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I can't help thinking you'd be better speaking to her directly about it. How do you think she us going to react if a stranger contacts her out of the blue and says "bloke x wants you to lock his penis in a cage and keep the key"? She's liable to break the women's 400 metre record

 

This sounds like an incredibly bad idea. I don't see any scenario where this turns out how you want.

 

She would be going pretty quick to break that particular (world) record, set by Marita Koch (from the former East Germany) in 1985.

 

The only way to be fair is the direct approach! Takes a lot of bottle even when you bring it up with your wife let alone a good friend!

 

I think you should give one of us her email address, we then email her that we know you through a chastity site. We then say that you let it slip that you want her to lock you in chastity. So we hacked your computer and found her email and decided to spill the beans without knowledge. We then tell her every kinky thing that you want her to make you do.

Armed with this knowledge she immediately loves it and decides to confront you. You swear that none of it is true, but her knowing so much makes her confident in forcing you to do all sorts of nasty things. This makes her super happy because she had always been a dominant person and she finally found someone that she can sexually manipulate.

Or...

You could just talk to her and tell her you like her. Maybe hold off on her holding the keys to your penis for the second or third date.

 

Hi @rs623582 As others have said, the direct approach is the best way. But remember that you have been thing about this for some time. And your friend probably hasn't - she might not have even heard of male chastity. So if/when you talk to her don't bombard her with all your fantasies. And you probably should think about what is in it for her? Good luck.