Using, to use, to be used

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    #26 lockit, Mar 29, 2018
    NO
     
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    #27 Kate Medova, Mar 29, 2018
    Context is everything. We are all so very different. To answer to the question, it is not wrong. Provided the capacity of the sub is considered. There are some that are vulnerable and are susceptible to coercion.

    To be clear - I believe Mistress Lucy is clearly a considerate person and can therefore never be wrong in this context. 'Using' in this case is not a violation.
     
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    #28 DrChastity, Mar 30, 2018
    I don't think there's anything wrong with a Domme using her slave. He likely wouldn't agree to this treatment if he wasn't getting anything out of it. If I had a Domme I'd wait with baited breathe to be commanded by Her to serve or pleasure Her. No questions asked and with no hesitation. And it would be a huge turn on and I'd take immense pleasure in doing as I was told. It's Her prerogative to use Her slave, however and whenever She sees fit. If the slave isn't happy with the arrangement, then he's probably free to make changes, i.e. quit the relationship. If he feels as if he's being used and doesn't care for it, then the dynamic is wrong. But he shouldn't ask his Domme to change Her way, I don't think. I mean, that's just not done, is it? I just can't see being anything but 'all in' if I was lucky enough to be in a D/s relationship.
     
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    #29 Mistress Jules, Mar 30, 2018
    Oh dear, it sounds like you were not fulfilling his fantasy. Did you forget @L-u-c-y you are only supposed to ask those subs to do something that lets them fulfil their fantasy, not something that could actually be useful to you.

    Didn't you read the Mistress Manual? Mistresses are supposed to be in control and dominate their subs by keeping them in an almost constant state of sexual arousal. These subs will serve you faithfully by wanking for you, telling you how much they adore you, take pictures of their dick for you to make sure you can see just how much they adore you. I am sure I sent you a copy :p The one with the appendix that says under no circumstances should a Mistress ask for anything material from a sub or ask them to do any tasks that do not directly cause sexual arousal, remember the one???? I think it was written by Master Bates:rolleyes:
     
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    #30 L-u-c-y, Mar 30, 2018
    I did read it and threw it in the bin :)
     
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    #31 thundar, Mar 30, 2018
    Whoa. Whoa. Wait, you mean that's not accurate?
     
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    #32 Jessica Alexander, Mar 30, 2018
    I can see the news reports: Millionaire chastity dominatrix uses hundreds of online subs for Bitcoin mining.
     
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    #33 LesterBallard, Mar 30, 2018
    Is that what she's up to??? The minx...

    Keep going Miss. You will achieve your goal in the end. And those of us subs who don't complain of being used will be very happy to have contributed.
     
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    #34 GeorgeCS, Apr 2, 2018
    Assuming mutual consent then no, there is no problem at all. If someone agrees to do something in exchange for another, then they must be happy with the exchange.

    Now, the question of why would anyone value being used for non-sexual tasks is totally beyond me. Some will even pay to be used like this. But each person has their own subjective preferences.
     
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    #35 adamjc1161, Jun 19, 2018
    Some of us were born naturally submissive and need a dominant partner. My wife enjoys dominating me.
     
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    #36 DeliciousDesperation, Jun 21, 2018

    This. As long as it is consensual, I don't see a problem with it.
     
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