How did your journey begin?

That's one of Mrs Chaste favourite sayings now! When I say I need an orgasm she says "I expect you do, but it's not about you, it's all about me! You'll be alright." It's such a wonderful feeling when she says it as well! I never knew frustration and desperation, coupled with love and admiration could feel so wonderful! =

 

My journey begins at age 18.
I see a magazine called "forced feminisation" by centurions.
I am not interested at all in the she males, or the forced feminisation aspects at all, but that small steel device on their dicks- that the devices are "permanent"--that ,that for some deep, deep reason interests me very much.

A marriage- a BDSM type marriage, short, intense, doomed, but some times we play taping each other genitals closed , or up..

A long hiatus- with periods of (non) masturbation, forcing a penis into small tubes, wondering, could a real device ever be more than a fantasy, and oh so turned on by the thought, and h so scared, what if ?

A second marriage, a marriage of communication, experimentation.

We buy a Jones belt---disaster.

later, we try several terrible cage devices- this is pre internet days for us, the longest we go is 3 days,
but we find it hot, as a play thing, but there is other things to do


Then life changes terribly.
My wife I sexually assaulted. If there is one thing sexual assault is all about is the victim loses control, loses all sense of being in control, among all the other things.

A long period of waiting patiently for an emotional recovery.
A dawning, that she will never again feel able to lose control "playing games", that sex is now something
she can only endure..............not share joyfully.

Carefully, I introduce chastity.........would she like full control?
We experiement with the CB6000..........and almost abandon everything, she's hardly in control if she has to
take out the key every few days for a clean, is she?

We go steel.......I try several devices..........we go from weekly "scheduled releases", to monthly.........to 3 monthly..........

She regains confidence
I regain devotion, love, patience...........and become the husband I need to be.

I suggest permanency.............and something happens. She begins to sexually pleasure herself again, after so many years............but only when I am bound...........and caged.

I know now, that the cage has saved our marriage. She is free öf "obligation", she is control.

She wishes we had done this years ago.
She even teases me, texts me to remind me of her control. I squirm, I pulse in my cage.........I love it.
I was born for permanent chastity, I know it. I have it now, I can't escape my cage, I can't masturbate in it, and the vibrators are locked away.........
And its worth it, all of it...........I thank fate that my chastity is not just about me, its also all about her, that out of something terrible, a marriage has grown even stronger

Its 100 plus days since I last came...........a small price to pay...........

 

I saw something similar to this post, though I can’t find it now, though it is very similar so I’ll post my thoughts here.

Why do I want to lock my penis away?

I’ve thought of it this evening and come to the conclusion it’s two fold.
Ultimately, I want to give my SO more orgasms and make our sex life all about her.

The second reason, which is almost the same level is, unfortunately, selfish.
I find when I browse porn, cross dressers/sissy type things I get very horny. I don’t masturbate often, but when I do it’s usually after I’ve browsed the net for my preferred porn for a few days. My being horny builds and builds until I can’t think of anything else, other than being horny. It feels like I’m high, almost. If that makes sense.

When I finally masturbate I lose this feeling and I don’t want it to disappear with the simple act of ejaculation.

If I can make it so that I can build that feeling up and be unable to do anything about it, I’ll enjoy the feeling of being “high” for longer and be able to give my SO more orgasms as I will be horny, but not be able to scratch that itch.

It’s 50% for my own benefit, 50% for my SO.

I’ve yet to lock myself away, but I’m looking forward to the experiment and trying to introduce my SO to it.

 

I was looking for ways to prolong myself during sex and stumbled across the concept of Edging. It blew my mind and I started doing it when I would masturbate and try to wait longer and longer but I realized that it was nothing more than the same torture I was putting myself through (and my partner). I would always try to stop short during sex and calm down a little when I was about to cum and this would frustrate whoever I was with because I didn't know it but I was edging them too. I played it off like it was on purpose and if I was able to make them cum in the end I was a hero but when I didn't I looked like a fool.

So, stumbling through the concept of Edging as I had learned pointed me to the orgasm denial area that inevitably led to chastity and cages. I had brought up the idea to my girlfriend (now Wife) and she was luke warm on the idea but a weekend camping and me trying to satisfy her and deny myself she saw that I was a puddle in her hand and agreed I should by the cage. It took a few weeks and a few small samples of trying to get to the point that she was really comfortable.

We go on again off again and it seems to work for us. I am unlocked and almost at three weeks of the honor system without releasing myself or with her during sex, She has seen the effect withholding has and certainly encourages it.

 

Simply, I was tired of getting shot down by my wife. So a gave myself to her as a submissive to control. She was already controlling sex, so that part was not really a change. I no longer ask, or hit on her. When she is interested she lets me know.
The commitment to her pleasure before my own is what pointed me to chastity. I am self locked, as she does not want to participate at this time. She knows I am locked, and knows I will take it off immediately if she says so. I don't think she has even a light understanding of the power she could hold over me.
Interestingly, we have been intimate more frequently since I submitted to her.

 

my post is 100% factual of what has transpired in my life since February.
i consider myself blessed with how well my wife has responded to all my.... eccentricities

 

The poster I was referring to has had his account deleted. No worries @luckyhubby83.

 

My Zodiac sign is Taurus and not that I fully believe like you can predict the future I do believe that the stars and planets do have an influence on who you are, besides growing up and experiencing things which also make you to who you are, even later in life that is still true. We all keep growing and changing who we are ...

So to come back to being a Taurus, its right that I have always liked to stay in control in a vain way to stay comfortable and at peace. Yet as and Englightened Taurus I also learned (perhaps slowly tho ) that we can't always be in control and things just happen ... which also lead into accepting that giving up control can also be very liberating whether that is stopping to control you timetable to feelings, ...

Also being more submissive inclinded then being dominant I did started to experiment with chastity and realising that denial and no access can be rewarding in its own special way ... even be more pleasurable then the a quick fix by orgasming.

As a Taurus I intuitively always enjoyed to play and build up then going for some quick fix, it also has their place but in all honesty I prefer a real intimate connection that leads to taking your time. There are already way too many short cuts to so called pleasure in this world and I don't agree with that, it just sits wrong in my core being.

I hope my explanation makes sense to you all, but for me its just the simple truth that resonates inside me.

 

My then wife and I were both 40 when we both learned about it whilst browsing the net together. Altairboy being our first specifically chastity related site.

 

Your story is a dream cum true for almost anyone that has wanted to be locked. It takes most people years to get to that level in a relationship, and you did it in only two weeks. Please continue with sharing your Journey

 

I'm sure he's just thinking it up ....errr I mean recalling it right this second....

 

Started with self-locking with my wife becoming my key-holder in July 2017. It's now over 12 months since that journey began with me being locked for around sixty percent of that time

 

So I first discovered chastity on accident. I was on Tumblr, browsing my biggest fetish(castration), and since the two are very similar, ended up viewing a few chastity cages. It was a huge turn-off at the time. I quickly forgot about it though and then, about a year later, it popped up again and this time I was intrigued. I have a control fetish and this fit that and the no sex mantra of castration so I began to research casually. Eventually, the desire built up and I ordered my first cage, a bon4m-small for ~$180. And I just kept thinking "I can't believe I'm actually doing this". It arrived shortly after and I instantly locked up. I remember fighting an erection trying to put it on.

I wore it for a few hours and went to bed. It woke me up that night and it hurt so bad, with the square base ring digging into my scrotum that I had to unlock. I tried to make that cage work, putting rubber around the base ring but it was no use. I should also point out the length was too long. It was kinda a mind fuck to think about as the "small" model was too long for my flaccid state.(I'm a grower, btw).

So I was a little discouraged but kept researching. Someone said smaller is better so I went with a micro cage with a solid metal cap and just a few holes, for $16. I wore it and it was actually quite comfortable, but my urethra never seemed to stay lined up and hygiene was a nightmare. The stench was too much so it was on to cage #3.

I figured hygiene was the biggest issue so I ordered a bird cage style micro cage. It too was comfortable but the same issue of my urethra not lining up happened and I had to move on. However, I did complete a 41 day period in this cage, but it was a lot of work.

Cage #4 was where I found the style that suits me. It was another micro cage, shortest one on the market, but it had a parallel bar head which made urination a breeze... sort of. I jumped the gun in my horniness and sealed the lock with super glue. But some issues arose. First, I finally determined that length matters. The micro cages are too short and scrunch my urethra. This makes urinating difficult and often times some gets left in the urethra. But also, at day 17, something felt off. So I regrettably pulled out of the back of my cage and discovered a decently bad and very smelly sore on my penis. I knew I had to remove the cage. I did so by cutting through the thin piece of metal that connects the cage to the locking chamber. It took me almost 2 frantic hours to do it. Recovery took about 3 weeks.

I was really put off and basically wrote off chastity. But it slowly crept back into my mind, and I'm really glad it did. So I finally resolved that I was gonna do way more research before ordering a new cage. It was this decision that I consider the turning point. Chastity was no longer a fetish, it was a serious thing. I found a measuring guide from mature metal and followed it to a T. But I didn't want to spend that much money. Thankfully, I discovered a device that matched my measurements almost perfectly. It was the large version of the micro cage I previously had to cut off. It consists of 3 rings welded together on the under side and the parallel bar head design that I loved so much. It cost me $25.

Fast forward a few months and I still wear that cage. I just now entered what I plan to be my first real long-term lockup. I don't plan on releasing until December 31. Have 1 orgasm(maybe, we'll see what my feelings are then) and then I'm gonna try to go 2019 without orgasm. That's the plan anyway.

So what would I have done differently? First, I wish I had found this cage sooner. Second, I wish I had discovered chastity.in high school. College had no shortage of beautiful ladies and chastity would've been interesting, to say the least.

That's really all I'd change. I'm happy with who I've become and I don't really regret much. I'm looking forward to seeing where my journey takes me.

 

It`s realy amazing! I cann`t inmaging how did you endured that.
But i think you`ll gain another important feeling which your wife`happy will makes you happy.
Maybe it will difficult to permenant chastity,and you can find out the happy from you wife.

 

As I mentioned in my Introduction post, I just started in chastity in May. A little background...

I've been submissive since my early 20's. My ex-wife and I played around a bit, but she seemed to lose interest around the 11-year mark. Then, she had bariatric surgery, an I guess I was the last 170 lbs she had to lose! I was lucky to find my current Mistress/wife and we've been together for 13 years, married for 9, with no signs of slowing down - except when life gets in the way.

Chastity had ALWAYS been a hard limit for me. I was fine with tease and delay/denial during a scene, but not chastity. She has ALWAYS been interested in chastity, but she respected my limits. Over the past several years, we'd begun talking about it. I think my trust issues from the previous marriage had finally dissipated. So, we talked...and talked...and talked. I kept putting the CB6000 in the toy bag, but we never used. Then, one night in May, I decided to just put it on...funny story that, so let me digress...

So, we're getting sexual, and I pull it out. I have no idea how to put it on, so, with her experience - she's key held before - we get it on, snap the lock shut, then proceed to have some fun. She doesn't want to overwhelm me my first time, so after a few hours of teasing and pleasing (her), she says it's time to take it off. Pops the key in - and it won't turn. It's the right key, but either the cheap lock that was sent with it, or the length of time it had sat around had somehow messed up the lock cylinder.

She starts freaking out, telling me that this must make me never want to try this again, how this is a disaster, how are we going to get it off...yada...yada...yada. I' calm and practical, throw on some clothes, go out to the shed and get out bolt cutters. Now, on that night, all I had was the HUGE pair, so her eyes were so wide as I told her to hold the lock and contorted myself to be able to snip the lock.

Here's the thing. I think having that happen the FIRST time, and being able to solve the problem greatly contributed to my mental and psychological comfort with chastity. Since mid-May, I've been locked for some hours every day, and our longest chastity session has been 10 days. We're still trying to figure all this out, and decide how and what we want to do. Even though this has been a big turn-on for her, she says that my taking the reins and locking up without her having to actually tell me has been a bit of a disconnect.

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