Cock banding with wife

Yes, I understand there is quite a difference

 

This just sounds wrong?.

 

@Johngeorge please do see a Urologist in Australia. I looked some up. They exist, but it’s a big country so you find a good office near you.

See also this thread about banding at
http://forums.eunuch.org/showthread.php?29253-please-help

Folks there are talking at a higher level than this forum.

“Only a urologist can tell you for sure if there is a way to bring back sensation.”

“If you are feeling embarrassed to see a urologist, it's understandable. But, keep in mind that dealing with issues of the penis is about every third appointment for a urologist. Also, every doctor has to go through training. They've seen it all. Doctors have pulled barbie dolls out of guys asses that "accidentally sat on them" while naked.

Nothing you say will shock a urologist.”

I'd recommend writing it down on a piece of paper, something like this:

"Four years. Prolonged use of a ring to keep an erection during sex. After that I've felt numb. Any way to treat the numbness?"

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I don’t think you’ll get more than casual judgement and sympathy here. If you want help, seek professional help. You want to know one way or the other.

You should let yourself and your wife to make a choice, if you have one. Or certainty and find ways to move on together.

Regret is the absolute worst human emotion. I had many regrets that I’ve come to terms with. They flares up occasionally. It’s worse than pain.

On pain. You want to get professional medical evaluation and guidance. If you do regain feeling, it may come separately. Pain vs hot/cold... etc. I don’t know the order anymore. But a nerve is layered like an green onion.

Watch for

• Pain
• Sensitivity
• Numbness
• Tingling or prickling
• Burning
• Etc.

 

I imagine that a urologist is going to want to wait a few more months to see if it resolves itself. If it hasn't resolved by 180 days, it is probably permanent. Not sure what you were thinking with 3 bands @ 90 minutes, 3 times a day.. More bands cause injury to more of the nerve so it takes longer to rewire. After sex reassignment surgery, it often takes over a year to get enough feeling back to have an orgasm.
You may find this useful: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21460663

 

Meh. Why wait 6 months to see a urologist?

I need to respond because, independent of your personal decisions, I feel it necessary to set good examples for the fantasy-addled young-minds out there who might be thinking of “playing” with nerve damage.

Back when I was young and stupid on porn and wanting constantly, I would dip into deeper and deeper fantasies. Some involved piercing myself at home. Some involved porn that fetishized castration, or ruining ones genitals forever.

I’m extremely glad I didn’t do any of that. It would have removed the consent of my partner, and something I would regret.

I am grateful to hear there is acceptance. Sometimes wrapping your mind around a limitation and fetishizing it can help one cope. I hope you both are ok.

I would recommend seeing a urologist period. No reason to wait. Get an evaluation and diagnosis and follow their advice. No need to explain or rationalize. It may not change anything.

But regret is a corrosive human emotion. It sometimes flares up and consumes me. I get angry at my family for not taking better care of a situation that has caused recurrent nerve pain. This is rarer with time.

In the interest of making active decisions, and valuing each other I recommend seeking a medical opinion.

I will stop following this thread now. All the best to you both.

 

One thing you may want to consider is getting a good e-stim unit that can stimulate from the prostate to the tip of the penis. It will stimulate the damaged nerves and speed up healing. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/10/181008114558.htm

 

Banding can be done safely but this guy went WAY beyond any recommended protocols. Almost anything can be bad if it's over done, even drinking water.

 

Ok. But if I do anything too much and hurt myself, and it’s not getting better, I seek medical attention. It’s not about banding. It’s about having a presence of mind to address issues when they arise.

Sure it’s great to make the most of a situation! It’s a good attitude.

I just don’t get the 6 month mark to wait to seek a urologist evaluation.

 

Most things I would agree but there really isn’t anything that can really be done for it right now and a doctor is just going to tell him to wait a few more months to see if it improves. It’s not something that is going to get worse without treatment at this point. By the time you get in and see a urologist it’s going to be weeks then he’s going to probably refer to a neurologist since it’s a nerve compression injury.

 

I absolutely agree! I am sorry that you are going through this. Thank you for sharing your experience to educate others!

 

Totally agree! Seek a professional opinion as soon as possible! Leaving it could make it worse, or ireversalable !

 

well, as long as you're both happy.

 

Wow this is really some hardcore play. I think every chaste guy dreams of being able to have sex without sensitivity and pleasuring their partner, but permanent damage like this is unsettling to me. I hope everything works out for you two.

 

How are your erections? When I banded and got a few weeks of numbness I could hardly get an erection (although I don’t get erections with out direct stimulation due to hormones). You may want to play around with e-stim on your prostate if you want to feel some pleasure.

 

Hi John

Thank you for sharing your story, sorry you have permanent damage but glad you seem to be looking on the bright side. I hope you like milking and get some satisfaction from the prostate side.

Before reading your thread I wouldn’t have thought about the damage banding could do, so thanks again for sharing.

Jay

 

another man on here once done that and he writ in here saying it danger to do it.
i hope you am ok and not sad.