Start of my journey into chastity

Let me start by introducing myself:
I'm a happily married guy in the early forties. Lovely wife and two great kids. Life couldn't be better... or could it?

After we got our second child our sex life just seemed to come to a complete stop. Both having a career, taking care of the kids, renovating our new house, etc. etc. there just wasn't energy left for our intimate relationship. I'm not sure if it was that which drove me to surfing the web for pornography, or it was the pornography which took my energy away. Or maybe it was a combination. Nevertheless, it has come to a point where I spend almost every night surfing and masturbating to get my satisfaction. In the back of my mind I've always known that it had to stop, but never really taken it seriously.

That was until last week where that voice deep inside me suddenly took hold of me and made me buy a chastity cage on eBay. I found a Spiderwire steel chastity cage for 20 pounds + P&P - I just couldn't resist the urge. It looked very secure with it's metal frame and solid scrotum ring.

It arrived at the post office a few days later, more specifically saturday morning. I soon managed to get an excuse for driving off to get it just past noon. Sneaking it into the house and hiding it away for later. Of course I couldn't keep my fingers away from it during the day and had to come by every now and then to feel it and fantasize about how it would feel to wear it.

In the afternoon my wife went shopping with the kids and I set the first part of my plan in motion - shaving of the future prisoner. No need to get any hair caught in the device. This alone was very arousing and I just barely couldn't wait until the evening and my wife went to bed.

Finally shortly before midnight, she decided to go to bed and we kissed passionately goodnight. Soon after I was down in the basement holding the metal cage, excited for what was to come. Actually too excited. It took me a lot of pulling and pushing until I almost an hour later managed to get the scrotum ring in place. At that time it din't really occur to me that a 4 cm ring was too small. I just thought that it was because I was so aroused that it felt so tight. Even though it was tight, it felt great and exciting to finally have the ring in place.

The tight scrotum ring didn't help much to cool down my excitement, so it took me more than one hour to slip the cage in place. At 2 o'clock in the morning I can finally place the lock on the cage and let it click. But what now? I had expected some sort of thrill to hear the lock click. But nothing happened. Just a burning sensation from my dick trying to press past the steel bars. A battle that it was not going to win - but it kept on trying.

After about 15-20 minutes I decided that the pain was too much and unlocked the cage again. With a little pulling and pinching it finally slipped off again. My dick being happy to be released again quickly came to life only to cause a very painful erection because of the tight scrotum ring. I just had to wait until it cooled off again so I could remove the ring and get to bed. But that just din't happen. The tightness of the ring prevented it from going limp so it wasn't possible to remove it. It wasn't possible either to try to get a release so it could cool down that way. Whenever I got a full erection it was so painful it was impossible to get release. So I just had to sit and wait again and waiting for the pain to go away.

By now my mind was racing thinking about what I have managed to get myself into. Cursing myself for being so stupid. Afraid what would happen if I couldn't remove it. Eventually my wife would find out, but that was certainly not the best way for her to get introduced to it:

At 4 o'clock in the morning I finally gave in and went to bed. With the ring still in place. I had hoped for some sleep and for things to magically cool down so it just slipped off easily in the morning. But that just didn't happen. Instead I woke up several times during the night with an ever increasing burning pain because of the tight steel ring pressing into my tender flesh. Every time I just cursed at myself for my stupidity.

After just a few hours of interrupted sleep I make a final desperate attempt to remove the ring. Knowing that if it fails, the next step could possibly be to try to cut it myself or going to the hospital and having them remove it. First option seemed impossible with a ring made of solid 8 mm of high grade steel deeply seated in my scrotum. The other option didn't seem to pleasing either - being the laugh for weeks of several nurses. And I would also have a lot of explaining to my wife. So the only real option was to remove it myself how painful it may be.

I managed to fine some massage oil to help with the process. And finally after 15 minutes of pulling and bending and cursing I finally managed to get my dick back through the ring. What a relief! It just felt so great to be out again so I quickly promised myself that I would never ever slip a steel ring on again.

Yeah right! A couple of hours later I'm back on eBay searching for another chastity cage - this time with a 5 cm scrotum ring. I found a different model, but with the same locking system. So I'm hoping the the first cage can be used with this new ring. I have yet to find out. The first auction slipped away because I was outbid, but I managed to find a second one which I won. So now I'm sitting here wednesday evening writing this and hoping for the new chastity cage to arrive in the mail sooner than later.

And what have I learned so far?

Well, the scary experience of being trapped in a solid steel ring doesn't seem to have discouraged me from exploring if chastity will be my solution. My solution for getting back to be the tender and loving husband I used to be... I don't know if it will lead to us having sex again. But, since it's been more than a year since the last time we made love, I don't really think I will loose anything by trying. I have also yet to decide if I will let my wife in on my little chastity secret. First I need to find out for myself if I really want to wear a chastity cage even when I'm in control of the keys. Once I've decided that I will have to make up my mind if I want her to hold the keys...

But before that is going to happen, I have to find a chastity cage that I can actually get into and out of again without hurting myself physically....

 

She doesn't know yet. I'm still trying find out if I really want to go down this path. Once and if I do, I'll try to find a way of letting her know gently.

 

Thank you for the advice. I did try with an athletic cooling bag, but that didn't really work. At least not enough to be able to pull out.