How long have you been married or together?

Married 37 years. Morphine made me (us) celibate for last 6 years. My personality changed as the doses were reduced to nothing. Basically a late midlife crisis. She struggled with it and shed several tears

In Feb 2019, We discussed trying Chastity and I admitted to being submissive to her in the bedroom for most of our marriage. She researched Chastity and decided we should give it a try.

Started an official FLR 6 month trial period May 25, 2019. Added the D a week later. Mid July, added a PA.

From her reactions, I believe the trial period has become a permanent period. We are both happier than have been in years. Wished we had started sooner.

 

Married 32 years this week! I literally JUST replied on another thread our short recent history as empty nesters (awesome!). No interest in FLR, cuckolding etc. I simply love being in my chastity cage and we have found ways to integrate it into our life, and are still exploring. When locked, it might just be a day or two before she decides we need to have sex, or it might be several weeks just to keep me focused. We have agreed that when the cage goes on, it only comes off when she hands me the key back, and I won’t ask for it. We are talking now about making it so that when we do have sex, I am put right back in the cage. Currently, she sees chastity as a specific foreplay event, and has no desire to relock me afterwards. I’d like to try full time (not permanent) chastity except for when she wants sex. We will discuss and share over time, and reach some situation we will both be comfortable with.

 

Married 16 years, been together for 20 years. I have been locked since june 2019 and it has been the best decision we ever made.

 

We’ve been seeing each other for about a year and started the cage about 4/5 months ago. Experimenting everyday but definitely enjoying it! New to CM, love reading other people’s stories

 

Over 20 years with a few ups and Downs.I legally live separately now.But we still see one another every day.

 

25 wonderful years together, 22 years married. Right from the start she was the leader in the relationship and her dominance and my submission is stronger then ever. Lady Kat is my best friend

 

13 years.
Met online and first clue about my wife was when I built her a new wardrobe! It contained thigh boots pvc clothes and a whip?
I said blimey what is this? She was a bit embarassed and said oh nothing I used to go to fetish clubs years ago and must throw it all away!
I said no! I like it and she oh really!

Sad to report that I did not fully act upon it!

Years later like about three or four (Lost track) my chastity desires were discovered!

She is now my keyholder!

 

We’ve been “together” since Aug 1992! We’ve been through a lot.

She introduced me to the concept of male chastity sometime between 1993-1996. It’s been 23-26 years since I first fantasized of chastity. We played then, but we only had toys.

Chastity only took off as “real” when she finally encouraged and took me to get my cock pierced for her in 2014. That year I with decided to actually submit, and not just get my kinks stroked. So this brave act was my reward. She held my hand through it.

My wife calls piercing controlled chastity “real chastity” and coyly says “there’s no backing out now”.

 

She still has a lot of it but sadly it never sees the light of the day!
I am truly grateful she excepted my desire as at first she was not keen!

 

Been together 9 years, 3 months. Been locked 8 years, 11 months. Married for 3 years. Been in chastity for all but the first 16 weeks we've known each other.

 

We been together for a year and a half, married for almost 2 months! To say we are still 'new' to each other is an understatement. We are still searching for our boundaries, one of which is I can't wait for her to peg me. She knows I love ass play, just not how much!

 

We've been together 40 years and married for 37. I stumbled upon chastity on the internet a year ago and am intrigued by the subject. I have been trying a few devices on my own. At least someone/something is playing with my penis as our sex life has slowed quite a bit lately. I'm pretty sure I won't be found out...she has not been one to give spontaneous hugs, grabs, etc. As of yet, I have not found a good way to bring this up to my very vanilla wife. Needles to say I spend a lot of time on the Newbies and Novices blog...and reading 'How to Introduce Your Partner' type books. I'm sure someday I will broach the subject with her. Wish us luck!

 

13 years Next month and together for 18. I was 20 when I met my wife who is 3 years older. She knew that I was kinky from the start and played along but regrettably its something that just never realy took off. Long story short I topped from the bottom, it got a bit frustrating so I gave up after a few years trying although still the odd night of kink here and there.

 

We have been together 23 years, married for 16. Since my teens I have always been attracted to strong women, and had a fetish for bondage, etc. When I met my wife, she was a very strong and dominant personality. We had an okay sex life at first, but over time it started to fade. We both gained a little weight so PIV started becoming less comfortable. She also knew about my personal habits, which really frustrates her. She likes occasional PIV, with the expectation of mutual orgasm. As much I enjoyed the feel of her, I just could not finish inside of her. In addition I alway wanted her to be dominant, frankly it started to bore her as well. She would tell me also that after we had sex, I always acted like an asshole afterward. I always had a fetish for chastity, but never told her until until about 3 years ago. I had feared she was going to be frustrated by me further pushing. Ironically it was like a light switch for her, she thought it was a good idea. We had some fit issues, so I have been in and out of a device. She has become really upset that when I am unlocked that I am not attentive to her both in the bedroom and out. She was clear with me her expectation was that I got a device that fits properly, and I am not even to mention a release for at least a month. She told she is in her prime, and given her age she figures her life is 1/2 over. So... she plans to have fun. She told me those plans include both in the bedroom and in social settings. She reaffirmed she loves me, but that whatever needs I can’t meet, she will find elsewhere. She expects to keep me in chastity, and only allow me to orgasm during occasional PIV. If I can’t deliver she will find a solution. Outside the bedroom, her expectation is that I take her on more dates, etc. if I can’t deliver, she will find a solution.
Her patience started to wear thin, and has begun to find someone to fill the gaps.

Ironically I find this extremely arousing, and despite my fetishes do believe in true FLR. I do believe we have becoming much closer than we have ever been. We seem to having much more meaningful conversations, and she has been enjoying daily foot and back rubs and explosive non PIV orgasms.


QUOTE="Wonderwomanssub, post: 237549, member: 53065"]I'm always curious about how long couples have been together and what brought about chastity for you? Please share [/QUOTE]

 

Madam and I have been together 21 years, and have been in a bdsm relationship for 19 years and have been using chastity for about 17 years now.

 

Been together almost 20 years and married for 15. We started in chastity about 2015 and toyed with it off and on for the first couple of years. About 2 years ago or so I was locked for 2 months, give or take, as a trial. Taken this long to make chastity a permanent part of our life as our crazy work life’s have started to settle down and we can enjoy it.

 

Been married 4.5 years been together since my jr year of high school her freshman. So about 10 years and I 1st heard about the idea of, chastity in a cuckold porn video I watched when I was in college. did a google search found it was real. Then about a month later she caught me jacking it after I had been caught and before and told her I wouldn't do it again (she hates porn). Anyways I suggested chastity to her as a way to make sure I wasn't jacking it and to help build her trust as I went to college out of town. She was hesitant on the idea at 1st but quickly embraced it and now here we are.

 

Married 15 years. Playing with chastity for 2 years. My wife is very vanilla so I have been gentle and not pushing too hard. But she certainly likes the difference in me when I am locked.

 

My DKH and I have been married for 21 years. She has been very vanilla but that has been changing over the last 6 months. Chastity is the latest thing we’ve tried and our intimacy has never been better.

 

Our 8 year anniversary was a week ago! Woohoo!

 

Married a bit over 40 years. Been locked since 28 August 19. We did Locktober with no issues. She has graduated in a short time from a wooden spoon to a genuine paddle for punishment. She struggles to climax due to medication but loves the trying. I did have a full O on 2 Nov and the cage went back on right after. She too says I am better caged up. BCWYWF.

 

We have been married for 20 years. On our honeymoon my wife had a huge anxiety attack when we tried to consummate the marriage. Huge as in going to the ER. She was checked over and heart etc. fine. She was prescribed Valium and we tried again, after she took a solid dose of valium. She had another anxiety attack - not as severe but enough I discontinued the attempt to consummate the marriage. I vowed to her no more attempts at sex until after the honeymoon was over and she had the opportunity to see her doctor. When we got home she made an appointment to see her doctor. Her doctor referred her to an OBGYN. The OBGYN diagnosed her with severe vaginitis. For the follow=up visit the OBGYN [ a woman] wanted to see me as well. She explained that intercourse should not be attempted any time soon. At this point we had been married four months and my wife was stressed out and upset. I told her I wanted to offer her an intercourse free marriage and was willing to give her oral etc. with no reciprocation required. My wife said she had no interest in oral or sex of any kind. I then offered her a sexless marriage. She expressed concerns that my erections would make her nervous and elevate her anxiety. We went back to her OBGYN and explained all this. Her OBGYN thought that it would be a good short term approach. We insisted we wanted this long term. Her OBGYN referred me to a urologist. The urologist, after reviewing her referral letter and talking to me, agreed to prescribe medication to me "off-label" to prevent me from getting erect.

While I do have a couple chastity devices, I seldom wear them. I really don't need to.

 

This might be a nice fantasy, but in real life, not at all.
Without consumption, I am pretty sure that a marriage must be consummated to be legal.
A couple’s sexual intercourse, even with denial games, is vital.
Ss

 

@salonslave, one can dream, can't one?

Together for 30 years and looking forward to the next 30+.