I was curious to see what people would choose. I'm currently allowed an orgasm every one to two weeks. Our sex is mostly vanilla but in some instances when the mood strikes mistress can be very dirty (not often enough ). A lot of times I find myself wishing for longer orgasm denial and kinkier bedroom play. I love the "high on desire" I get for my mistress when I've been locked for a week but I hate when it gets stripped away from me when she makes me cum. I don't always lose my subbiness but most of the time I do. I feel like we can get more out of our lifestyle if she were to deny me for longer as well as incorporate sexual acts where she completely dominated me. So would you rather have kinkier bedroom play but little to no chance of ever orgasming or orgasms every one to two weeks but vanilla sex for the most part... In the end it's her choice and perhaps she doesn't like to feel completely dominant although she certainly likes the benefits from it... So I'm curious to see what others think as well as how they live their chastity lifestyle.
I picked the kinkier sex and no orgasms only because I've never had that. I suppose this is one of those "grass is always greener" situations but I think if I had the type of domination and bdsm I crave I could live without ever having a penile orgasm again.
100% Kinkier option , the longer I am locked the more I want to submit to my Mistress I am not sure about no orgasms for ever that is a very long time, In general now I think ruined orgasms along with pegging and orally serving my mistress would be my preference Mistress never was into PIV sex anyway and always liked oral and toys better so now for me its full orgasm maybe sometime never, ruined 1 every two weeks with spanking, pegged lots, and caged 24/7 and allowed to serve my wonderful mistress as she thinks fitting. win win for me
The best part of an Orgasm to me is the moment just before. Having an Orgasm is great but the emotional drop I feel after isn't worth it. Guess how I voted. When in doubt pick B
Interesting, cast mine as kinkier, and currently at 85.7%..... i like the people on CM!!!!! Been out of the US for over 30 days, had to be unlocked due to circumstances, and in the limo She picked me up in, I was allowed to service her, but as soon as we walked in the door, I was handed the cage and told to shower and lock up. She missed me, and said I had a lot of making up to do. Maybe this weekend?!?!?!?!
Everything else staying the same? I would pick what I currently have: no orgasms ever again. My wife hates intercourse passionately. Our sex life was nearly nonexistent before chastity and the infrequent times we did have sex were miserable experiences. Now we have an active and happy sex life, but my orgasm days are over.
If that was the actual choice, with no wiggle room or possibility of negotiation or trade-offs, then I would have to choose the second option. I would do this partly because my kink is part of my identity, but also because I would be trading a few seconds of orgasm for hours of plateau phase.
BDSM sex with no orgasm sounds like an easy and obvious choice, but is one large step to take. I think that if the BDSM/Kinky sex was all it could and should be, it would be a clear winner in my book.. I often deal with a post orgasm low after being allowed to really have at it.
I guess that is the scary part about giving up control. I didn't vote because in all honesty, I have already told her that her decision on that matter are hers alone, and she could decide to do just that if she wished. I love to have orgasms, and if it were up to me, I would have them all the time. It's not up to me, so I have them when she wants me to have them. She could decide that the few seconds of pleasantness with my 4 incher isn't worth the trouble, so I would rather have no orgasms than to have one that she wasn't into. I do lose some submissiveness after an O, but nothing that can't be cured with some assertive talk, or told to do submissive deeds.
Like I said, based on poll AND comments it would appear that at least 94% of us are or want to be headed in the same direction.