What does your chastity mean to you?

Well, I would be lying to myself if I said it did not start out because of the kink factor. After all, I am the one that introduced her to the idea. But, at this point the kink is only a small part for me. I have always had a healthy respect for strong females. My wife has a high level of emotional intelligence and is very witty! She has not only embraced the idea, she is demanding it. I have always wanted to please her, and had trouble both in then bedroom and outside of it. At this point she is having fun all around. I am doing it now because I enjoy seeing her happy, and enjoy the newer level of closeness we have.

 

Freedom to finally be the person I always wanted to be. Submissive. Wanting to be her everything. Letting her lead us.

Chastity has also opened some other doors I did not think about too much. I'm amazed how wearing a chastity belt changes you for the better!! )

 

Being in chastity to me is a deep vow that I will remain chaste and submit myself to the will of my KH.

When we first got together my KH knew I had a big thing for tease and denial especially the denial side of things, it was initially a kink for me a bit of fun something to fuel my masturbation fantasies as was being in chastity.
Over the years we have been together it has become much more than that, it has become an integral part of our relationship. I spend a lot of time in mental chastity and I find myself yearning for those days I was caged and locked up and had that snug hug the physical reminder of my submission to their will.
To be chaste to my KH is for me 1 of the most precious gifts I can offer them, as I am mostly in mental chastity it has become a living embodiment of my laying down my will and surrendering to my KH and their needs.

 

I agree with freedom, but it is also about the constant control I am under. And not so much the lack of desire, but the constant feeling of desire I feel. Before when we did bdsm at the end of a session I would climax and the feeling would be vented from me, not it never goes away.
The desire to be submissive and to please and serve and worship my madam is never ending.

 

I enjoy the freedom it provides my wife to become her most confident sexy self. Having me locked 24/7 makes her hot. Just knowing I am available to her anytime she wants, with no obligations to mey needs creates a sexual tension she just loves. Which makes the entire situation work on many levels. She likes the power she has over me and enjoys making me jump through her hoops, so to speak. I love being a to earn her attention by being a good boy. It's a beautiful circle.

It's a bit of a mind twister, but to be truly happy I had to give her control.

 

WONDERFUL thread! So glad it started. These are my favourite takeaways:

This is so true, guys. You have no idea. Respect it and don't ever leverage it against us.

Beautiful. You get it.

Craaaazy transformation, huh. Clever handle btw. I love it.

I really understand your longing, like your comforting security blankie isn't there all the time like it used to be, and that wonderful reminder, that feeling of belonging no matter where you are or what is happening. But somehow you have managed to carry Her with you without it and that's a big transition. It takes a LOT of strength. As a result, you are one of the few people on earth that she trusts. She demonstrates it every day you are not locked up.

So hot!!!

It's really intoxicating for Her. I bet she's constantly aroused. I bet she performs better at work, too. I do when I am.

 

To me chastity means giving up on my wants and needs to offer it up to the Mistress instead.
Key elements to this are, as previously already mentioned, trust and control.

And all together it is a mutual agreement on submissiveness to the Mistress, as after some time the behavior modification becomes apparent. Yet, she has the power over it.

 

A feeling of safety and security.....

I'm locked for one and one only....

Bliss

 

Was going through a difficult time being relocked after a 3 week break. What started as fun was becomming too real and out of control. Asked Miss Lori "why am I shopping for an even more secure cage?" She replied: "Because being locked makes you a better person, I think even you know that".

Probably the greatest sales line I ever heard. I realized at once that she was absolutely right and have felt wonderful since (frustrated for sure, but in a much better way).

 

I have found that focusing all of my sexual desire onto my wife’s pleasure, and giving her total control over mine a very liberating, refreshing and psychologically transformative experience. The white noise of my male ego has been silenced and that is a wonderful thing for both of us.

 

It started out as kink for me because I have a strong submissive streak and a desire to be bound and disciplined but she isn't the woman to do it. No interest at all.

This was the ultimate compromise that gave me 24/7 kinky control and submission without getting "really weird" for her.

When we got into the groove of longer and longer lock ups, it occurred to me that this was the way to roll back the clock on our marriage. I always want to spend time with her, I want to be near her, I want to touch her and she appreciates the attention and is starting to enjoy the control; I think.

At three weeks post orgasm, I stay in a state of semi-arousal and eager anticipation that I don't want to end. When we're hitting on all cylinders, I'm longing for her and she's flirty, my one word would have to be... bliss.