Would you quit FLR for your partner?

I have to say, having read all the responses- this is one of the most insightful threads I have seen on here (CM) that I've spotted, anyway.

 

I'm significantly older than her and everyone knows superior females live longer ;-)

It's a joke, don't overthink it. My and my M are intensively in love and have been for a couple of decades. Neither of us are planning to go anywhere, relationship-wise or otherwise.

 

How much older, out of interest? My slave is 16 years older however I don't really see it as significant for an age gap - even though others do. So I'm very curious!

 

I think that in most instances the male is the one who first to have raised the possibility of an FLR; i know i did and asked her to consider it. My wife was skeptical at first but after reading some stuff online that was more than just wank fodder, we started on a trial basis.
She quickly began to really embrace this lifestyle because she felt so much more in control of our life and her sexuality. For example, She had always been responsible for our finances, bills, major purchases, etc. but without any real help from me in the actual drudgery of bill paying, or researching major purchases before buying. Around the house, i would do dishes after dinner but she would do all the prep work, cooking, food shopping, and the like without much help from me. Now, i do all the shopping from a list that she compiles and food preparation as she directs (she still does most of the cooking because she really likes to do that).
None of this is sexy but that is part of the point. It took getting into an FLR for us both to be in a position that i would do the things i should have been doing all the time. If we stopped, i hope i would continue to do these things (which i should have been doing all the time tbh). But now, for her, there is not even a question that i will do everything she directs quickly and obediently or there will be consequences, including some harsh corporal punishment for me. That need on her part to be in charge in all areas is not going away
This sense of power that comes from her being in charge has transferred itself into the purely sexual realm so that she is getting orally serviced by me multiple times a week while i remain chaste and denied. If she feels like a quickie (and she does now frequently), i go down on her, she uses me until she has been sufficiently pleasured, and she feels no need to do anything for me sexually apart from a tease and denial a couple of times a week. Sex for both of us has been reframed by being in an FLR into her pleasure and my providing the same without any of PIV or even direct penis stimulation.
I told her about the OP's question and her reaction was that an FLR relationship is the only one that she can imagine us being in and that she hoped that was true for me (it is) because she would not have it any other way. i understand that an FLR is fundamentally about her having the power i have described within our relationship, not about my femdom fetish. If some life altering event occurred, she would deal with it with the love and consideration she always has shown in our marriage. If i had a horrible illness that precluded me from any physical activity, she would care for me for as long as was required. But the power dynamic in our relationship is going to stay FLR.

P.S. Sorry for the long response but it is an interesting question.

 

That was a lovely and thoughtful post, which in many ways also describes what I have with Miss Amanda.

 

Eoniss, a true D/s or FLR is a beautiful thing to see, the bond is far deeper than conventional relationships in my experience, and a lot of the arguements are sorted as the final word is hers and we accept that, also from my experience the sex is more fun and frequent than conventional marriages where things seem to go stale in many cases. The differance between the punishments or beatings is respect and love for each other within the FLR rather than often contempt/indifferance in vanilla abusive relationships, and yes I have experienced both.

 

But we would not want them to give it back, I for one will never go back to purely vanilla relationship and I expect most here feel the same way, male or Female

 

He is lucky, as am I with my Goddess. What you wrote is really everything that a submissive male wants to hear

 

I'm 7, almost 8 years older than my Mistress. We met when she was 18 and I was 25. We've been together well over half her life now. She was a wild child before we met, and I think that's what drew me to her so intensely right away. She'd literally use men for her pleasure, be it free drinks or sexually, and feel absolutely no emotional connection to them at all.

We were friends for a while, with other lovers, but eventually we focused on each other and have been best friends who are also married ever since.

 

Isn't that comment just a teenie weenie bit judgemental? The thing I like about CM is that we don't judge.
I see you are from France. Are you equally judgemental about the fact that your President is 25 years youngers than his wife. That's almost 3 times the 9 years that you say is 'big of a gap'!

 

Men and women have been having non-emotional sexual dalliances with each other for millennia; it's not inherently sociopathic.

Saying someone's Mistress is sociopathic IS offensive...

 

She would say yes. So would I.

We, as a couple in love, came before. That is what is important.

 

If my French was half as good as your English, I'd be very happy.
I was not bullying you, I hate bulies.
I think you confused bullying with constructive criticism.
Yes I did misread your age comment, for which I apologize.
You have already apologized for your 'sociopath' comment.
Lets all move on.