cage a man can't cum in, if he really wants. It really comes down to trust. You could consider more serious options such as a PA. Good luck.
     
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    #3 laohuboy, Jul 4, 2023
    Welcome, I guess it's just another part of the body we have to get used to changing with age :)

    If your serious players (25 years says Yes) - maybe you consider a custom cage? or one that's highly customizable ?
     
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    #4 peter7447, Jul 4, 2023
    Chastity is best, if combined with:

    1) a PA piercing,
    2) an obedient slave,
    3) a Mistress that does not hesitate to severely punish cheating.

    … and of course: Lots of teasing.

    Good luck.
     
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    #5 Steelwerks Slave, Jul 4, 2023
    There are options out there that will allow long term chastity without discomfort. There are also options that will make his arousals very painful and maybe even impossible to climax. Look into custom chastity cages with disciplinary spikes or mechanisms like with steelwerks.
     
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    #6 MissyB, Jul 4, 2023
    Welcome to our community. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    #7 madams-sissysub, Jul 4, 2023
    Hi there and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    #8 JaySaysYes, Jul 4, 2023
    Piercing attache custom cage is the way forward. Sure, it's expensive, but not much more than spending money on 10 or so devices that don't work.

    Buy cheap, buy 10 times, as they say.
     
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    #9 RC-Oz, Jul 4, 2023
    I'm curious about the cuts and bruising - does this happen with all ten devices? I have a couple of cages which cause this, but plenty that don't. Also, does it happen on the penis or around the scrotum? If it's the scrotum or perineum, then it might just be a ring size problem (especially if there has been any weight gain during the intervening period).
     
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    #10 Alceste, Jul 5, 2023
    Physical damage in the way of open cuts should not be allowed to happen. That is due to a faulty device.
     
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    #11 Caged for life, Jul 5, 2023
    Welcome to the mansion, if your husband is an escape artist you may want to consider a PA piercing and a custom cage for it that locks the cage to the tip of his penis
     
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    #12 Natasha1984, Jul 5, 2023
    Thanks for everyones thoughts.

    Some of the cages we have and regularly use are the Holy Trainer, CB6000s, Bird Cage Pico, numerous cheap Chinese knock off's and just recently purchased a Cobra V20.

    He has been pierced since 2001 though we haven't wanted to make the jump into custom cages however I am beginning to feel as though it is necessary if we are going to make this work for us long term.

    My husband would often manage to wear a cage successfully for a month or more though these days, the damage to his balls and skin is just a lot.

    To answer the question around the damage, the biggest problem is too much foreskin getting caught where it shouldn't and his left ball sitting up too high which causes constant pain.

    I'll look out for some threads on custom cages. I'll also look forward to finding some time to poke around and contribute myself.
     
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    #13 JaySaysYes, Jul 5, 2023
    I can't speak for my lovely GF/KH but for me everything changed when she bought a piercing attached Badassworkroom device. I never pulled out anyway, since it would be cheating myself more than anything, but knowing I can't makes a ton of difference.

    Horizontal bars on cages look great, like this one, but they are the source of a lot of pinching. I am uncircumcised and struggled with pinching until going for something with vertical bars.

    Daily use of a lubricant where the base ring pinches and is "grabby" behind the balls is a game-changer too.

    Maybe he could create an account and ask advice directly, there is a lot of useful advice on this forum.
     
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    #14 Tails, Jul 5, 2023
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    Hi everyone,

    @Natasha1984 other half here. To be clear I have only pulled out once when I found out about it and yes, I was like a little kid who got his toy back and played with it for a while. However, I did not finish for the exact reason @JaySaysYes mentioned. I would only be cheating myself. I think what my wife is saying, is that this is also about her and only 100% security will do. Granted I may still be able to come in some way or another. I won't be playing with my cock to get there. That piece of my body will truly become hers. And please don't mention the spikes again she has a evil mind and if that means no cumming for me and she gets to see me suffer well...
    So why no cage with a piercing yet? With the amount of trouble we have had with other cages we couldn't justify taking the risk only for it to become another ornament on our shelf, waiting for everything to heal and my horniness to overtake my fear of BCWUWF and I put the cage back on.

    Thanks everyone for the welcome and advice.
     
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    #15 JaySaysYes, Jul 6, 2023
    I'd like to say we experienced similar but my GF was all over it and wanted security ASAP. We still went through some crappy cages before she bought one steel badassworkroom piercing attached cage, and now I'm in a titanium one, slightly different refined measurments.

    It's totally worth it.
     
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    #16 MrDoubleyou, Jul 7, 2023
    I had given up on ever finding the perfect (custom) chastity cage until I found Badassworkroom. This guy saved my chastity fetish and my girlfriend cannot imagine her going without me it anymore too. I highly recommend this supplier; get your measurements right and you will have the perfect cage for lifetime.
     
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    #17 Natasha1984, Jul 8, 2023
    Thank you, I am looking into this as an option.
     
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    #18 Annemarie, Jul 8, 2023
    Me too, also Badassworkroom
     
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    #19 cb1984, Jul 8, 2023
    Ridgid chastity makes great devices for those that are pierced as well. Big fan of their work. I have been locked for 3 months without issues.
     
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    MCN i'm happy with my glans armour
     
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    #21 Shepherdsflock, Jul 9, 2023
    I had some issues with comfort in my original Holy Trainer. Abrasion, skin irritation, etc. All of that was resolved when I switched to a Mature Metal custom made cage.

    We never went the piercing route. But it sounds like that would be optimal for you as a couple. A PA piercing with a security screw, and keep the key somewhere safe where not even the greatest temptation can access it.

    I would give it one more shot with a PA piercing and custom stainless cage from a reputable company. I had the Queen's Keep and could have worn it without issue for years. I have heard the same about PA style devices from Lori's, Mature Metal, and other reputable custom makers.
     
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    #22 Ormaz, Jul 16, 2023
    I agree with Steelwerks Slave, there are cheap knockoffs cages that come with anti-off ring. Have him wear that during daytime, until he understands.
     
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    #23 Natasha1984, Jul 21, 2023
    Does anyone else experience ball pain. My husbands left testicle always sits in a way that causes discomfort. This is one of the main reasons why longer term chastity doesn't work for us, it just becomes to uncomfortable.

    Any advice or suggestions?
     
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    #24 nonamesissy, Jul 24, 2023
    i'm in a long-term cage from koalaswim, and the design is the most comfortable i've ever had. although mine is a microcage, you may feel it worth looking into.
     
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    #25 ssendam, Jul 29, 2023
    Can I ask which badassworkroom device you have? I see they have some models that are similar to Lori’s tubes which I’ve heard in the past were one of the most secure devices.
     
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