Yesterday it was 100 days since my last orgasm. It is first time I am so long denied. I have no idea when I will get the next one but my Wife says that 'not soon'. It is more and more difficult for me to imagine my orgasm. I am very curious what it would be like. But I am also quite much scared how I would feel afterwards. I am affraid that it will bring about a huge emotional drop. What are your experiences with orgasms after such a long time?
if you can go 100 days theres no reason to ever have another orgasm . why spoil it just enjoy the ride and stay O free for ever
After a couple of weeks for me it's "Yessss, awesome, I feel so much better" but after a month or more, or recently 122 days, a new record by a large margin, "So was that it then? Not sure it was worth the bother".
After I get passed the first few weeks without a orgasm and being locked in a cage, I really don't want to have any type of release. I hate the drop and having to restart again. After 35-40 days, my Wife(KH) will force me to have a orgasm and she knows I don't want to. The longest I have gone without any release is two months. For the 6-7 seconds of pleasure, I would rather not have a orgasm at all, In fact, I have asked my Wife to stop, so I don't cum. Some times she will, other times I have no say in the matter.
Just about 2 years ago, I was locked in my cage for 100 days without an orgasm over a misunderstanding. Once it was discovered I was the victim of a lie, my wife made every effort to correct the situation and get back home to me. While I was uncaged the 7 days it took her to get back, I ended up going 107 days in total. In all honesty, the 7 days uncaged and not rubbing out an orgasm was far more difficult than the 100 days. I commend you for setting this significant milestone.
But last year we reached 100 days of orgasm denial for me. This year she kept me denied 114 days and I didn’t even notice we set a new record. She’s now telling me to expect “months” between orgasms. Not weeks or mere days like in years past. Just one orgasm doesn’t wipe me too badly. She puts me back in my cage and my demeanor is still pretty good. But I’m at the point where I’m wanting to stay denied. I felt like that during my 3 month caged denial last year. I didn’t want it to end. I didn’t want it to be permanent but I wanted to keep floating. Kept tingly and drippy in my cage. I understand your fear of crashing. But my wife’s telling me not to fear orgasms either. It takes a while to figure out the dance. Feeling controlled is paramount. At least for me. Getting to snooze soundly after an orgasm and then caged again can be nice. Try not to get grumpy
im in self enposed chastity with no cage { my first cage made me so sore that many months later i still cant wear one } but so far ive gone 78 days without a O and then had a weak moment and cum if id been wearing a cage that would not have hapend . my goal is to be completly O free perminantly im shure when i can wear a cage again i can easily achive this
Well done on 100 days. Great effort. I've found the first orgasm after a long period of chastity is usually pretty underwhelming. Don't know why. And you're right to think about the drop. I definitely get it. It's not nice. Good luck.
I think the pleasure peaks around two weeks, by four weeks it's maybe less than a daily orgasm gives although with a partner involved I could be teased to desperation very easily and a good orgasm results. I was actually out of the belt in about 112 days but as everything was a bit sore I wasn't desperate to try an orgasm for a couple of days. Then I realised it was close to four months which would be an impressive record, but another two days more would make a third of a year so I held out which didn't turn out to be too difficult. In fact I wouldn't have needed much incentive to go for six months and then maybe even a year. (Yet for forty years I've had a consistent three to four orgasms a day when not under control.) I can totally understand arrangements where the wearer is allowed a clean and 'functional' orgasm once a month and then straight back in.
I get this a lot. Sometimes the orgasm is painful if it's been a while. I used to live for the orgasm, so this was a rude surprise.
Hi, As I write this, I have been locked and been kept orgasm free for over 440 days. Previous to this lock-up, I think my longest period of being locked up was about 100 days. I remember after that time, that my first orgasm felt good, but it was disappointing in that I expected it to feel much better after all of that time. And disappointed that I felt like I almost let myself down by ending my consecutive days of lock-up. And I was really disappointed that my 24/7 horniness level for my Wife was greatly diminished. In other words, I didn't think it was worth it. During this current lock-up period, I have no desire to have an orgasm. My Wife has pretty much told me from the start of this lock-up that this will be A LONG session, and not to expect release any time soon. In truth, this lock-up was brought about at Her suggestion due to an indiscretion on my part, so I feel like I am fortunate She agreed to locking me as punishment. So far, I think I've done very well, but I've really noticed some changes in myself that I didn't notice during the 100 day lock-up. Mostly now, I am constantly horny for my Hot, Sexy Wife & KeyHolder. This time She has embraced Her position in this lock-up as we work toward our FLR. During the previous 100 day lock-up, She didn't completely embrace the power and control She had. Now there is no doubt that She is aware of the power and control She has over me, and She really loves it. She has discovered that not only does She love that power and control, She also gets turned on by seeing me squirm in pain as she does ball-busting and crushing and other CBT activities. She knows how to work me up to a frenzy while I'm locked in my cage, but my orgasm is forbidden. She LOVES seeing me get frustrated without being able to orgasm because it reminds Her of the many times when She would get frustrated and not be able to come, for whatever reason. So She teases me and enjoys Her torment of me. She drives me so crazy that I frequently beg her to NEVER let me come again, something which She really seems to like to hear. She then will ask if I want Her to have an orgasm for "us". I think it's Her way of feeling a bit less selfish in that She knows I fully enjoy assisting with Her orgasm, in whatever manner She desires that I help. During Her, or "our" orgasm, I feel a "release" as well, but I DON'T lose my horniness. In fact, it seems to increase. I hug, kiss, massage, and cuddle with her until She has completely returned from Her high. Oftentimes, I do that until She drifts off to sleep and then I do the same. If it's a daytime romp, then She will get up, sometimes give my nipples an additional minute or two of teasing to drive me crazy, but then She just gets up and tells me to do the same. Ok, long answer, I know. To be honest, I don't WANT to come again. I mean, at times I do sometimes entertain the idea, but I KNOW that our relationship now is in a better place in terms of our intimacy than it has been for years (our 30th Anniversary is just around the corner). We both LOVE where we are in this and I have a concern that IF I do something to break this current dynamic, we might have difficulty returning to it. I know that there is NO WAY my own orgasm will make me feel anywhere near as good as I feel holding Her during HER orgasm. And I have such a concern that the drop I will experience afterward will ruin my 24/7 horniness to hold, hug, touch and love Her after Her orgasm. She has grown to enjoy that attention as well. I guess none of us can tell you how you'll feel. There are so many variables which could come into play. At this point, I think the best thing to do is to let your Wife make the decision. That's really what this is all about for many of us...handing control of and entrusting our sexual pleasure to one we love. If you don't do so already, you could learn to enjoy Her orgasm even more, so that you'll feel a sense of "release" when she has Her orgasm. For me, I have definitely conditioned myself to enjoy that feeling far more than what I remember my own orgasm to be. It is all about Her. Good Luck, ~subrick P.S. I'm of Polish heritage as well, but my family members immigrated to the U.S. in the late 1800's and early 1900's. But perhaps your ancestors and mine might have shared a cave or two sometime way back when!
Reading this and realising we’ve also just gone past 100 days, a first for us. I really want to get out, have a full erection and an orgasm, but I’m also apprehensive how it will be after all this time. Amd I don’t know when a release might come. She keeps saying “maybe soon”.
@Lakeman I assume that “maybe” is the operative word in that phrase and not “soon”. Just enough to give you hope but not enough to give you a target. Sounds like she’s a great key holder.
Thank you for profound answer. Certainly, I let my Wife make the decision, I can not decide it at all. I also learn to enjoy her orgasm instead of my own. Nice to hear!
I agree with Debbie. By 100 days, most of the extreme horniness and anxiety should be gone. You should just be feeling the overall high that comes with denial. Why not just become pussy-free and orgasm-free for good? Your pleasure will be derived solely from her pleasure, and I'll bet she'll be happy for you to make that kind of commitment.
Congratulations, subrick! Isn't it great? I've been orgasm-free for 550 days now, and I've accepted that I won't have any more. It's really a great feeling to realize your pleasure is completely a function of her pleasure. I love that feeling of dependence.
@Dr MBogo was it your wife's decision to make you orgasm-free forever or your own and you asked her, or a common decision? How did you come to that point?
Discomfort or not, I am very much looking forward to intimate times with my wife and a full orgasm. So far it's been 343 days of no unlocks.
Good question-we almost just fell into it. She decided initially on no more PIV, but with the option for blowjobs or hand jobs from her, or masturbation. After a while, those became fewer and further between, and we found pegging. She can actually make me have a fluid discharge from anal stimulation alone. It's not really the same as penile stimulation, but it's not bad. After that we realized I didn't need any more penile stimulation-and thats been over 18 months ago. she takes me with the strap on, or allows me to use a dildo/vibrator one or twice a month. That's become sex for me, and we both enjoy it. As a side note, 2 weeks ago when I was unlocked for cleaning, she asked me to see if I could get hard. After 20 minutes of jerking, it was still soft and small. We tried again a couple of days later, and after a while it got slightly hard, but not enough for intercourse. I've been locked since then. I suspect that if I kept at it, it would eventually get hard again, but neither she or I are concerned about that. So, I'm probably done with erections also.