Hello community, If this pandemic has taught me anything, it's the importance of a community–whether that's your family, your friends, or like-minded kinksters on a chastity forum. This year has inspired me to cultivate my own communities, and I hope this can now be one of them. I have had a chastity fetish for over 10 years (I am 32 now) but have just recently decided to stop shaming myself for this kink. Sex should be playful, adventurous, and a celebration! Not a punishment. Just a couple of weeks ago, I ordered a custom 3D printed device from Kink3D, and after going through a couple of different ring sizes, I absolutely love it. My girlfriend of 6+ years has always been completely accepting of my kinks, and I feel joyful at coming to accept them myself. I have yet to sleep in it (though I will be trying that tonight) but am able to easily wear it for a full day. Because getting used to chastity is a bit of a process, I've decided to work through this initial stage alone. Once I know things like my job, the shower, and sleeping are not issues, then I would love to hand over my keys. However, I see no reason to lay the burden of trial and error on my girlfriend. I am so happy to be finally accepting myself for who I am. It feels joyous. I look forward to making some friends here, and being part of the community. Please let me know if you have any advice. (For instance, are pictures encouraged? Stories? Etc...) Thank you!
Welcome to the mansion! Really glad you are taking a very practical and optimistic approach to chastity. Lots of resources here and I really feel like I'm going on this journey with help from the community.
Thank you! Just in the short time since I've posted, I've perused the forums and am a bit blown away by the number of fake, hyper-realistic stories. Do you find this is a good forum for honest sharing and resources?
Welcome! I was a long time lurker who recently joined, and it's been great. I'm glad you have a supportive GF -- if you haven't already I'd suggest showing her CM so she can get some ideas and also understand that your kinks are shared by many The Journals and Blogs section is there for your stories, and there's the Gallery feature to post your pictures. Both are welcomed and encouraged! Not sure what you're referring to... maybe I'm just gullible but I feel like it's pretty easy to spot the fakes, and most here are being open and honest about their lifestyle. It may not be one that I prefer, agree with, or see the value in, but that doesn't mean it's fake. Absolutely! Just take a look in the devices section -- you'll see just how ready we are to help each other get locked up comfortably and safely.
I'm glad to hear that. Perhaps I just got distracted by the few fakes, when really it's a community of open, honest people!
Hello and welcome. You're quite right to want to take time to get it right. Good luck, you've got an excellent approach.
I can't really comment on that simply because I mainly use the community for device issues, tricks and fitting tips. Simply put, I make my own stories in my own world if need be rather relying on others
Hello and welcome here. You'll fit right in here with everyone else and most importantly enjoy it to your heart content.!! p.s I love the name you picked.!!
Update: I did not succeed at making it through the night I briefly just want to say thank you EVERYONE for your warm welcome. I gave (what I believe was) a valiant effort to sleeping while locked up. However, no matter what I tried (going to the bathroom, deep breathing, sheer patience) my body put up an impressive battle against its confines. Because I needed to make sure I was not sleep deprived for work today, I eventually gave in, and took it off. I think that part of the issue is that I'm a grower (3" flaccid and 7.5" erect.) However, I'm hoping that, over time, my body is able to acclimate. I would LOVE to hear from others who have struggled with sleeping, and eventually overcome their bodies resistance to sleeping while locked up. Thank you all in advance!
It mostly just felt like my body's natural urge to grow/swell made the ring feel CRAZY tight...tight enough to wake me up. Eventually, it became a bit painful. It seemed like the ring was putting high pressure against my body that I just didn't know how to overcome. This morning, my skin looked 100% fine. Not sure what to make of it!
Sounds like an internal ball sack burn? What I usually do to get immediate relief is pull my sack through the ring. Takes the pain right away immediately.
That was my instinctive reaction...to pull the sack through the ring to relieve the pressure! However, I was so "swollen" that I was barely able to...
Sometimes it's that way for me because the boys are cold. I cup them and feel the elasticity increase with temperature and that gives me something more to grab.
I'm sure you will eventually! Amazing how you get used to it! You might have a point about being a grower with such a difference between flaccid and hard. I'm about 7 or 8 cm soft so 3 1/2 to 4 inches and about 15 cm or 6 inches hard and initially it was a bit of struggle. Now however it is just frustrating. Mind you I was 52 when we started, not 32! Mrs Chaste always says it's a shame we didn't discover chastity years before! And she's right. Have fun!
You have a good plan to work things out before giving her the key. I have the same problem at night because I am also a grower. Night time erections can be painful for me because it pushes out and puts a lot of force on my balls. Ring size is important because if it's too big then it gives your erection room to grow and if it`s to small then you don't get enough circulation. It`s a lot of trial and error. You do get used to it, but I still don't get more than four hours of sleep at a time. Good luck.