Hi all - I'm a 40 yo man very happily married to my wife for 11 years. After years of subtle (and poor) attempts to "nudge" my wife into exploring my femdom fantasies, one night after a few too many drinks I emailed my wife a link to a Literotica story about "Activities for your submissive male". About 24 hours later, and after a long chat, my wife fucked my ass with her pink and rather large vibrating dildo, before making me jerk off on her stomach/chest and lick it up. That was a little over 3 years ago, and we've explored off and on since then as time (kids) and desire allows. About 18 months ago we began exploring orgasm control, and have played around with chastity some during that time. While masturbation was never a problem, I have given up that privilege (unless permitted by wife) and have probably masturbated <5 times in last 18 months. My periods of orgasm denial generally run from 1-3 weeks - not planned, but rather depend on wife's needs or if she thinks I need a release. We did Locktober for the 1st time in 2021, however cheapo plastic cage (2nd one) busted about half way through, at which point wife decided it was time for metal. My stamina, which, though lower after a week or two of OD, has never been a problem. However, since Locktober I've been consistently cumming strictly from massaging my wife's feet/back/ass, no stimulation for me, both caged and uncaged. I can't last more than 1-2 pumps of PIV unless it's shortly after I already came from massage. Crazy stuff! I'll stop there for now - just wanted to say hello and love the site!
Hi there, and welcome. I enjoyed your story and I’m sure you’ll be happy you found our diverse group. Sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your wife and I look forward to hearing more
Welcome. Cumming just from massaging her! My wife would love that, massage is her favourite thing... only I'd fall asleep before finishing the massage
There's something I find so exciting /appealing about that loss of stamina. But also, maybe I'm just kind of a perv lol
Stamina? I think if she just sat down on it I would explode! It would be so humiliating and wonderful just to "feel it" again! Sissies that don't have PIV sex anymore can only remember what it felt like to be inside! It's a fading memory for me for sure.
Welcome @wifeisqueenstl, it's great to have another chaste husband here, hope you'll share what works for you. What cage is your wife using? I'm guessing your new lack of stamina is deepening your submission to your wife, it's hard to pretend you're alpha when you spurt and can't stay hard.
This appears to be the mentioned Literotica article... https://www.literotica.com/s/activities-for-your-submissive-male
Yes, that's the one. Worked out OK as a conversation starter, but as expected still required a long follow-up discussion. Can't complain too much about where things stand today though
Here's the one we currently have: Without a doubt the lack of stamina has deepened the submission...and for whatever reason, my post-orgasm mental "refractory" period has seemed to shrink significantly as well, as it doesn't take long to get back into the deep submissive mindset.
Totally agree! Sometimes I feel guilty about the stamina loss, but we've talked about it and she's generally OK with it and prefers to maintain control...and when she wants sex, she knows she needs to have me "release" ahead of time...usually by massaging her. Then I may be able to last more than a minute when it's time for PIV. She does seem amused/flattered by the fact that I can now cum just from touching her, and the feeling of humiliation I feel gives me such a rush. I look forward to continued exploration of this new dynamic