Secret Santa

I do my very best to share it without pushing it on anyone. I've recommended and introduced it to quite a few people now.
My placement here as a mole by a sleeper cell of an extreme right Feminist group is a bit of a dud in my opinion as I find myself preaching to the converted.
Nonetheless, I do my very best in my daily life to turn people onto it or at least impregnate them with the idea and will continue to do so.
I really hope what you did will help that girl to improve her life.

 

Rob you are a naughty man. I like it.

 

Be prepared for a lot of questions from her!

 

Rob, great story. How are you going to find out if she takes the advise? Keep us informed!

 

if she works out that you gave it to her!

 

Does she know it was from you or asked you about it

 

While you may have had the best of intentions, I think leaving the book for her was in poor judgment. Leaving the book may leave the company and yourself open to a sexual harassment lawsuit.

But that's not what really bothers me.

I'm trying to imagine what she's feeling - struggling with a bad relationship with a coworker, a public scene at an office party, and all during the holidays. I have to suspect that she is feeling pretty frail. I wonder how she will feel receiving this book? Will she be in a state of mind where she can even consider the possibility? My guess is no.

You've intruded on a very personal subject. I think she's more likely to feel violated, embarrassed or ashamed.

I have no doubt you wanted to help. I hope you did, but I suspect you've just caused her more discomfort and pain.

 

I'm with Pawds on this one. Additionally, one must consider that destructive/abusive relationships are not formed on trust and respect; two aspects that absolutely must be present when one wishes to introduce an alternative dynamic such as chastity.

In this instance, we're given a scenario where at dominant and abusive male is in control. The woman, for one reason or another, hasn't told him to go 'do one' so one has to assume that behind the aggressiveness and bullying, there is something worth hanging on for. There is a second scenario but that doesn;t favour the woman so much so I will give her the benefit of the doubt and stick to this one.

Let's say, just for arguments sake, that she does attempt to introduce a chastity dynamic to their relationship. A guy who is used to getting all that he wants, one way or another, suddenly finds himself being controlled. He will become frustrated and his thoughts clouded and if he is already prone to bad behaviour, he will probably start to lash out at her. He might just do it verbally, he might resort to physical violence. Both are unacceptable and would you really want to think of yourself as the catalyst for that sort of eventuality.

Still, that is largely academic, because someone in his position doesn;t just roll over, stick their belly in the air and submit just because 'she got a book that says he should'. He'll scoff at the idea, turn it around and make her out to be some neurotic, insecure little girl and make her feel even worse about the whole thing.

Us here who are in chastity, are in it because we want to be. Even if (in my experience) we find it sometimes to be a challenge not to give in to our basic male instincts, because I want to give this control to my wife, if she holds out on me, I don't turn against her because we entered into this state of living with mutual understanding, respect and trust.

Relationships without those foundations don't usually last too long. And those that do persist generally do so under very tense conditions where mutual understanding is a lost concept.

 

Nice one. Hope she does the needful....:spank: