We got caught up last week and I didn't get my milking. I reminded my partner the next day and was told I could wait another week. Which has made me SUPER POUT. So I guess it depends on how much you want to be paddled.
Duty? As KatlynAshe said, Is it done for you or to you? Who gets the "enjoyment" from it. If it's you, you might let it pass as to not be too needy. If it's her, by all means remind her and take it like a good sub.
It's the submissive's duty in our WLM to remind my wife of my up coming maint. session. It's her call after that. Not reminding makes the session more of a punishment than maint. I hate my punishment sessions. The leather strap and cane will turn your ass red with nice big welts to remind you of what you got. I say to respectfully remind her and leave it as that.
How do we know? You need to find out what she wants and expects. Some Dommes want subs or salves to speak up others don’t, you also need to be what the punishment is for not doing what she wants, and what it is if yuh speak up.
It's not punishment . Well in a way it is. Every time I get killed playing XBOX I will receive 1 paddle stroke for not being careful and getting killed. Last week 87. This week 81. Getting better it's just a game we play because I learned a long time ago to behave. I haven't been published in over 2 years.
Husband doesn't remind me, but, if I forget that day, he gets his discipline when I finally remember. Usually, I don't forget, because our usual ritual is when he gets home before me, he has to be in his disciplinary dress and in the corner 20 min before I get home. If I forget about it when I do get home, I'll see his truck and call his name when I get in the house As soon as I see him coming to me in his discipline dress, especially if he's wobbling on those 6" heels, I remember I've decreed a disciplinary session. It's funny, too, because he always curtsies when he sees me in this situation, because he thinks I called him out of his corner on purpose. He doesn't know I forgot and am calling him just to let him know I'm home. We don't do "maintenance" spankings.