Should I, being single, get a device?

I am single (divorced) and have a CB6000 which I wear when it suits me, I don't see why you cannot be the same if that is what you want

 

I'm divorced too. Thought I would spend the rest of my days alone. It turned out differently after a while and now I'm glad I never gave up my chastity project. I have had all sorts of problems and it has taken years to get my chastity device to work. If you have a hard time getting your device working you better start now. Before you know it there is action again and you better be ready. If you're into chastity enough to get a device in the first place I'm sure you're into it for life.

 

I believe that male chastity with or without a keyholder benefits not only the subject himself but others around him in both his work and social circles so I don't think it's pointless.
I'm sure you could manage to find something comfortable that suits you and I'm sure there are plenty of experienced Chaps here who would be willing to advise you.
Besides, you should never say never. You can't know that you'll stay single for ever, furthermore, if you did chance upon the right mistress then you would be in practice already.

 

if you are serious, look at a serious device. Others will report they use a CBxxxx, adn I(when locked by my Mistress) use a Birdlocked, but they are not really designed for long term wear. I'm sure others will recommened looking at Lori's, Mature Metal, and several other quality steel cages...

Good luck, and enjoy the journey!

 

My tips

Get a PA now and let it heal. Extend it to a 2g. Order a Lori tube late 2013 and you should have it about the same time you are healed and extended. If you are lucky you have a fully functioning chastity situation mid 2014. Sounds like a long plan? My experience is that it takes a while if you REALLY want it to work.

 

You don't know whether you'll remain single. However, it sounds as if male chastity will be part of any relationship. So, apart from fulfilling your desires, sorting out a device that works for your would also be preparation for the future.

I suggest that you either buy one or more cheap Chinese devices, or spend your bonus on something custom made.

(I'll resist the urge to bang on about my piercing free security fix...)

 

Well, you know what the issues are. Now set about working out how to get around them.

 

Absolutely. Get a decent one, like MM, fit for 24/7 wear, and lockable, and to your measurements. And you never know, if ever you find a KH all she'll need is her own padlock.

 

As always Ms Amanda's insight and advice is invaluable. See her earlier posts here on a gentleman's duty to the fair sex and on male gallantry and deference, generally. I can certainly vouch that even when single, extended periods of secured uncompromising male chastity generate a passionate inclination to serve, praise and cherish the females within ones social and working environments. Thank You, Ms Amanda.

 

Simple answer...yes!

What have you to loose.

Once you have a decent reliable device in situ you can then get on with life.

 

Mistress. I wonder how it can benefits to the others or social circles ? I always perceived chastity only as a matter between man and woman. It also works for self-caged person as well

 

Being self locked with, ideally, the key held by at 3rd party venue, means that you will not be a 'loose cannon' thinking of your next bedroom conquest. You can centre your mind on seeking out the right life partner/KH so that your 'controlled' status can be maintained into the future. Then your mind can be freed from looking for the next excuse to have intercourse, it falls to your KH to decide if and when that day may be.

Many women outside this lifestyle are fascinated by the idea of the totally controlled penis, so you may get more interest in your situation than you thought might be possible, and not because they wish to ridicule your caged willie. There is the chance that you may be called to employ the power of your tongue in ways you may have only have dreamt.

In my experience many ladies prefer the feeling of secure safety in your company because you are not able to take advantage of them, if they wish to take a relationship to a new level then you are not going to be easily able to release your penis and spoil a fledgling relationship. You may be seen as old fashioned in your dealings with the various women in your life, and many women find this part of the charm of relating to you.

Whilst those you relate to outside of romantic attachments will know you to be one of life's different types. Appreciated for your interest and caring approach; being caged/restrained allows you to concentrate on the parts of their lives that do not normally get aired easily. I am quite perceptive in my dealings with others and have found that being locked down keeps my mind freed from sexual temptation as I am sometimes in situations that I might previously have used to build selfish sensual enjoyment on.

It has been a hard, in all senses, lesson to learn, and I should have locked my cock away years previously. But I knew nothing of encagement of the penis as a means of controlling my sex centred single life-style. The internet has bought a host of new knowledge to many. I'm just sorry I did not know of penis caging/control 30+ years ago.

 

I would be surprised if the vanilla dating world worked like this! Have you found a halfway house?

 

As for the weight of a quality device, with teh right undergarments it will be unnoticable, at least as far as weight.

 

Having a PA done is really no big deal at all. Just look after it and it heals quicker than most if not all other piercings as it not going through a lot of flesh. Well worth having it done and much scope for making most devices more inescapable.

Its your life and if self locking appeals to you then why not. I 'll bet nearly all the guys that have at some time not been in a relationship have done it and the rest have had fantasies about doing so. What's to stop you doing what you want?

Metal devices are heavier, you get used to it. I honestly feel naked and uncomfortable when I'm by myself and not locked. In time you will be able to wear it comfortably 24/7 without support if you want, I did say in time don't rush it.

As for future partners, if they are into sex and you are serious about each other then introducing TTTWD should be no big deal, just do it gradually. If you want a partner where the main focus is on your chastity and not your shared feelings then I guess you need to join all the other folks seeking a KH. I would have thought the relationship first then introduce chastity, and or anything else, approach far more rewarding.

Oh! BTW The very first thing I'd start doing is stop calling yourself divorced, you are single now.

 

Other options, with some self discipline, is Timelock software, or securing keys in less accessible locations (bank deposit box), or both to have reliable backup.

 

I would go with "Un-Owned"...

 

WE all find situations that are assisting in our life-styles. IF I had known more of penis control devices when I was in my late teens and 20's I would have had myself 'locked down' by my then g/f and she'd probably have been my wife now not an ex-g/f that I see and wonder 'what if'. So being a solo/self locker can yield benefits as it is never too early or late.

 

Hey!!

OMG - YES!!!! It's well worth the effort to be locked!!!

AND..... GET a PA if you can! Many think it is the best means of security for trapped ball devices.

BUT..... Your partner may also get a 'kick' out of the piercing.... in terms of both what is does for your chastity AND what it does for HER!!!! I can't say 'ALL' ladies get a benefit from a PA ring, but my wife certainly loves mine (or more correctly, 'hers').

The options for devices are quite mind boggling..... And you're right to be wary of expensive mistakes....

I have proposed elsewhere on this site, go look on the 'DHGate' website under 'male chastity devices'......

You can pick up a metal device for well under $50!! And some of them, like the 'A080' I wear, can be adjusted by shortening or widening the gap between the cage rings!!!!

Metal is a LOT easier to keep clean than polycarbonate/silicone tubes.... And I would hazard one would rather wear the device for as long as possible between removals.... My experiences with the non-metal devices were that they had to be removed frequently for through cleaning.....

That sorta negates the whole chastity impact in my own humble opinion.......

In many ways this is a great way to experiment AND get a good fitting, so if you choose to step up to one of the lovely custom devices out there you would have a lot more confidence having lived with your own 'customised' device for a while beforehand!!!!!

Just watch out for airport metal detectors though!!!!!

Good luck and I hope to hear more of your journey!!!

With the absolute kindest regards.

J

 

yes, i loves my little cage as well.