Chastity and living with children

What does your not being in the USA have to do with your question? Personally I don't think a 4 and 6 year old child is mature enough to grasp the concepts of an FLR or chastity. That being said, I would not advertise to them, or shelter them from the fact that you wear a cage. If they see in the course of things -- fine. If they ask don't deny it or try yo hide it from them...

 

To each there own. But I'll take the good ole USA, even with all of her warts anyday of the week...

 

Anything consenting adults want to do with each other is perfectly OK by me. This isn't an issue of intolerance, it's an issue of adults responsibility to children. I seriously hope you can consult more than just a chastity forum before doing permanent emotional damage to two innocents. I'm sure in whatever wonderfully progressive place you live they have child psychologists, try starting there.

Yes I live in the USA and it's great that you can define all 327 million people's attitude towards sex in a single sentence.

 

This is adult activity and simply inappropriate for children. You ask for members’ opinions and finish your post by stating, in essence, that if an opinion does not support what you propose, you do not want to read it. Well, you get mine anyway.

Please, do not expose your very young children to your kink. That for whatever reason you believe doing this will unburden you, it is likely to burden your kids - likely in a deeply harmful way. Just don’t do it.

Jamie

 

I co-parent my 4 year-old son and he stays with me at least one weekend per month. I'm usually able to take my cage off whenever he's with me but there's been times that I've had it on for his visits as well.

When I do have the device on, I try to hide it from him. I'll ask for some privacy if he busts into the bathroom on me. If he ever sees it and asks me about it, I'll tell him simply that it's daddy's jewelry.

I've read about what to do when children find a parents sex toy like a dildo for instance - just tell them that it's an adult toy for mommy and daddy only and not for them. I agree that the children don't need to know what the function or purpose of the device is.

The most important thing is that you're modeling a loving, caring relationship with your wife. The children will learn soon enough that she's calling the shots and it will seem perfectly normal to them, as it should. Nobody is a perfect parent. I imagine the harm from oversharing some sexual details with your children, in the context of a loving relationship, is no less harmful than say, teaching your child they'll burn for eternity in hell if they masturbate.

Good luck to you!

 

How so? Do they walk in on you taking a shower? Tell them you need privacy or lock the door. It isn't difficult to keep your kids from seeing you naked.

 

We will not show or tell our kids (5 and 2) about my cage. We are very open about piercings or tattoos, but chastity is out of the question.
We, mostly I, try really hard not to create a situation where I would have to suddenly hide or turn away. We don't want to come to the questions like why is daddy hiding...
So far it works for us.

 

I wouldn't even consider showing it to my 11 and 13 year old. Whatever shape or form their future relationships have, they have no need to know more about their parents "sex life" than that their parents love each other very much and treat each other with respect and ensuring that the kids are open minded and accepting, whether it relates to skin color, religion or lack thereof, sexuality or something else.

At this stage I'm close to being a full on teen Dad (which means I can do Dad jokes all day long) and they are beginning the process of becoming their own, autonomous individuals. My job is to make sure that goes as smoothly as possible.

But these are my 2 cents and worth as much as the electrons used to type them up.

(Note: this is not a for or against, YMMV as they say and sometimes stuff happens. The benefit with older kids is that they want all the privacy they can get their hands on so it solves itself)