I haven't been to visit this forum much over the past year. Like chastity play, it hasn't really been on my mind. Things where quite 'busy' towards the end of last year. So, this year has just been completely 'normal'... ('till 5 weeks ago). No chastity play and sex may be twice per month after me pushing for it and feeling guilty afterwards. 5 weeks ago, playfully my wife asked me to 'pleasure' her and then she decided she wanted me to put on my cage. The idea being that the following night would be all about me... I wasn't going to argue! Unfortunately, the following night the stars didn't alight (surprise, surprise...), nor the next night and so forth. We had an un-related argument... we made it up... over the 5 weeks, I got to pleasure her twice more and we had 'full' sex once but then I was told to put the cage straight back on, which was unusual... Over this time, my over-active self decided to write the following. I sent it a day or so ago by email: I thought I’d write a ‘serving suggestions’ guide for chastity. It’s not a “user’s manual” in any way, shape or form as you, the “user”, are completely free to play the game in which ever way you like. It is merely meant as “play suggestions”. That said, my only ‘hard limit’ is not to be suggestive in a way that could lead to disappointment later. I don’t mean suggestive as to me being unlocked but that we’ll ‘have an early night’ or ‘play’. To be completely honest, it’s crushingly disappointing to have that anticipation and excitement build and then for nothing to happen. However to be positively surprised is at the complete other end of the scale! I absolutely love you ‘talking dirty’ to me about how much you are enjoying… whatever… for example when I’m pleasuring you. Personally, it would be a massive turn-on to know that you enjoyed and wanted me to be locked up ‘for you’. And how little need you see for me to be unlocked. How much that ‘we’ can enjoy sex, especially you, without me being unlocked. How that you don’t see it as a game anymore but now a ‘life-style’ choice. Like a wedding ring. It doesn’t need to be true because I don’t know the difference, but would make me wonder, take me beyond my ‘comfort-zone’, perhaps actually scare me, so it no long feels like it’s on my terms, but yours... A sincere request of some regularity, keep me thinking about sex (and longing for orgasm)… If, truthfully this isn’t very often for you, doing something that requires minimal effort for you but would still work completely for me. Such as making me wear my belt when you’re out with friends. Restraining me in some way (the more restrictive the better) even for a quite reasonably long period of time whilst you do something menial or ‘just relax’ in an evening. Making me wear the silicone cage with internal spikes. If you were in a playful mood, playing with anything from our toy box (from mild to wild) or anything ‘just because’ it takes your fancy. When you do want, making it clear that you want me to pleasure you without even a second thought to my pleasure, unless you so wish… Part of me is always desperate that you allowed me to orgasm but the other part loves the denial and the longing for that brief moment of bliss. On the subject of letting me orgasm, I volunteer that this should be the lowest of your concerns with zero guilt for withholding it. I would be grateful for perhaps a very occasional ‘ruined orgasm’, as a special mischievous ‘treat’ (?) how about seeing how many times I could come in an evening through to not letting me come for months. I can’t think of any way to write the next bit without it sounding like emotional blackmail and it’s really not meant to be. Picking up on the fundamentals of the above and applying them in your own way, would give me complete satisfaction from our sex life. I promise I will not ask for, be expectant of or be grumpy about sex as I would know and would trust that you would not lock and ignore me. Everything would be on your terms and when to suit you. My wife read this today. She's gone out for the evening with friends. As I write this now, I'm securely locked into my chastity belt.