PIV w/no orgasm

I might not, but I want to know what it’s all about before my wife reads it. She reads a lot! She’ll destroy it in one evening if it has a good plot line…
The the concern is that this will lead to her believing i don’t want sex, rather than an understanding of why it’s better without orgasm.

 

Yep, valid risk. My wife and I read it and it had us 'off' for a bit. This was well before orgasm control and we actually landed on orgasm control through our own experiences and ideas vs the book. The book then indirectly came back around as a proof point.

Cupid's Poison Arrow and Dopamine Nation probably do need the right context for discussion so it doesn't throw understanding and expectations way off.

 

+ intimacy rather than the race to orgasm...for both partners

 

If she draws that conclusion then you can be sure she didn't read it.

 

i've not been locked for nearly as long as some of you. yesterday she restrained my hands and feet, uncaged my dicklette, and straddled my face. while she fucked my face, i licked her pussy like a fiend and she gave me oral. she was able to edge me for a while (as you probably know, i was super sensitive and ready to cum almost immediately) then she stopped briefly. she then tells me she's going to get on and ride my dicklette, and that she was going to give me 5 strokes, and that i had better not cum. well, i lasted only 3 strokes. she let what seemed like quarts of cum shoot inside her, and as my punishment for cumming without permission, when my dicklette was done throbbing, she immediately scooted her pussy right back up and onto my face for me to clean up. it was totally worth it.

 

My k/h likes PIV without me cumming.

 

My wife and I have been playing this way lately, and I love it. She's never been shy about stroking her clit when we have PIV, since PIV alone doesn't usually do it for her - but once she starts she can keep rolling from just PIV. After she enjoys her orgasms, she usually lets me stop or not on my own if I want to, but recently she's been stopping me and clenching her legs to push me out of her when she can tell I'm close.

I like getting to that plateau stage and stopping. With an orgasm, I'm done. When I don't have one, I still get the intimacy of sex with her and enjoy that nicely horny and desperate burn that slowly fades (sometimes it lasts until the next day). Sometimes she's too sensitive for me to go down on her even though I'm so amped up, but I get pretty lucky sometimes and can bury my face between her legs for a few moments before she "says when".

We don't indulge in chastity, so in between it's just "the honor system" for me - but I look forward to getting back inside of her so much that I just savor the lust and wait, if that makes any sense.

 

My wife doesn’t cum too much or as good from PIV. She does sometimes let me inside and relishes any orgasms she might get from it but generally it’s used as a tactic to tease and frustrate me.

 

Time will tel for us.

 

It’s actually rare for her to NOT unlock me and have me inside her. She loves it and prefers at least some of her orgasms come from penetration. I do not get to cum but I have learned to control myself so I can last as long as she needs me to. Recently she has started telling me to hit the edge when she’s close and as soon as I do, which she can tell by my face and the sudden lack of movement, she has the most ridiculous orgasms. I guess she found out that actually seeing and feeling that moment of denial for me increases her pleasure which is great for her and definitely tough for me.

 

Early on we tried PIV without me having an orgasm, but she doesn't really prefer that. She enjoys making me cum in all sorts of uncomfortable ways. Also, as denial time increases my stamina level decreases until I pop off in seconds.

My Wife enjoys PIV with me but hates my hormone drop after an orgasm. I do my best to be as docile and polite as possible but I still have mood swings she doesn't like.

So in the end it became a choice for her, embrace denial for her sub which results in denial for herself, or give me orgasms but suffer me until I get my docility back. She enjoys my compliance more than my dick so caging it was.

She has brought up a few times lately uncaging me and then just beating me every day. I of course voice no opinion in the matter as it's not my place, but I did suggest that She could combine the two tools in some way.

 

As it should be!

 

PIV has become more somewhat more rare since we opened our relationship, but still happens quite regulary. Orgasms from it for me though are a very rare thing. I might be able to count them on one hand...

@BavarianWoman Pegging might give a pleasurable feeling you both might be able to advance to some degree with time. I would say though that it is impossible to achieve a feeling as good as with prostate stimulation by hand.
It is simply impossible to hit the prostate as good and with as much sensitivity as you can do with your hand...

 

On a few occasions she has unlocked me, and then hops on top for just a few seconds of PIV. Then gets of and says "good night sweety". I love it when she does that!

 

Truer words never have been spoken!