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I always like to think that chastity was quickly accepted into our lives. It took only 17 days from really asking for it for my wife to become comfortable and start actively denying orgasms and release…. However, when I really consider it. We had a chastity cage for way over a year laying redundant with our other sex toys. She frankly stated that ‘the cage was the one toy she didn’t like’! It was nearly disposed of in one of my clear outs.
It has been a gradual process over the years to go from feeling sorry for me and constantly unlocking to now the locks are longer and she has much less sympathy. She gets it and supports my desire to remain locked. She's strong when I'm weak. She no longer feels compelled to give me an orgasm simply because she wants one. It takes time but it was time well spent.
I couldn't answer the poll because I'm the Keyholder. I suggested it to husband when he was still boyfriend. He agreed to it. It arrived on weekday. He got locked in it on a Friday.
Still not completely there, but I answered immediately because she found out within 24hrs of my first purchase, and things have developed from there. 2 years on and we are still learning.
I didn't vote, because Mistress "suggested" it first. She did wait about 9 months from when we met. (Good poll, though!)
Maybe it's just semantics or a technicality, because the chastity wasn't immediate....although it may well have been her intention all along. LOL
First day was my idea, 2nd day she made it permanent. Didn't expect that. 27 more days will be 5 years so far.
It took a few months for her to warm to it. When I had to take a business trip without her, she suddenly liked the idea of me wearing a cage
I usually fly when I take business trips and she WILL NOT take chances with TSA. I'm caged the rest of the time but I think she's convinced that I jerk off when I travel. In the past, that was certainly the case but now it is a matter of honor but only when she reminds me to "be good."
We had used plastic, resin, then custom locker 1, my wife worked a 2 wk on 2wk off. When she left 4 her 2 wk shift. I got locked up. she loved the attention and how attentive I became. I started to want more as getting that release became a real low. I asked for permanent chastity and it lasted 8 months straight, the device split. In that time we met 2 different guys, I hoped they would satisfy my wife ect. The first guy I was to suck him hard as my wife doesn’t like cock in her mouth. I didn’t either but anything for her. He got hard and blew his load straight away, no warning and I swallowed not obviously planned. Next guy the same thing blew his load. But he actually stayed hard but again my wife wasn’t that keen on him. So we gave up on Bulls just 2 hard. After the cage broke, we became vanilla again. Life family. 18 months later got the custom cage. 3 months later my wife said no more. She was concerned for medical reasons. I found my once very hard erections were a lot softer and harder to get. Fast forward 1 April 22 we decided I would follow the honour system. So I no longer have organum. Only my Queen has them. I can hold the toy while on my knees beside the bed with a hood on. I’m no longer allowed to see my wife naked or touch her in any sexual way. I wear panties full time now. I lick and kiss my Queens ass hole. This is done to reinforce my position as her submissive property. I have never been happier. I would never consider cumming. I do pull it and stop. My Queen never touch’s it. Hits it with a plastic ladle because it’s no pathetic in her eyes. Me briefly lol
Short answer: immediately, but she thought it would be temporary. She agreed because I told her about my masturbation and porn problem and that I wanted her to be in control of my sexuality. She took the key and the lockbox and has kept it from me since which was 7.5 months ago. Our sex life went from Zero to 60 overnight. I had used chastity initially without her knowledge because we were in a sexless marriage. I was trying to lose weight. It was an incentive. When i got down to my desired weight and stayed there, I felt good about myself and more sexual. I started teasing myself via nipple play. I was masturbating more frequently but decided I wanted restored intimacy in my marriage. I put the cage on to stop from pleasuring myself while traveling. I bought a lockbox for the key and a cage with anti-pullouts so I couldn't cheat. When we both got back home and settled, I confessed my infidelity and begged her to help me be the man I want to be for her. Explaining teasing and orgasm denial and how it would change my behavior was a huge factor in her acceptance of the key. I had no idea what would happen, but the reality became my dream! (Yes, I got the words in the right order. )
I said "within a week". It was my idea, and asked her to "indulge me" for my birthday, so she was perfectly willing to do it right away ... and we didn't really "stop" afterwards. But it took her more like 6-8 months to realize she really wanted me in chastity vs. not in it.
Immediately with some reservations, agreed to give it a go. Very soon saw positive changes and it's now an integral part of our relationship. Definitely beyond the point of no return.