After various trial periods of different lengths of time etc for the last 3 months (and admittedly me trying to control from bottom occasionally) we have decided that as from today I will be permanently locked other than when my partner desires me. Anyone who has read my other threads will know that it was her idea initially, however she is inexperienced. I was apprehensive, even frustrated sometimes. Despite this I enjoyed having to save myself for her and the releases were amazing. She has now read the Lucy Fairweather book, took some advice from it, admitting she had no idea of the sex drive/arousal it can create as well as many other things. She admitted she had confidence issues but believes in time she will become more and more. I have submitted and will try to control my frustration and not attempt to control her from the bottom. Another interesting development is that she recently told her best friend about this lifestyle and even had her hold up the key in a pic. That would kind of say her confidence is growing and as much as I now have to look this friend in the eye it kind of turns me on that she knows. I will update accordingly and let people know how it goes.
Yes. We had a conversation about it one night that she would love to tell her girlfriends butvwasnt sure. I told her if it helped her then she could. She did and that’s that.
So I’ve been locked away for almost a month now so I thought it was time for an update. My KH becomes more confident every day. Up until this weekend she was giving me a release on the weekend for her pleasure, once for the whole weekend and the others for a couple of hours. This weekend was different. No release. Been caged now for over a week and it’s looking like it’s going to extend to 2 at a minimum. She irregularly teases me which I love, making sure that I know my place. My frustration is subsiding slightly but I am constantly thinking about her sexually and emotionally. Not much more to say yet but I’ll update again soon or if anything changes.
How is chastity affecting your relationship? Your personality? Do you feel yourself becoming more submissive?
Yes. Definitely becoming more submissive and responsive to her needs. Relationship gets stronger all the time but as we still only see each other 3 times a week or so it’s still developing.
So today I was told by my lady that I must stop talking about the cage constantly and just suck it up as she is bored of hearing about it, although I am still to wear it for her. To be fair I do go on about it all the time but it’s constantly on my mind. Is this a usual step in the process?
Besides your cage, there are lots of things we mention that I’m sure tend to be on the “thanks for sharing but I didn’t ask” category. State of dripping, how much, etc Aching balls How long it’s been since last erection How long it’s been since last orgasm How much you want them Messy pee, sitting etc Any kind of grooming, pinching, cleaning, or inconveniences It’s part of the newness of being locked up, and although these issues continue to occupy your mind, eventually you will learn not to let them dominate your conversations.
Thanks for that. It’s probably the best advice I’ve ever received on this site. I think at first it was a novelty for her but now shits got real she doesn’t need to hear it all the time. She knows I’m locked up for her. I sometimes forget that men (usually) think about sex more than women.
So...it is with great sadness that I have to report that my KH left me . Not only did I lose an awesome friend but now I’ve lost the most awesome girlfriend. And to top it off my new HT nun arrived in the mail today. Truly devastating. I have no idea how to replace her.
I’m so sorry to hear that you lost her. I will tell you that several years ago I ended a relationship with a woman who was every guys dream and many woman’s. Sadly she had some issues that were fatal to our relationship. Even though I ended things I’ve hurt over losing her. So I understand where you’re at. All I can offer is that it sucks but life moves and you should celebrate the good memories and remember the bad so you can heal and move on. You can’t replace her, but you can find someone else who will hopefully love you and be eight for you.