What is your biggest Chastity regret?

It seems common. Not discovering chastity sooner. I really wonder what our marriage would have looked like if I’d discovered this early into the marriage.

 

Part of the problem is that there wasn't any easily available stuff way back, and pre-internet, I have no idea how you'd find anything. We live in a golden age of dick armour.

 

Not giving up full control sooner.

 

Similar. We started a few years back very casually, and now I'm probably locked 3/4 of the time. Wife (nor I) like it all the time...but its the majority that's for sure. But.... I also whish we'd have found it way earlier. In fact, if I'm being honest, I wish I would have found it in college...my g/f at the time (not the same person as my wife) would have LOVED it and man, we would have had some escapades. Wife and I love it now, but wife has her moments of very vanilla, to absolutely evil. LOL But yeah, it would have been a heck of a lot of fun in college!!

 

My honest answer is trying chastity in the first place. Then getting pierced. Fuck all of that.

So many men say it does no harm to lock a penis. Wrong! It does harm, I think too many just lie about their diminished ability. So. Many. Liars.

 

Mine works fine still. The only problem is that it's become overly sensitive, and I cant thrust with any pace before it tries to go off. We stopped using it again after that experiment. Not sure what you're suggesting here....

 

Both chastity and good information on safe piercing wasn’t around when I was in college and dreaming of making a male chastity erotic fantasy come true. I remember researching and searching.

The CB-2000 had not come out either.

We do live in the golden age of male chastity. I’m grateful to have access now.

But I’m seeing young men in their early 20s getting into piercings and chastity and I’m intensely wistful - maybe a little jealous. I read about men that are locked during their engagement, wedding and honeymoon and I wish I could have.

I didn’t have the wisdom in my 20s as I do now. But I had youth. I was at my ideal weight - I trained and lifted and dieted with the idea of getting into a full belt made in the NJ / NY area (I still can’t find the shop in hindsight). I read all of AltairBoy’s website. I was on some Yahoo group I think. I devoured all the information and prepared to get belted before I graduated and we got married.

I was going through Centurion (sp?) about frenum loops and permanent chastity. Lori offered break off screws then. Not the keyed fasteners she does now. Those were the only options I knew of then - full belts, piercings with permanent chastity tubes and tight rings, bulky things from Mr. S that belonged in a dungeon and not under clothes, my Northbound Leather zippered cock and ball pouch, and a single leather strap CBT that constrained ones erections but the rivets rusted and the buckles pinched.

sorry for the long run on sentence.

Only later did the Millers start the evolution of male chastity with their ball trap device, CB-2000. I needed chastity in college. Even then I was addicted to pornography and endless masturbation. I offered the power cord to a co-ed so I could study... it affected my schooling. I’m sure I was unwise and dumb enough to try and cheat anyway. Of course I needed self control but...

I would have been a naive eager 20-something young man, in chastity and eager for control. I would have worn it for our wedding and honeymoon. I would have been still a pushy sub, but chastity fits me so well I think we could have gotten through it.

I wish I started earlier. Giving up masturbation in 2014 and being under her orgasm control since has been the best years of our lives together.

My biggest regret is not getting fitted my young trim body fitted in that belt. I regret not being fully open about my strong desire for chastity to my girlfriend (now wife). I regret not getting pierced earlier. I regret not giving control over my orgasms to my wife earlier.

 

Further: I also regret not going for a full belt earlier this year instead of trying to find a new ball-trap device! >.<

 

Not telling wife about chastity and FLR while dating. It took years to get into our lifestyle.

 

Not adding permanent orgasm denial to chastity earlier than my Wife and i did

 

Many of us are born with diminished ability, and frequently don't know it. Once we find out how bad we are, we are embarrassed at our poor attempts at having sex and at all the frustration and resentment we've caused women over the years. That's when we know for sure we have no business trying to have intercourse, and deserve to be locked up to prevent us from causing any more resentment than we already have. I personally have had intercourse only about 5 times since 2011, and have been pussy-free for the last 31 months. I recognize and understand now that I had no business having intercourse at all, ever. I have a long list of women who agree with me on that, too. I enjoy being locked, and know it's what is best for me.

 

So wonderfully said! The idea of not having metal on my cock makes me twitch.

 

Sometimes going along with it in the first place and then opening up to my Wife about it's effect on me. This has encouraged her to insist on me going back into chastity.

 

My biggest regret is not knowing about chastity and being kept in a cage many years ago. I wish i had been locked as a teenager it would have stopped me spending so much time and energy playing with myself.

Mike

 

I wish I didn't pick the wrong girl to do it with the first time around.

I wish I'd spent all thelat time instead with my goddess and that we where miles further ahead

 

I think the same as a lot here, not finding it sooner lol

 

Regret not being open about it earlier to my wife and regret that I have not gave over the control of my orgasms to my wife. My recent confession, about 8 months ago, opened up a complete new world for both of us. The best thing is that there is now a "safe space" to talk about intimacy and feelings. At least for me talking abouth this was tremendously difficult and causing many frictions between my love and myself in the past. The present situation is very much liked by both of us and brought a much deeper quality in our relationship, which is now more than 28 years...

 

A couple of years ago i had a 'fuckbuddy' kinda thing with an amazing ebony BBW Domme - She really was awesome, very controlling. She told me i had to lock myself and give Her the keys or we wouldn't see each other again,,,, i bottled out, couldn't do it, never saw Her again. Really wish i had though and think about Her often.

 

Easy. I've known about chastity for 20+ years. My regret is not having the courage to get a PA piercing until early June this year. All those years wasted when I could have been as securely locked as I am now.

 

Of course, 20 years ago there were not as many good options for secure chastity.

 

This one's fresh and I really regret it right now. I hadn't really been too interested in chastity because my Chinese steel CB was only comfortable around 90% of the time.

Mistress had offered to buy me a full custom belt but I could never settle down to measure myself. It had been about a month without me being in chastity much and I was kind of enjoying myself.

I woke her up one morning and she caught me playing with myself she wasnt't very happy.

The money she had for my custom belt ended up going to other things and my mistress decided she didn't really care if I was 100% in comfort anymore.

I was a little guilty about getting caught so I ended up locking myself and that was it she told me I'm in til at least Christmas and this was a couple weeks ago.

I'm saving for a belt now

 

True and I "tried them all".

CB2000 (first device), could pull out. Uncomfortable. Bulky. Noisy even.

Access Denied : Full metal locking belt and tube. Effective till I turtle back out while sleeping. Then I knew I could get out. Also it was harsh on my hips to wear for long periods. Also could chaff inner thighs. Definitely felt submissive in it.

Cb3000, C6000s : Great waste. Too large. Not better than the 2000.

Lori tube (not yet pierced). Thought this was it! Comfortable, secure, couldn't intentionally pull out at first then "learned" to either accidentally turtling at night or in the shower if I was calm. Ultimately it even could off from around my balls if it was twisted around just right. But by far the best device yet. Just wasnt pierced and didnt have the nerve for it...

... 20 years go by ... I use the lori device from time to time. The rest though are in the garbage. There was no CM yet where to try and resell.

Next I try more recent devices:

The vice: Eh.. pinches and I didnt find the vice actually did what it promised.

Some Chinese metal devices: poor quality compared to Lori's work of art. Not st all effective. Not even for hours let alone days or weeks.

Then .. I found CM ... read more about PA piercings and saw Lori now offered at device I though held promise. It was a clamshell and had a retainer ring (#2e). So, I wasnt yet pierced, but purchased it with the ring and PA pins (8g). It was larger and heavier than my old Lori device but the workmanship was all there. The retainer ring had to go back once because it want the size I ordered but when it came back it was the best device yet. Pulling out accidentally never happened. I could get out (of the retainer ring) in the shower and get back in but only if I was really soft and not turned on. It was a bit less exciting to know I could .. but .. felt good it wasnt going to happen on it's own. The failure though here was hiking and working out . The retainer ring and "ball separator" that I ordered the device with tended to chaff after long (multihour) episodes of working out.

It (and CM) gave me the confidence though to get the PA done. I felt it would solve most the problems with the 2E and a bit of lotion would help with the chafing around the ring.

But remeber I said the device was heavy? When I first put it on (just to try since I couldn't wait longer) 6 weeks after being pierced (Lori said wait about 12 weeks before wearing it full time). But I felt what being securely locked would finally be like (great!) But also, probably because I wasnt really fully healed, I felt what the weight and stress on the piercing might be like (not too good).

That's when I started exploring and looking for really lightweight tubes and found Extreme Restraints Princes Collar and ordered it. 6 weeks later I put it on for the first time and a day later was confident enough in it to know I could remain in it for long long periods of time. I've only been put once since mid Sept and there are no physical reasons for me to need to get out. I can workout, hike, etc just fine with it.

As I said my only regret is that it took me 20 years to get to this point. The journey to get here was long and frustrating. Now the journey forward is frustrating too but for a much much better set of reasons!

 

Sometimes I regret putting one on in the first place. My wife doesn't play much, so it's 24/7 discomfort with very little payoff. I'm trying to be patient, but also can't help but be a little pushy.

I honestly think that she will love having complete control over me, but she is slow to learn how she might do it. Books are left unread, keys are readily available, and caged penis is left unteased.

It's frustrating, and not in the good way.