Ok, so earlier this week, my wife had some spare time coming up and promised we could have sex today (Thursday). Whooo Hoo I thought! Can’t wait!! Next day she had a shoulder pain and turns out she has a trapped nerve. Thus, no sex since the pain is too great. Obviously concerned for my wife, it’s still a pain in the butt for both of us… we will survive… For you lovely people, what is YOUR biggest disappointment whilst you are locked up - maybe some interesting stories out there!!
For the last 3 months I’ve dropped 10 pounds due to being locked and constantly denied. The exception is for a monthly full orgasm and a proper PIV until my Goddess & I collapse. I’m quite sure the weight loss is mostly due to heightened sexual tension and more activity around the house. I’ve increased my food and nutrient consumption. At 64 years young and 5’9” I feel my best at 170 pounds.
Here is something specific and something general. 1) The time of my previous lock up was only a week. In between, She had no interest in sexual contact. She certainly wanted massages and cuddles. She also did a lot of teasing. However, I missed the feeling of helping her orgasm and the feelings that creates in me. I even felt a little guilty, but I did give her what She wanted. 2) We both travel semi-frequently for work. Nothing is more disappointing than being locked up in a hotel hundreds of miles from Her. I CAN'T serve Her or hold Her. On a few occasions She has video called me just to have me watch Her pleasure Herself... Now THAT is pretty great.
A long time ago, I was allowed to unlock after 40 days and was given 5 minutes to masturbate to orgasm. At the arranged time, I unlocked my cage, removed it, and began to jack off. Much to my disappointment, I never got a little bit of an erection, so I gave up at 4 minutes and locked back up. I was going to have to wait for another year to try again.
That disappointment has happened to me before. You’re told that you will have sex only for Her to change Her mind. I am learning to refocus when I have that disappointed feeling and to remember that I am here to please Her and I must trust that Her decisions are what is best. It has been a difficult adjustment but necessary
There's been a few. One was being unlocked for no sex/orgasm before being locked. Then there was being unlocked exactly when she said, then unlocked on day 99. A
One critical thing here - maybe she should not commit to a specific activity at a specific time. She can suggest it could happen, but not agree that it will. Not only does it not set expectations that may not be met, it keeps us guessing. For me, the thrill of the unknown possibility is almost as fun as the activity itself. And for the time to come and pass and have it pushed further out can be frustratingly fun. Chasing carrots.
Having young children 2 and 8 year old things just don’t work out sometimes even the simple thing is difficult with kids at times plus her stressful job.I just remember it will happen sometime and just help her feel special and love by putting her first and not be selfish.I find myself becoming a happier,better and calmer person because of it,even the oldest kid noticed the change in me
Interruption from children ending what little intimate time we used to have back when I was locked (I don't use a cage anymore). Sex was once every couple of weeks or maybe once a month, and sometimes it would only last a couple of minutes before we would be interrupted by a kid and she would say "we should just go to sleep now". After waiting a couple of weeks or even up to a month to be able to touch her and feel close to her, the disappointment of being interrupted by kids was difficult. Sometimes it could be 2 or 3 months before I got to enjoy more than a few minutes with her.
For me I think it’s not being allowed to give Madam oral anymore, I used to love being between her legs as lapping at her, but unfortunately I wasn’t very good at it. So as soon as the cuckolding began and Madam had someone who knew what they were doing, she (in her words) soon lost her patience, and became infuriated with my irksome meandering technique.
Probably the blue lounge. We talked about it before we met and after we met. It’s been dragged 1000 km then moved house to house at least 4 times. Then it became a prize which took a year to get a lucky dip that has never happened. Maybe one day. The blue lounge is a day bed, in the good old days I was threatened with being suffocated in the perfect way. I spose reality happened
There was a time after a little longer lockup that my Wife told me we’d be having piv later that night and possibly I’d be allowed an orgasm and of course like we’ve all experienced, things happen and plans change. I was disappointed, but it was a turning point for me, I really started to just assume that every day there would only be cuddling for sexual activity. That way anything beyond that would be a treat and I wouldn’t be disappointed, and more importantly I wouldn’t shift my focus off my Wife’s pleasure and what she wants.