What to do post sub orgasm?

Maybe don't give him any!

 

Went through the same thing. Now, after I get a rare one (5 this year) it's right into the cage and a viagra a day for three days. Gets me back in the zone really fast. The second two days are torture.

 

I get to come once a week on date night. Occasionally if she wants to force me to cum, she'll wait 2-3 weeks to the point that I dont want to because i'm in a sub-zone - then she'll force the issue.

In all case we recover from it by i'm cage free the rest of that day, then from then on it's back in the cage whether I'm in the mood or not. I don't wear my cage at work, and am expected to put it on and to then place the key around her neck as soon as I'm home. This process alone, you amps me up quickly enough that withing in 1-2 days of being back in the cage, I'm back in a sub zone with the end of the "blahs".

 

Given that Viagra doesn't increase sexual desire, what effect is it having? Viagra will only improve/ help an erection if are already getting an erection. That should not be possible in a proper chastity device, so I don't see the point.

 

Maybe the space is actually a good thing for your relationship. Ebb and flow.

However, if you want to speed things up then it depends on your dynamic and what you like. Perhaps...

When he gets off, the device doesn't go back on again until he's ready to submit. During none submission time, there's no sexual behaviour. He's not allowed to masturbate while you're around, and if you want to get off, you send him out of the room

However, while he's getting off, you could tell him what will happen next time he submits. It doesn't have to be an escalation, just something cool and sexy. So , for example, when he puts the device back on, then you'll wear your stockings and use a sex toy while he watches, or have him use a dildo on you....

 

one thing I can suggest is to make each release as memorable as possible. give your sub something to look forward to and keep him his toes.

Don't make his release a chore. make is so he is wanting the same experience again as soon as possible.

Of course every man's refractory period is different. if I'm locked up for a week without release I could cum 3 times in a few hours before I'm spent. once in spent the build up returns in about 48 hours. let him know if he wants another go around soon then his butt needs to start now before he gets release again.

 

Those times when the cage never comes off for the release, nor after the release, I am back in the zone pretty quickly because I still feel very controlled. Then days later I could have some out of cage time, but with no release, then back in the cage. Also it usually takes me 12 days to get back into full subservient/submissive mode after a more traditional uncaged release.

 

The more you train him, the less he should feel blah after cumming. And you should not let him be any less obedient just because he feels blah.

My wife made it very clear to me that if i wanted to be serious about it, it did not matter to her that i had just cum and was not feeling in the mood, i would still have to be her bitch. It took me a while but now i know better.

 

I've been threated for post orgasm behaviour by not being allowed to orgasm for a long time. Quite an effective threat!

 

This has always been a big challenge for us and has resulted in way less orgasms for me. What I have found effective is when my wife focuses on doing other non-sexual things that make me feel submissive. It sort of depends on what you are into. The worst times have been when she goes soft on me right after my orgasm. I start to get downright independent under those circumstances.

 

Edge him then lock him!

 

Give it a try and report back. You might be surprised.

 

I have some qualifications in the pharmaceutical area. I suspect you're just making this up ...

 

Simple solution is to not allow him / it to have any orgasms at all are to make them ruined or even painful.

 

whats a blah please. Is it crying do you mean. if it is being hurt wont make it better will it.

 

I think Jemima that she is saying he lacks enthusiasm for chastity and obedience.

 

I am Kadira’s sub. My blah is just feeling disconnected for a few days.

 

I am guilty of the post orgasm blah. My KH is all to generous during this time as well. She lets me stay out for quite a while and eventually I get the urge to be locked and I initiate it. As soon as I'm locked again we always ask ourselves why we wait so long.
I have promised her, and asked ger to enforce, that as soon as I finish my next orgasm the cage goes right back on weather we feel like it or not .

I find that in my blah state of mind, if she is demanding and in control the blah stage ends very quickly .Sometimes withing minutes of it beginning .

 

Bearing in mind that the many 'viagra' type products effects are or may be a combination of chemically induced physical effects and the psychological even placebo effects of suggestion I think it can be safely said that these all affect everyone differently. I would think it wise to take the poplar explanations of what 'viagra' does and how it achieves that as being a very broad generalisation.

Also I think that perhaps when people talk about viagra they may well mean an alternative product with a different name but call it viagra to keep things simple. These alternatives may also produce the required effects but in different ways.

 

I would agree with Mistress clara on this one. What you need to do is get his desire for an orgasm up and help it get there faster. Take time for 2-3 days after he comes and edge him a couple of times a day. I don’t mean tease him, get him right on the edge of cumming, as close to a ruined orgasm as you can get. He will be wanting more and then presto! Problem solved.

 

The blah stage is impermissible. Just because a boy has spurted does not mean that service should end. When she asserts control during the blah stage a boy learns that his orgasm is no excuse and is secondary to his duty to serve. Down with the blahs.

 

thank you very much for telling me.

 

My wife only allows ruined orgasms because she doesn't notice any down time on my part.