So, this is my first time participating in Locktober, and it's been good and maybe even great so far. In fact, I wouldn't have really expected this result if you had asked me beforehand. Everybody is on board and happy. I'm packed away securely in my cage and the wife is content holding the key, occasionally teasing or fondling, and freeing me for her pleasure when she wants it. There's been no whining, no begging, no bitching, no bargaining on my part. She's treated it seriously the whole time in a good natured way. I'm finding that it's relief and that I actually love it because it takes a lot of the pressure off of me related to when, where and how of sex. I just do as I'm told and I get what she's willing to give me or not give me. I kinda think I will miss it when it's over. I would love for us to graduate into more serious play and forms of servitude, and I think the way there is with time, experience and zero pressure. So, I think I need to share that with her and see about extending this into November and beyond. I was curious what others in similar situations have done and how it worked out for them? What advice do you have for me in taking this next step?
I believe that November also gets called NOvember as a way to continue on with the Locktober shenanigans if you so choose. I suppose that you could come up with a writing project that tie NOvember into NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month). Just a thought.
Last year i thought it was just for Locktober, but instead of ending, it moved into No-Nut November (lots of different names with same intent), and Denied-December. So if you want to continue, talk with her. Just be willing to go along with her needs as much as yours. Good luck and enjoy.
Are you prepared for the possibility she decides Locktober isn’t going to end? If your lockup continues, she will provide all the advice you need.
This is my first Locktober and I am finding I prefer not having a defined duration, minimum or maximum. My fantasy and desire is to be subject to the desires of my KH and making the agreement to stay locked through Locktober has sort of diminished that. My KH has assured me there is no guarantee of release on Nov 1 so the fun will return, but I find myself wishing for Locktober to end more so we get back to our normal situation with uncertainty than the eventual release.
Normaly, if I have not added penalty time for bad behavior, we decide on a set time of ``freedom``. After this time a new chastetime is decieded upon by way of a cardgame. Worked for us so far because nobody will know how much time wil come out of the game. Greetings to all Locktoberians
This seems the *normal* way for a husband to be in chastity, locked except when she says you're not. What had you been doing previously? Why had you not been this way previously?
For the first 3 years, I was let out on the first and had amazing sex. Year 4, it changed to lag a few days until the weekend and then playing around to a ruined orgasm and relook for 24 hours for great sex. Last year, she did challenges and games that I continued to lose and went on for 122 days. The only saving grace were a few caged orgasms toward the end but no removal from the cage. Bottom line, whatever she decides.
Do exactly that - have a frank conversation with her about how you like the experience and would like it to continue, and remember to ask how she feels about it too.
Up until this point, she hasn't been interested in playing this game. This is our first time where she has suggested it. Prior to this, we (I) talked about it, but she wasn't too interested.
I am counting down the days, we normally only do a 7 day cycle so I am very hopeful it ends on halloween. I am really hoping for YESvember or even back to the 7 day cycle. A challenging twenty three days.
After locktober comes a one year locked wait until my last orgasm for who knows how long. My Queen says it might be my last one ever.
My KH said if I survive till Halloween she will give me a few days off! She is testing my will power with the 2nd lock!
Locktober was just the beginning for me lol. I upset my wife this past week and she added 2 more weeks. Then we talked this weekend about taking our FLR a bit more serious. We've played with chastity now for a year or two, and our relationship is definitely female led. Anyway, the result of our conversation this weekend is that there is no end date. We are going to try 6 months as a "serious" flr and part of that is me staying in chastity. She says there will be releases, but it will be whenever she feels like it so I don't know what to expect lol. Depending on how these 6mos go this may be the beginning of me being in chastity for a long time. I am really happy though that after plenty of experimenting and talking we are going to try taking this stuff a bit more seriously.
Like several have said, what is after Locktober is whatever the Dominant wants. For me, i've been promised a release from the cage later this week, on the two-year anniversary of my last unauthorized climax. My Keyholder Wife is looking for some amusement and the plan is to allow me to have a pretty humiliating experience with a vegetable. Hope that didn't put you off your dinner. Anyways, that may or may not end with a climax--only She (and maybe some Domme Friends) know. Either way, i have max one left for the year. I'm so lucky to have a Domme that enjoys being in control of my sex life! asa