1st time doing chastity as Alpha male...guidance please!

See? This is what I’m saying. She’s over the freaked out part of male chastity and already likes the idea of you locked. She WANTS you locked up. Dont ask her n dont make a big deal of it but just start wearing it 24/7 and really the only thing you s/b asking her is if you can have the key to clean up/shave. If this continues as I think it will she’ll have you on lock down full time! You say you're alpha then show it! Same with my PA. I begged my wife for months n months to get one she kept saying no. She was freaked over the idea of the needle piercing my dick more then me. Finally I just told her I was doing it n went n did it while she held my hand. (Awww) So put that cage on so you can start the shrinkage process! (news? yeap...gonna get lil dick. caging causes shrinkage. might wanna keep that part to yourself n not tell the gf! lol)
Sometimes ya just gotta man up to be submissive! Lol

 

The holy trainer is virtually invisible even wearing jeans.

 

Sounds familiar. My journal may be of interest. Tell her you want help to stop masturbating and watching porn, so each time with her is special. It sounds like you want or need to be locked most of the time anyway. For my very vanilla wife, saving myself for her is the good reason to pursue this. She isn't kinky in anyway, and it turns out, to my surprise, that this chastity thing is less about the kink than I thought. It is about that deeper connection to our wives recognising that at home, they should rule the roost. They make personal decisions based on their brains, we think with our dicks.

No one has noticed my HTV4. Even the teenage kids when I'm in boxers wouldn't notice.

 

Just remember! It’s on your mind 24/7 but not hers! Go at her pace! Read everybody’s comment and pick and choose what might work in your situation. For my wife and I, In the beginning, I got to the point where I had no problem wearing the cage for a period of time! My arrangement with my wife after I got to that point... I would lock up in the morning before work. Visible lay the key on my night stand! If she wanted the key, she took it! I would not know until I got home from work what my status was! Sometimes I would text her throughout the day but she didn’t play along! Felt I was bugging her?!?! Then, I didn’t text her for a couple weeks but she was still aware I was locking up! Then one day, about a month later, I came home and no key! What a rush! She never said anything about it until we got in bed! She ended up wearing my ass out making me pleasure her! That’s when I figured out, if I’m going to be chaste and have any chance of trying to satisfy her needs, then I better get in better shape! Today, she has no problem telling me to lock up!
With that in mind, it seems your wife gets pretty frisky when she drinks (Love it for you cause my wife doesn’t drink)! And your cage was obviously on her mind while out with the girls! Maybe do as one person on here suggested.... one night when she is ready to go out with the girls, give her $50.00 and your key! Or maybe place the key where you’ll know she will find it after she’s left! Car, purse, something like that.

Good luck to you!

 

I would ask her if it is something she wants you to do because she likes it or likes the idea of it. It is obviously already on the table, but if she hasn't made the move to asking you to do it full time... She just might not want to do it or hasn't thought about it as a possibility.

It sounds like you have a good relationship with her already, and introducing chastity really needs to be a things that she wants if your KH is your partner as well. I wouldn't ask her or tell her that you want to do it.... I would ask her if she would want you to do it full time.

In the event that you do start wearing it fulltime, you guys should invest in a more study device like a Mature Metal. It could be a fun experience for her to even pick out the design herself and you pick out the measurements.

Lemme know how it works out for you.

 

I'd say wear it at all times and give her both keys. Let her know anytime she wants sex she can take it off. Worries about getting hurt and being caught is just an excuse to not wear it. All in is the best way to go!

 

I am also an alpha I run three companies and have to be in control obviously at all times and have the respect from my staff
On the other hand it is such a wonderful feeling to let go and be dominated I find that feeling very addictive as it such a switch from everyday life
My wife loves.me locked and have been for many years now .it a lifestyle for us
If only the staff knew I was locked and in panties under my suit
I think it brings balance...but hey we love it so enjoy life you never know what's round the corner

 

I would just start wearing it fulltime. Random is just that, random. She likes the idea of you being locked up already n so just do it.
As for work n getting hurt... it wouldnt be from the cage so whats your worry? Only worry you should have is if your tongue is gonna be up to this! Lol

 

I would consider myself in a very similar situation as you, I live my life day to day as an alpha type male. Career in the trades, playing multiple physical sports, hunting, fishing etc. chastity is a way for me to let go sort of speak and it seems like that’s what it is for you too. My girlfriend of 3 years and I have been playing with chastity for about a year and a half now and you will see how your dynamic will change and evolve over time (for the better). Eventually when you lock yourself up she will see qualities in you that the unlocked version of yourself doesn’t show regularly. She will grow to like the locked you better. Everybody is different but in my case I don’t feel chastity has made me a wimp... I just know who the boss is when I come home. Also in my case my GF/KH does not allow me to put myself in chastity when I please, it’s her decision alone when I go in and come out of the cage. She likes the power she has over me sometimes telling me no when I want to be locked up. Just some food for thought about letting go and handing her the reigns over you and your home life. All In all don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t go where you want when you want it, show her the better version of you when you are in chastity and eventually she will see how it is a fun kink for her too. Stick with it the updates you have shared sound promising!

 

In my own experience, it is better to let her take things at her own pace, although you will probably need to be patient. She may be hesitant at times, wondering if this is what you really want and is she doing it right for you. Lots of positive reinforcement and the occasional gentle nudge should keep you heading in the right direction.

 

She said yes! And she wants you to go down on her after her period and “earn your release”!!! Wow, I’d say She is ready! Lock up, give her your keys and wait tightly in your cage for her period to end! Then give her pleasure like she’s never had before and “earn” your release. And don’t keep bugging her to unlock you! Let her unlock you on her terms! Better be ready!!!

 

It all takes time. I run my own tree service! Im 6’3 weigh 270 and been a fighting alpha all my life. We have 4 boys and 1 girl so can you imagine the thought of chastity with my Wife. We started out slow because i was more worried about having sex with her and looking for the ultimate orgasm. My wife had to slow me down because i was abusing her pussy everyday for many years. Now she is my Queen ,locked 24/7, collared, have to wear panties with my toes painted hot pink to match my pink nub cage with slut personalized on it. Mistress started enjoying it so much im the bottom and always being fucked with huge strapon for pay backs to abusing her pussy.
No orgasm allowed except on our aniversary except anal! Mistress bought a real doll cock for me when she wants piv! Iam still our familys protector and gaurdain but kneel to my Queen now! So be careful for what your asking for! Lol

 

Well shes into it, you lije bring locked, so might as well stay locked n be done with it. Now theres locked n theres locked. If you’re worried she’ll want other men then now you’re talking cucking n that's tween you two. If you are a cuck (as I am) then its a whole nother world. If you’re not a cuck then you wont like it. If that's the case then PIV needs to be part of your chastity n you need to satisfy her needs as well as yours.

 

You seem to assume that all women only want a strong alfa-male type and not a submissive man. That is not my experience. I'm sure that a good many women do want exactly that, but definitely not all. If you find submissiveness unmanly, that's all in your head and probably not in her's. You know your wife better than any of us. She seems to like this new you, or maybe she likes the new more assertive and powerful her that you have encouraged? Not many women like "macho" very much theses days, it's all a bit 70's.

We all submit to our women by consent. None of us has to allow ourselves to be kept locked and subservient, but we do because we love it. Maybe some of those alfa-in-real-life guys like a bit of balance in their lives? A sort of reset? You don't have to be submissive all the time. Maybe she'd like the old alfa-you every so often. Why not ask her?

Her latex idea sounds like fun. It seems that she wants to take things forward in her own way. Why not just sit back and enjoy the ride. Just nudge it along when you feel you need to.

 

Honestly dude, with the latex-and-whip thing, it sounds like your Miss (hah) may have latent dominatrix desires as well. Sounds like you are in great shape there. I don't think you have to worry about her finding someone else.

Like others, I am a "high powered man", VP in an office, run a large team, etc. At home even we're still a somewhat even couple making decisions together. We're not an FLR by any means.

But my wife has my dick locked up in a cage and has now for almost 4 years. I wear my cage 24/7. To work. Commuting. To the grocery store. It really only comes off when she wants to use my penis for intercourse. And every 2-3 weeks to clean if there's no sex in that time.

But I'll also add that over the summer our relationship shifted a bit. After a few years of trying to guide her into more of a Domme role, which she resisted, we came to a point where she likes me being somewhat dominant at home too. Depending on how the latex/whip thing goes, you might fall into that too.

But like the other guys say I vote you start wearing full time.

But if you don't want to talk to her about it, maybe leave the keys on a nice chain somewhere she can see. Like her nightstand. Then if you're lucky they'll disappear

 

Sounds like its going well! And welcome to the long-term club. You're going to be crawling up the walls in a couple days.

Couple suggestions:
(1) Don't keep mentioning it to her. I think someone said earlier and I'll reiterate, that your penis is going to be on *your* mind a lot over the next few days. *Not* necessarily hers. Just keep mum and enjoy the feelings.

(2) If she does do anything to tease you, respond positively.

(3) Try to put her pleasure and needs at the forefront the next few days. Massages, cook a nice dinner, whatever. It's going to start to come naturally the longer you're locked up, but it doesn't hurt to lay it on early. In other words, try to get her to associate a positive experience for her with you being locked up. It's more likely to continue then.

(4) DO NOT send her dick pics. Just don't do it bro. (Unless she asked for one)

 

I have read and reread this thread. Wasn’t sure how to respond! I like mojoman’s rrsponse!

 

There is no shrinkage anymore than cold weather. A Google search will give you a plethora of opinions, but if you ask a urologist they'll tell you the same thing a gynecologist would tell you about a vagina. They can take a lot of punishment. The problem is some guys get off on a shrinkage fetish. Way to much fantasy floating around.

 

Joey
I was teasing about the shrinkage. Kinda. That’ll happen anyway as you get older so dont blame the cage! Or should we? Ummmm. . Lol
At home We’re both in underwears n tshirts mainly. I display my locked cage by pulling the waistband underneath my scrotum. A it does help support the wgt n B its out there for her viewing pleasure and a reminder her husband is locked for her.
If it fits correctly then you shouldnt be falling out and you shouldnt be in pain. You may feel a mild ache in your testicles n thats all good. Even kinda pleasurable. So yes you can wear them indefinitely.

 

Lucky guy. Looking forward to your updates.