When did it move from fetish to a lifestyle for you?

Not ever a fetish for me (I get why it can be that though). It was an abrupt lifestyle change. I am locked all the time. It just is what it is. Once I got used to the feeling, it was great. So no point in unlocking. Would feel super weird to be out of my cage. Couldn't handle the stress of it.

 

For my wife and I it was a lifestyle change and never a fetish. Neither of us even knew what it was before we order it to make some changes. We both weren't happy with the current situation, I came up with this as a solution, and she really liked the changes a lot.

A+++ experience so far.

 

In our case it's very much just "part of us" now. I'm locked 24/7 and if possible 365. Mrs Chaste would be more than a little upset if I decided I didn't want it anymore!

 

sissyEliza85. It has been just shy of 3 and a half years. I am locked 24/7/365. The official TomAllen "permanent" measuring scale puts me at 364 days 23 hours and hmmm, about 20 minutes. About 5 minutes of shaving each time it is necessary, so at every 6 weeks ish, or so. I went with a 40 minute total subtracted.

King Hippo. Nice going. Excellent that you took the first step to finding a solution. Kudos, bro.

Life is good in the cage.

 

Immediately, well almost. With a vanilla wife, suddenly my kinks don't matter so much to me.

 

Somewhere around the time I decided to take chastity beyond selfbondage 'play' as a method to delay my self-pleasure and see if I could wear a cage or belt for more than a 'setting'... I had explored long weekends and even during the work week a bit while remaining caged. I still had the 'time release' thing going on, and had started exploring 'giving up my key' using more and more unknown and random settings using Emlalock and other web-based 'key holding' sites... I went 'all in' once and shared with a lady friend, under pressure, and decided to just go 2 weeks, all or nothing, and it went well. That went well and when that time was up, she offered to and took the keys. We explored many aspects of chastity from a clinical perspective and I found that I wasn't quite as anxious to get off/experience sexual release, as I had been when the chastity was merely part of a delay 'tool'. This lady friend and I parted ways for a while and I tried several different on-line 'holders' that never really were as interested in 'all this' and they came and went. I continued to keep up with perpetual chastity as a 'lifestyle' but frequently found my experience 'lacking' the thrill of giving up my sex and pleasure to a woman that was interested in being a part of the experience. We reunited 1/1/2020 and quickly picked up where we had left off. She had gained some more experience as a holder and dominate play-partner and had more of an idea of how she wanted things go progress. After a very brief re- break-in period and several short discussions about expectations and things we were both agreeing to, she took control of my sexual pleasure and access to my bits. We haven't looked back from there and although the initial time when she did the same seemed to me when I looked at this as a lifestyle, it really was more of a way of life that has evolved into a lifestyle. Sorry if not specifically clear, but I think there were two times when I considered my chastity as a lifestyle...

 

Not sure.....but it's certainly become a lifestyle for us. We agreed to try chastity together, and both loved it from the beginning. From there, it slowly evolved into our everyday life. I had my cock pierced, wear a cage 24/7, shave from the neck down, and wear girly panties routinely. I'd say its a life style now.

 

Watching them makes him so horny plus he gives me service several times a week which adds to his begging for an orgasm. I do allow him to be out a couple times a month for edging but he's never allowed an orgasm.

We live in the Foothills. You're a few hours from us.

 

For me I was for some time fantasizing of a ritual to mark this switch. And luckily I was capable to express this desire to my then wife-to-be (though she classifies as vanilla), so that she recieved the first key to my chastity belt (giving her an official access, not locking her out!). Her vow was to accept the belt as part of me - in exchange I pledged to voluntarily wear it like a wedding ring for her.

The other key is locked up in a safe. It wasn't touched in month.

Well New York is certainly a few hours away from Germany

I admit, besides reading in blogs / forums (which usually doesn't get me aroused), I also consume captioned images. It is not like porn-clips, no movement, about half of the pics are not even naked girls. Flicking through them without reading the texts is really boring. So the main focus is on the captions, on the words, that draft the pictured situation and put some snappy remarks into the mouth of the woman. It is more comparable to the funnies: the picture sets a tone and spares the author from describing every little detail. The text instead concentrates on the key-feature of that situation - better than any mediocre acting in porn-clips I've ever seen. And it is way shorter than a full blown novel, without introducing complex relationships nor long-winded explanations of the setting.

The captions: it just suits me. When the organ is locked, I usually only read 5 to 10 and I'm "floating". Without the belt, by then I would be abusing myself. But as it is, I can only caress the warm steel.

 

Welcome back. Sounds like you two have made a lot of progress.

 

Happily, i and my Keyholder Wife, @MistressAMA, have made this jump 15 years ago or so. We had been trying to do "scenes" during playtime, but that wasn't quite scratching my itch and it felt too much like playacting to really get either of us excited. I had been doing some reading online and found a blog post by a Domme on how She lived in an FLR. (I've since tried finding this "Rosetta Stone" posting but no luck.)

That clicked for me and we had a long discussion on how my Wife might take control of our sex life and i would work to please Her. We started slowly and kind of felt our way into what worked for us. The first big change was my online porn time was restricted to only when She would allow it, then She started handing chores off to me and finally chastity became the rule, first on an honor system and later through 24x7 wearing of a device. We developed a list of rules and documented the chores and tasks i am to do and their frequency.

Good luck with making this transition!

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What show was this?? Hah

 

It became a lifestyle about 4 years ago , and honestly it was the best thing that could have happened to me. Wish this would have started 20 years ago.

 

it was "succession".
It’s not particularly sexy, but the daughter character Siobhan, is a fierce, unapologetic business woman, and she is definitely the top in her relationship.
She also has a very open way of expressing her sexuality.
it just clicked for my wife. She wanted to be more like her.

 

Forgive me for asking, but how do you know if its a life thing or a kink?
I belive we are doing kink, but we've been at it a 20 months and my wife is in no hurry to give it up.
Now I think of it, it was my idea to begin with, my kink, but it's my wife who sees that I'm not unlocked for too long.
Locked is my normal state, as in 2 months at a time with a weeks break, but the breaks get shorter.
I have asked why bother putting it in a cage, we are so happy anyway? And my wife's reply was "because it makes me happy"
Is this not my kink any more? Honestly, it didn't even occur to me.
if it has changed I should imagine it was after my first few weeks out following my first long (3 month) stint. Because I argue less and I'm not an arse apparently?
Im still not convinced I would say its a life style, athough I do know asking to stop would most likley be a No, or even worse.
Wow?

 

In November we discussed options to rebuild her trust in allowing me close to her. At Xmas she surprised me with 3 cages as presents. By January I had 3 additional cages trying to find proper fit. In February 3new cherry keeper cages. I now wear the Micro since Valentines weekend. I have been locked since Xmas honor system system sine November. Unknown when I have an orgaism. If you call it a fetish caged is becoming lifestyle for me.

 

Yeah I guess that's fitting. I never thought she would, or like the fact that I'm locked up and she has all the control. I can never get the key because it's locked in a biometric safe that only opens with her finger.

 

She has not officially become KH but it resides on her medicine cabinet shelf. I do not access it with her permission. She now no longer tells me it's unnecessary to get permission. Instead she nods or gives me a thumbs up. Seems she is happy that I ask before using. It's only when I do full cleaning now that I am done with smooth sanding my cherry keeper components.

 

I hope Tom Wambsgans (Siobhan’s husband) ends up caged.

Also, I just like writing the name Tom Wambsgans.

 

About 6 years ago we started had a few breaks but since 2017 been 24/7

 

started in 2007 as sexual recreation but buy 2010 was permanent. these days my schedule goes as follows, 90 days then 120 days then 90 days then 120. there is a punishment for asking to have an orgasm, but to be honest i stopped asking years ago. She will provide all this slave needs and slaves dont need to climax. She reserves the right to grant or take away at any given moment

 

NC here too