1st time doing chastity as Alpha male...guidance please!

Yeah I mean I’m not looking to become a complete bitch with no self respect and ruin my relationship lol.

I like being caged up, but still acting and being a man. Gym, motorcycle, trucks, man shit!

One thing that’s hard to get use to is I usually would come home and handle my woman. Grab her and throw her on the bed and fuck her good. Now how can I do that locked up? Lol.

I love the whole chastity she is the boss thing but I can’t tell still if this is a temporary kink were into or if this will be continued for years to come...

hmmmm....

I really love her bossing me around and controlling when I cum. I don’t want to give it up. Having a hard time adjusting to how I’m supposed to act..

 

Add on thoughts...

Sorry to beat a dead horse but I just want to be locked up and have my woman control my orgasms and boss me around. While still being my man self.

MY FEAR: Having her get turned off down the road. I have no idea why I am so fearful of this. I grew up with getting drilled into my brain BE THE MAN, HANDLE YOUR SHIT, TAKE YOUR WOMAN AND BE HER MAN!

but to me it’s like ok one thing to be locked up and her control my orgasms, but now I got her calling me little dick caged man lol. She is totally into it I can tell but where do I draw the line?

I am dinging out. Help me out guys I appreciate it!

 

Thanks @John I love your feedback.

Yeah our relationship is solid. Really solid. We have our shit together and love each other. That I can say. (still with women you never know) lol.

I was asking her again last night through text while she was at work I said babe you like this experience so far? She said “I like it, I enjoy bossing you around!”

The humiliation small dick thing is me requesting it, and she says it, knowing I like it. She seems to be enjoying it more too lol.

I am sure she can separate kink from reality. She knows I’m not actually small but that I like her saying it is. Right?

I can’t see this ruining my relationship but I can see it causing problems like @Elfman said if I let me mood swings drive her up the wall. She seems to enjoy it right now, but if I message her non stop about how I’m horny, how I need to cum, how this and that, she gets sort of quiet and annoyed like it’s a chore. I can’t have her thinking that.

What would you say is a good ratio to do?

Ratio as in:

Go about the day not bringing up the cage TO mentioning the cage and how I’m horny, dripping etc.

What is a safe balance? I tend to go over board with bringing it up.


**ADD UPDATE**

I told her I was dripping in my cage and she told me I should wear one of her pads. As in her period pads so my pre cum doesn’t wet my briefs. LOL she is being serious. It’s sort of a humiliating turn on...LOL.

I LOVE the humiliation part. Man...I want to do it to be embarrassed but I think to myself. What man does that shit?

 

@John yeah today was actually a way better experience. I was a little much texting all day because I was insanely horny. She played along for a while and then I could tell she faded out..

We had a little conversation when I got home and she likes when I bring it up but not to that excess, so now I know!

I got home from work, and her necklace came in the mail with the little lock and key with my initials on it. We’re at the gym right now with her sister and she’s wearing it around her neck lol.

I barely brought it up once I got home and told her I was thinking about having a boys night tomorrow. I was like “do you think I can go on unlocked tomorrow night?“

She replies with “yeah right! I’m going to double lock you with the main lock and a serialized plastic lock!!” and she’s serious lol.

She even told me to go fetch her headphones out of the car. It’s kind of hot too because her younger sister is 19 and really attractive and little does she know her older sister (my lady) has me locked up LOL.

That’s all the updates for today… I am going to ask if I can take it off the shower later.


**RANDOM TIP**

Just a random tip, but for those of you that frequently exercise I’m currently wearing the CB6000-S and when you’re wearing basketball shorts, if you take a small sport sock and throw it over the whole cage it prevents the lock from sticking out and just looks like you’re packing a big dick lol.

anyways I’ll update you guys soon! Any feedback always appreciated!

 

2/23/21 MORNING UPDATE

Yesterday after work didn't bring up the cage whatsoever. She mentioned it once or twice at random times which was great. (trying to get HER to bring it up from now on) Her necklace came in the mail, which is a small gold lock (same as the one on my cage) with my initials on it ;-P She put it right on around her neck.

We went to the gym with her sister who is 19 (and very cute BTW) and we worked out etc. It was hot knowing she was wearing this new necklace that meant she has my cock in a cage lol. and her sister having no clue!

I will say this. For those of you that don't workout, when you are hitting it hard on a major muscle group i.e. chest, back, legs the blood flow from your dick basically gets drained out. Your whole package shrinks up because everywhere else is pumped up with blood flow. THE CAGE ALMOST CAME OFF!! lol. I have the 2nd to last smallest ring on and my balls actually slipped out! Which never happened before. I went over to my girl and asked to borrow her car keys to "put something in the car." (she keeps the cage key on her car keys) I just went into the bathroom and readjusted the whole device. Phew....

Imagine the cage falling out through my shorts onto the gym floor? LMAO!!

So we get back to the house. I sent my lady a quick text saying "let me make your protein shakes and take care of you both." So she told me to make the protein shakes for them. Then her sister started cleaning the dishes and I told her hey hey! I got the dishes don't worry about it! My girl says "Yeah Jess HE has to do the dishes!" her sister says No no I got it guys it's okay! Then my girl goes "Okay babe you got off easy tonight.." and her sister LAUGHS lol! She had no idea but it was hot knowing one day maybe her sister would know I was locked up. Probably not, but who knows lol.

So when her sister went to the bathroom I whispered to my girl hey can I please be released to shower and clean up the cage? She goes "Okay yes, but NO jerking off!" So I showered, put the cage back on (even went with the smallest ring which is the next one down) fits a bit more snug but definitely not coming out now.

Her sister left. My girl said I can sleep tonight without the cage but I am NOT cumming tonight. I was like damn lol. Soon as I was let out, I did what I do. Starting to rub her body, kiss her neck etc. We had sex like wild animals. My load was crazy because of the denial and being locked for almost 5 days!

She laid there and just kept saying how much she loved me, missed me lol, how much she loved my dick, this and that. I said do you want me locked back up? She goes "In the morning."

In the morning she was about to leave and I said should I lock back up? She goes "When I get home."


That's where I'm at. It's funny because I WANT to be caged right now but I would prefer for HER to tell me to cage back up rather then me just throwing it back on. You guys agree? Trying to make it where SHE calls all the shots and I just have to slightly nudge her.

Appreciate you all! Feedback always welcome!!

 

**SMALL ADD ON UPDATE**

She texted me from work with some chit chat. After a few back and forth texts I texted her saying...

Me: It's nice to be free
Her: Temporary..it's a free pass
Me: Ok! Well I will enjoy it while it lasts
Her: Are you going to jerk off?
Me: Well I didn't want to get in trouble! So I didn't...unless I am aloud to!?
Her: I am allowing you to jerk off, go ahead.


LOL! Glad to see she is still loving the chastity and being in control! She must of really loved the D she got last night ha ha ha.

Keep you posted...

 

@LockedbyFridayGirl Thanks for your response, enjoyed reading your post. I appreciate you sharing a little of your history. It's funny how never in a million years...would I see myself getting into this chastity life AND having a woman who wouldn't think it was weird and actually really enjoys it LOL.

So far its been a little over a week since starting this experience. I have had better orgasms then I ever have. I absolutely love that my woman likes controlling when I get to orgasm, and enjoys making fun of me a bit etc. It's great so far!

**SMALL UPDATE**

She is wearing her necklace I got her since yesterday and she just texted me back and forth a bit. I texted her saying, hey babe how long am I free for today!? ;-) she goes "Just until I get homeee." So I am locked back up in about an hour! lol.

@John Yeah brother it's funny how you can't wait to get the cage off and then when its off, you can't wait to get back in the game lol. I do like being free, but I have been free my whole life. I am liking this whole locked thing!

Keep you all posted....

 

Quick little nightly update…

It’s been a while but I’m having a guys night tonight to go out and get drunk lol.

I feel really weird going out locked up for the first time with all my close guy friends that I’m almost 100% positive aren’t Caged LOL.

Any advice?? Lol.

I already asked my girl and she said absolutely not you’re staying Caged! lol.

 

**2/24/21 Update**

Had my first guys night last night wearing my CB6000-S. You know it really wasn't as bad as I thought. Small discomfort but not enough where I was itching to take it off. It was actually turning me on knowing there were a lot of attractive women there but yet my cock was locked up lol.

Got home last night and she let me out just to sleep for the night. Still trying to wear it overnight but having that burning groin sensation still. Not extreme burning, but it's to the point where it's annoying and keeps me awake. I can go 15 hours ALL DAY with no issues, but soon as I lay down and get the nocturnal erections, that's when it starts bugging me.

I am getting a good ball sac lotion/ointment to apply as often as I can to prevent that.

This morning I woke up, showered, and then I asked her if she wanted me free or locked up? She replies "You know the answer to that already." So I locked up!

About an hour later she posted on her Instagram story me handing her breakfast that I made and the caption says "He made me breakfast!" with hearts emoji, and then the lock and key emoji and then put another caption "I am KM" as in Key Master, that's what we call it LOL.

She has all her girlfriends and friends on that social media. I doubt anyone will pick up what it is but I fantasize that a girlfriend will message her asking her about what that means, and one random drunk night she tells her!

I still fantasize that she either tells her sister eventually when her sister questions why I am doing everything around the house, or she tells a really close girlfriend. I can see that happening down the road. What do you guys think?

My girl is REALLY open to doing anything...I knew that already, but didn't realize to this extent that she was THIS open, to have my cock locked up full time, it's really great!


**RANDOM THOUGHTS**

I am pretty sure I am at that point where she wants me locked FULL TIME now lol. I am really enjoying it. She wears her lock necklace I got her all the time as a little reminder.

One thing I keep catching myself doing is overly talking about/mentioning it. I catch myself and have to dial back. That's when I get her to start bringing it up.

I also like when she is slightly mean/bossy but I can't have her do that all the time. Any else enjoy that? How can I get her to do it more?

Anyways, guys please let me know if you enjoy reading my updates/journey. Would appreciate the feedback.