Hi friends. My boyfriend introduced chastity to me about a year ago. We are just recently really getting into it, and we both enjoy everything about it. Lately, he has asked me to “smack him around” and I’m not quite sure how and where or how hard I should inflict pleasure on him Also, I’m kinda nervous I’m going to hurt him or make him mad at some point..Any suggestions on how to start playing a bit rougher would be great. Thanks for reading.
Perhaps some face slapping... doesn't have to knock his teeth out, just a good crisp one ( or two) that leave a rosy reminder of his place. In public...even better.
On the bottom over your knee, or bent over with you standing. Increasingly hard. Then get out the wooden spoon. I guarantee he still won't want you to stop. Rubbing inbetween. And not always rhythmically. Random to keep him guessing when the next one is coming.
First of all welcome to the CD mansion. I would not worry about hurting him or upsetting him after all this is what he wants. The easiest way to start is to tie his hands behind his back and and get a leather belt and use it lightly to begin with and you will find his level of pain very quickly that he can take, and remember there is no right way and no wrong way just keep it fun for all involved.
As a kid I was spanked by nuns in my good Catholic upbringing. It explains much of my messed up adulthood but that is for another time. My point is you wouldn't believe how much a ruler across a bare buttock can sting. Try that and see if he is still keen. Caveat though: he may grow to enjoy the burn. Oooh Kay, better bug out there; Move on to another post, nothing more to see here.
Once you start spanking him with something you will soon begin to push his limits as you begin to enjoy yourself.
Hello and welcome. To me, 'smack me around' isn't really enough of an explanation to work with. I think you need to talk about the subject a bit more. I know it can be a bit awkward. But you both need to understand what you hope to gain from playing. So I'd recommend both doing a BDSM checklist (easily found via Google). This can provide a platform for discussing what both of your expectations are during play. Try to ask questions like "how would you feel if we did this?" or "what do you like about this?" when discussing particular activities to get more detail about the thought process behind the attraction to certain ideas. And also importantly, write it down or have him scribe it down as you speak so you can come back to it and re-evaluate. Hope this helps.
If you are happy administering "slapping" with your boyfriend, then you need to have a proper discussion with him to find out exactly what he means. Whether he has anything he doesn't want and how far he wants you to go! Also he needs to be aware of any limits you may have. If it's "not for you" then you shouldn't be pressured into it. It's all about communication and taking your time to find out what works for you both! Who knows you might get to enjoy it a whole lot more than him and then he'll be in trouble!!! . Good luck, hope you both have fun.
You MUST also have a safe word which he can use when he has had enough or the pain is too great for him to bear.
Trust is one thing, safety another. You should always have a safe word whatever you are doing for play.
Greetings Traveler! Welcome to The Mansion!!! This is only something you should do if you enjoy doing it. It doesn't have to be a turn on sexually even though it could be... Do it how you want to do it if you chose to... hey you could even make it humorous or amusing to you. Give anything a try once, but do it how you want you. Have fun and stay safe.